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It happens to the best of us, we finally meet someone single, who checks a lot of boxes in our lists, and makes us feel like we are walking on clouds.<\/span><\/p>\n You talk like a couple, act like a couple, and even have memorable nights together. But you are not a couple. You or your partner-err special friend, has no desire to be in a relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n It is confusing the thoughts and feelings of one partner. While the other stands firm on their belief of “I don’t want a relationship,” even if for all intents and purposes, they are already in one.<\/span><\/p>\n Why would some people claim that “I don’t like being in relationships” while they clearly engage in one or more of them?<\/span><\/p>\n There are valid reasons for not wanting a relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n They may be at a critical juncture of their life<\/b><\/p>\n Reviewing for the Law board exam, preparing to migrate, or raising an infant alone. They could also be busy starting a business or involved in something dangerous (like the military).<\/span><\/p>\n They want to focus their efforts on their current priority and do not want additional commitments that can hinder it. A lot of people would guess that people who are afraid of relationships just <\/span>fear commitment<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n There are even <\/span>studies<\/span><\/a> on such “<\/span>attachment-avoidant<\/b>” or “<\/span>commitment-phobes<\/b>” and why they have anxiety in <\/span>getting into a long-term relationship<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n This is obviously wrong. A person on the verge of earning a law\/medical degree or risking their lives for their country obviously can and will commit. They just won’t commit to a relationship with a particular person.<\/span><\/p>\n One would think that’s not fair. But if you think about it, you wouldn’t commit to anybody else either. You probably know hundreds of people, but in, or were, in a relationship with only a handful.<\/span><\/p>\n People, including you, only engage in relationships by choice<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n It’s that simple.<\/span><\/p>\n When your “special friend” does not want to commit, it’s because they don’t want a long-term relationship with you.<\/b><\/p>\n But <\/span>they respect you enough<\/span><\/a>, not to say it to your face. It is important to check <\/span>what kind of person your “special friend” is<\/b>; if they are the responsible type or just someone who avoids responsibilities as a whole.<\/span><\/p>\n If they are someone who isn’t responsible in other aspects of his life, then you, like everything else, is just a game. Something fun to pass the time. Walk away.<\/span><\/p>\n It gets complicated if they are someone who can take on adult responsibilities and shine at it.<\/span><\/p>\n If your partner is Peter Pan insistent on “I don’t want a relationship”, you have two choices.<\/span><\/p>\n Also watch:<\/strong><\/p>\nReasons not to be in a relationship<\/b><\/h2>\n
Dealing with Peter Pan Syndrome and “Attachment Avoidant”<\/h2>\n
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