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Connection. Intimacy. Acceptance. Being Known. When speaking to couples, so often, these are the words that are used to describe what they envision for their relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n It is a core need of ours to feel attached, connected, and known. And we often seek to meet that need in our <\/span>romantic relationships<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n So if both partners want the same thing, the same connection, why can it so often elude us?<\/span><\/p>\n There are several relationship obstacles and blockers that can hinder us from experiencing the connection we desire and cause us to turn away from our partner instead of towards.<\/span><\/p>\n One of the first relationship hurdles or the <\/span>things that ruin relationships<\/span><\/a> are ‘Unrealistic expectation.’<\/span><\/p>\n We all enter our relationships with dreams, desires, and expectations. But what happens when an expectation isn’t met? What happens when things don’t go the way we had envisioned?<\/span><\/p>\n Frequently, we can find ourselves feeling alone, disappointed, and resentful when our expectations aren’t met, and when our dreams for our relationship don’t come true.<\/span><\/p>\n But, <\/span>it can be helpful to evaluate our expectations and make sure they are realistic.<\/b><\/p>\n For example, many times I have heard a partner say, “Well, it should have been obvious that I needed this,” or “She\/he should have known that this is what I wanted.”<\/span><\/p>\n Sometimes we can have the expectation that our partner knows us so well we shouldn’t have to tell them what we need, want, or desire. They should just do it automatically.<\/span><\/p>\n And, while that sounds very romantic, and as couples grow closer often, there are times they can “just know,” this is not a <\/span>realistic expectation<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n Our partners are not mind readers. They can only know if we communicate our needs.<\/span><\/p>\n No matter how “obvious” it may seem to us, or how “clear” it may be, our partner is not us and has no way of seeing things the same way we do or innately knowing something just because we do.<\/span><\/p>\n When we have <\/span>unrealistic expectations<\/span><\/a>, we set our self up to be disappointed over and over again. And over time, this <\/span>relationship hardship<\/span><\/a> forces us to devalue our partner and grow resentful.<\/span><\/p>\n Also watch:<\/strong><\/span>The expectation blocker<\/span><\/h2>\n