{"id":47280,"date":"2020-03-17T06:17:36","date_gmt":"2020-03-17T06:17:36","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=47280"},"modified":"2023-03-17T06:17:36","modified_gmt":"2023-03-17T06:17:36","slug":"is-my-relationship-healthy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/is-my-relationship-healthy\/","title":{"rendered":"Is My Relationship Healthy- Love Life Questions"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

\"Couple<\/p>\n

When we look around and see others, we find some couples are happy, and some are not. It’s easier to judge others looking from outside the box than realize what’s going on under our noses.<\/span><\/p>\n

How about our own relationship?<\/span><\/p>\n

Is it something we care about on a daily basis, or are we living our lives as if it’s background noise?<\/span><\/p>\n

When we are comfortable with our partner, most people believe that it is one of the signs of a healthy relationship. It is true, but not entirely. It could also mean we are neglecting them.<\/span><\/p>\n

When a lover neglects their partner, most of the time, it isn’t done out of malice.<\/span><\/p>\n

They believe that their love is unshakable, and trivial things won’t harm it. They are wrong.<\/span><\/p>\n

How healthy is my relationship?<\/h2>\n

Have you heard the expression, “Too much of a good thing is bad?”<\/span><\/p>\n

That applies to <\/span>trust in relationships<\/span><\/a> too. Even strong foundations crack over time without maintenance. So how do engineers check if foundations are ok? It’s simple, they run a test.<\/span><\/p>\n

Googling “Is my relationship healthy?” probably led you to this post.<\/span><\/p>\n

You already are thinking of a way to quantifiably test if your relationship is doing well or not. If you are looking around without your partner beside you, you started in the wrong direction.<\/span><\/p>\n

Unless you’re a psychic or in a relationship with a slave, testing, “Is my relationship healthy” without your partner is worthless.<\/span><\/p>\n

Having a perfect score on your end and a failing grade when your partner takes the test means your relationship isn’t as healthy as you think.<\/span><\/p>\n

So it’s time to stop with the assumptions and <\/span>start being honest<\/span><\/a>. People lie to themselves, sometimes they do it unconsciously, especially if there’s a lot of trust involved.<\/span><\/p>\n

First off, before taking any sort of psychometric test, remove the assumption that you know what your partner knows. You feel what your partner feels, and you believe what they believe.<\/span><\/p>\n

One of the <\/span>characteristics of a healthy relationship<\/span><\/a> is communication.<\/span><\/p>\n

Love experts always put that on the list because they know you are not a psychic or in a relationship with a slave. Communication is basically sharing information. Knowing what your partner knows straight out of their mouths instead of assuming takes the guesswork out of the way.<\/span><\/p>\n

It is not infallible <\/span>people can lie, that’s why honesty is the best policy<\/b>. Honesty is also instrumental in helping you find out, “Is my relationship healthy”<\/span><\/p>\n

If your partner lies to you<\/span><\/a>, then there’s no more need to take any tests. Your relationship is not healthy. Of course, it’s the same if you lie to them.<\/span><\/p>\n

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