{"id":45769,"date":"2020-02-13T12:30:50","date_gmt":"2020-02-13T12:30:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=45769"},"modified":"2022-11-27T05:42:24","modified_gmt":"2022-11-27T05:42:24","slug":"tips-to-not-feel-let-down-this-valentines-day","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/tips-to-not-feel-let-down-this-valentines-day\/","title":{"rendered":"Expert Tips to Not Feel Let down This Valentine\u2019s Day"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

\"Tips<\/p>\n

Valentine’s Day, the biggest day of the year for lovers, can actually have a negative or dark side as well.<\/span><\/p>\n

And what do we do if we are tired or cynical towards this love holiday?<\/span><\/p>\n

For the past 30 years, the number one best-selling author, counselor, master Life Coach, and minister David Essel have been helping people to deal with their own anger, resentment, and grievances against holidays just like Valentine’s Day.<\/span><\/p>\n

Below, David shares his thoughts if this holiday is one that gets you irritated.<\/span><\/p>\n

“A  few weeks ago, a new client started via Skype with me, and she was just angry as can be when she started talking about the upcoming holiday, Valentine’s Day.<\/span><\/p>\n

“David, my relationships in the past I’ve always been with guys that forget Valentine’s Day, or get drunk or just make a mess out of it.<\/span><\/p>\n

And then I see all these sappy commercials on TV, and people being deeply in love, and I just can’t wait for February 16 to hurry up and get here. “<\/span><\/p>\n

A little jaded? I’d say she was passed a little jaded.<\/span><\/p>\n

But she’s not alone!<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>Valentine’s Day disappointment<\/span><\/h2>\n

Millions of people on Valentine’s Day, just like my client, cannot wait until the next day, when all of the hooplas around love and jewelry and chocolate and flowers finally comes to an end… At least for another 364 days.<\/span><\/p>\n

 Their unhappiness could be just a sign that they’re unhappy with themselves.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Their unhappiness could be a sign that they have resentments and anger at past individuals that they’ve never taken care of… that they really need to.<\/span><\/p>\n

Their frustration and anger at Valentine’s Day could actually come from their childhood. If mom and or dad were negative in nature about these types of holidays, it could be just something stuck in the subconscious that we carry forward into our adult world.<\/span><\/p>\n

People for generations have complained that it’s a materialistic holiday, a worldly celebration, it’s all about spending money… Instead of about the real purpose, it’s supposed to be: the expression of deep love.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>How to not feel let down this Valentine’s Day<\/span><\/h2>\n

\"How<\/p>\n

It is natural for you to get disturbed if either your girlfriend or boyfriend forgot valentine’s Day or because your boyfriend didn’t do anything for Valentine’s Day.<\/span><\/p>\n

Whatever be the reasons, if you are jaded regarding this romantic holiday, consider the following ideas not to feel let down.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>Sleep it away<\/span><\/h2>\n

Just go to sleep for the Day. Just pull the covers over your head, take a personal day off,<\/strong> so you don’t have to be out in the environment of seeing people buying candy and handing flowers to their loved ones, etc. <\/span><\/p>\n

Just sleep it away, you’ll be fine on February 16.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>Evaluate your grievances<\/span><\/h2>\n

Evaluate your grievances, evaluate your jadedness, evaluate your negativity regarding love, relationships, and Valentine’s Day.<\/span><\/p>\n

Work with a professional counselor, coach, or minister in order to get to the bottom line of why you’re so jaded about this one day a year.<\/span><\/p>\n

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