

{"id":44654,"date":"2020-01-07T06:29:52","date_gmt":"2020-01-07T06:29:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=44654"},"modified":"2022-12-11T15:03:49","modified_gmt":"2022-12-11T15:03:49","slug":"is-a-marriage-preparation-course-compulsory","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/is-a-marriage-preparation-course-compulsory\/","title":{"rendered":"Is a Marriage Preparation Course Compulsory? 10 Benefits"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-44656 size-full\" title=\"Is a Marriage Preparation Course Compulsory\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/Is-a-Marriage-Preparation-Course-Compulsory.jpg\" alt=\"Is a Marriage Preparation Course Compulsory\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A marriage preparation course is designed to help couples prepare for the ups and downs of the journey called marriage. While taking a marriage preparation course online is an easy and convenient way to strengthen your relationship, whether it is compulsory or not is a common question.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There are many reasons why individuals may take a pre-marriage course. For some, it may be church or state-sanctioned in the form of Pre Cana classes (marriage preparation course for Catholics), while other responsible adults are just looking for advice on how to have the best marriage possible.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Taking such a course builds a strong foundation for your marriage and shows your commitment to the relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Imagine going to the Olympics without training for the events<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Imagine trying to make a career without any education whatsoever<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Imagine trying to become the President without ever learning about history<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Then what makes us think that formalizing the relationship by tying the knot can suddenly prepare us for the times ahead?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It doesn&rsquo;t.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Now let&rsquo;s dive deep into why taking a pre-marriage course is important for couples to build healthier and happier relationships.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Reasons-for-trying-a-marriage-preparation-course\"><\/span><b>Reasons for trying a marriage preparation course<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You may have been planning the D-day of union with your partner for days, months or years and are ready for &ldquo;Till Death Do Us Part.&rdquo; If so, you aren&rsquo;t alone!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Couples mostly foresee and plan for the first few months or years of marriage, i.e., where to live, where to travel, how happy they would be by finally being together with their partner, brief discussions about kids and money matters, etc.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But what happens after the <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-long-does-the-honeymoon-phase-last\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">relationship&rsquo;s honeymoon phase<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> is over and you have to settle down with your partner after marriage? Physiological <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/health.clevelandclinic.org\/what-is-the-honeymoon-phase\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">changes<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> take place at that time, which can affect your relationship. The question is &ndash; will you be ready to handle those changes?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Will your relationship struggle in the face of changed expectations or will it be smooth sailing for you and your partner?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A pre-marriage course prepares you for such eventualities and more.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You can learn a lot in an <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/marriage-courses\/save-my-marriage-course\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">online marriage course<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> before you tie the knot. <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC2785123\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Studies<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> show that relational pronouns matter in a marriage. For example, couples who use the term &ldquo;we&rdquo; (and other couple-based pronouns) instead of &ldquo;I&rdquo; in everyday speech result in more positive couple behavior.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">These findings indicate that language and expressions of love and affection are important for a healthy, lasting marriage. Turning yourselves from an &ldquo;I&rdquo; to a &ldquo;We&rdquo; is just one of the things you will learn in a pre-marriage class.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here is everything you need to know about taking a marriage preparation course.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-44658 size-full\" title=\"When is a marriage course compulsory\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/When-is-a-marriage-course-compulsory.jpg\" alt=\"When is a marriage course compulsory\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Is-a-marriage-preparation-course-compulsory\"><\/span><b>Is a marriage preparation course compulsory?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/aifs.gov.au\/sites\/default\/files\/publication-documents\/RP28.pdf\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Australian Institute of Family Studies<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> found that adaptability is essential to a lasting marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Why is this important? Because who you are at the beginning of your marriage is not always who you end up being years later.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">By taking the marriage preparation course, couples learn how to grow together and be adaptable to the changes that may come their way.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Most couples make pre-marriage classes a personal choice. They want to prepare themselves for marriage by learning communication techniques and <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/conflict-resolution-skills\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">conflict resolution skills<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Pre-marriage classes also help them create common goals regarding finances and family.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But there are some circumstances where a marriage course is compulsory. For example, those who belong to the Catholic Church and plan to get married must complete a Catholic marriage preparation course.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There is also a state-sanctioned marriage preparation programme that gives a discount on the application for a marriage license to couples.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">After going through this, if you decide to take up the course, here&rsquo;s what&rsquo;s in store for you.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-to-expect-from-a-marriage-preparation-course\"><\/span><b>What to expect from a marriage preparation course?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You may wonder what to expect if you have never taken an online marriage preparation course.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Throughout the lesson plan, couples will learn everything they need to know about building a strong and <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/15-key-secrets-to-a-successful-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">successful marriage<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For this, couples need to sit down and do a self-paced course. The lessons contain videos, questionnaires, and activities to help couples learn more about each other. Topics covered in the course are:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Creating shared goals for a happier future<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Learning the importance of compassion and empathy<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Communication techniques<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The importance of emotional and physical intimacy<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How traditions play a role in your family life<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"10-benefits-of-an-online-marriage-preparation-course\"><\/span><b>10 benefits of an online marriage preparation course<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You might be wondering, &ldquo;Do you have to do a marriage course or can you skip it?&rdquo; You can indeed get married without attending any preparation courses. But attending one can make your marital life much better.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Marriage preparation courses have several benefits that can help you prepare for the issues that might arise in your marriage. Here are some of them:<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. Get on the same page<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You likely know your partner well when you get engaged, but there is always more to learn!&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A marriage preparation course helps couples get on the same page about their future while <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/how-can-couples-learn-the-exquisite-skill-of-communication\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">learning communication<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and conflict resolution techniques to help them deal with a marriage&rsquo;s inevitable ups and downs.