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If you asked 100 people on the street, if they had a fear of being alone if they were single, not in a relationship, 99% would say they have no problem being alone or have no fear of loneliness.<\/span><\/p>\n But that would be an absolute, intensely deep lie.<\/span><\/p>\n For the past 30 years, the number one best-selling author, counselor, master Life Coach, and Minister David Essel’s been helping people to get to the root of <\/span>why their relationships are not as healthy<\/span><\/a> as they could or should be.<\/span><\/p>\n Below, David shares his thoughts on the simple fact that most people are scared to be alone in life.<\/span><\/p>\n “For the past 40 years, 30 years as a counselor, master life coach, and minister, I’ve seen belief systems about love and <\/span>relationships change<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n But the one change that has not occurred, and to the demise of our love relationships, is the fear and anxiety of being alone in life.<\/span><\/p>\n I know, I know if you’re reading this like right now and you’re single you’re probably saying “David doesn’t know me, I’m never alone in life, nor do I have a fear of being alone, I’m always comfortable with my own company, I don’t need other people to be happy… Etc. etc.“<\/span><\/p>\n But the truth is quite the opposite.<\/span><\/p>\n Most people can’t stand being alone. <\/b>There’s so much pressure, especially for women, to be in relationships, engaged, or married that for a woman over the age of 25 who is single is looked at as “there must be something wrong with her.“<\/span><\/p>\n So when I work with women who are looking to get into the world of dating, to <\/span>find that perfect partner<\/span><\/a>, I will ask them first to consider taking some serious time off after their last relationship to do the work necessary to release their resentments.<\/span><\/p>\n I would ask them to look in the mirror and to see the role they played that led to the <\/span>dysfunction of the relationship<\/span><\/a> and get to know themselves a little bit more. To get to know themselves as a single woman or a single man.<\/span><\/p>\n And the answer is always the same: “David I am so comfortable being on my own…“, But the reality is quite different; let me give you examples.<\/span><\/p>\n Also watch:<\/b><\/p>\nA major destroyer of potential love relationships<\/h2>\n