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>2. Establish a stronger connection<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Such courses also help them connect in a better way on an <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/emotional-intimacy\/how-to-connect-with-a-man-on-an-emotional-level\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">emotional level<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> as they allow couples a chance to express their views and feelings in front of each other. They might have been hiding or ignoring these to please their partners.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Marriage preparation courses allow couples to be vulnerable in front of each other. They can bond with each other on a deeper level because of the chance to be open about their fears and expectations that the course provides.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>3. Prepare for future issues<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Even if couples have been dating for many years or have decided to get married after dating for a short time and believe that they &ldquo;know&rdquo; their partners, marriage prep courses can help them.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Marriage preparation courses take a deeper look at issues that may arise in the future (finance, intimacy, communication, etc.).&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/finance\/couples-guide-to-financially-preparing-for-the-future\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A Couple&rsquo;s Guide to Financially Preparing for the Future Together<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>4. Convenient to schedule<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You can decide your schedule if you take a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/marriage-courses\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">marriage course online<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> instead of in person. You can also stop and start the lesson plans at your convenience.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When preparing for a wedding, you may have many things that require your time and attention. Therefore, an online marriage course can be more practical and time-efficient.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>5. More familiar environment<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Shy couples will also appreciate the comfortable atmosphere that online marriage preparation courses offer. No counselor is present, so you can be as open and vulnerable with your spouse as you wish.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>6. No additional costs<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Online courses are also convenient for couples who might have to travel or already have children since there will be no need for childcare or transportation when taking the classes.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>7. Easy to access<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Looking for online marriage preparation courses is much more convenient as you can do the research on them easily and compare course details and costs. You can decide which course best fits you and then make a call.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>8. Fun and engaging<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Moreover, the courses are set up to be fun, engaging, and enjoyable. They are specifically designed, edited and enhanced so that couples remain engaged and attentive to what the course offers.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/romance\/questions-to-ask-a-girl\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">21 Questions to Ask a Girl to Keep the Conversation Going<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>9. Less fear of judgment<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Any marriage preparation course can make you feel vulnerable and insecure about how the person conducting the session sees you.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When the course is taking place through an online medium, it can make you feel more secure. It can help you feel less exposed and limit your <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/what-to-do-if-you-have-a-fear-of-physical-intimacy\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">fear of judgment<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Check out this video to learn more about how to get rid of the fear of judgment:<\/span><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/iCmjA_sM4Nk\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h3><b>10. Less time consuming<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/best-online-marriage-course\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Online courses<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> are designed to be time efficient and compact. They try to edit out the unnecessary tangents and try to provide the couple with the relevant information in the most effective form.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Furthermore, since these marriage preparation courses are online, they cut out the time it would take for you to travel to a therapist or counselor. You can complete the course from wherever you are.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/marriage-courses\/pricing\/\"><b>Enroll in a marriage course today to build your desired relationship!<\/b><\/a><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How-long-is-a-marriage-preparation-course\"><\/span><b>How long is a marriage preparation course?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In a study on marital happiness, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/journals.sagepub.com\/doi\/abs\/10.1177\/026540759301000205\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">SAGE Journals<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> randomly assigned married couples to engage in activities that were either exciting or pleasant.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Results show that couples who engaged in exciting activities had higher levels of <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/marriage-satisfaction\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">marital satisfaction<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> than those who spent mundane but pleasant times together.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Taking an online marriage course should be considered an exciting new adventure. You are getting to know your spouse on a deeper level for a day, a week, a month, or several months.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The length of an online marriage course is entirely up to the couple. Marriage.com&rsquo;s marriage courses last anywhere from 2 to 5 hours, to be attempted by a couple at their own pace.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"FAQ\"><\/span><b>FAQ<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<h3><b>How long before marriage do you start a marriage preparation course?<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Consider taking a marriage preparation right after you decide to <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/pre-marriage\/why-get-married\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">get married<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. The sooner you start attending these sessions, the more promptly you can start working on your relationship.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The courses themselves take a limited amount of time. However, the work and improvements they compel you to make can take a while to implement. So, start the course at the earliest possible chance.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Summing-up\"><\/span><b>Summing up<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Going through marital classes will show your spouse-to-be that you care and help you get on the same page about the future of your relationship.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So it is not a question whether a marriage preparation course is mandatory. Taking such a course is necessary to ensure that the castle of romance you build has a strong foundation.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Whether you&rsquo;re searching for a marriage preparation course online for free or you have the resources to devote time and finances to your lessons, there has never been a better time to take a pre-marriage course.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>A marriage preparation course is designed to help couples prepare for the ups and downs of the journey called marriage. While taking a marriage preparation course online is an easy and convenient way to strengthen your relationship, whether it is compulsory or not is a common question. There are many reasons why individuals may take a pre-marriage course. For some, it may be church or state-sanctioned in the form of Pre Cana classes (marriage preparation course for Catholics), while other responsible adults are just looking for advice on how to have the best marriage possible.&nbsp; Taking such a course builds <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":675,"featured_media":44656,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[21],"tags":[2618],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/44654"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/675"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=44654"}],"version-history":[{"count":11,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/44654\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":81766,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/44654\/revisions\/81766"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/44656"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=44654"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=44654"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=44654"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}