

{"id":44249,"date":"2019-12-20T08:53:48","date_gmt":"2019-12-20T08:53:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=44249"},"modified":"2026-02-05T10:34:28","modified_gmt":"2026-02-05T10:34:28","slug":"discover-10-real-reasons-why-your-marriage-is-falling-apart","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/save-your-marriage\/discover-10-real-reasons-why-your-marriage-is-falling-apart\/","title":{"rendered":"Discover 10 Real Reasons Why Your Marriage Is Falling Apart"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-43441 size-full\" title=\"Discover 10 Real Reasons Why Your Marriage Is Falling Apart\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/The-bargaining-phase.jpg\" alt=\"Discover 10 Real Reasons Why Your Marriage Is Falling Apart\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;When you make the sacrifice in marriage, you&rsquo;re sacrificing not to each other but to unity in a relationship.&rdquo;- <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Joseph_Campbell\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Joseph Campbell<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When a couple decides to get married, they are all hoping for their own happy life together.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Never would a couple expect a marriage that leads to divorce.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If we knew that this union would end in divorce, would we even bother to spend money, invest in love and even time?&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Though sometimes, the sad reality of life happens and you find that your <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">marriage is falling apart<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When does a relationship begin to fail? What are the top reasons why relationships fail and can we do something about it?&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Is-my-marriage-falling-apart\"><\/span>Is my marriage falling apart?<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do you feel that your <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">marriage is falling apart<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">?&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Have you been noticing drastic changes from what used to be a happy and understanding marriage? Have you begun asking yourself the causes of relationship failure and if there is a way to save it?&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/TkyW7qGlrN8?si=gUE6I1FgBlgJeLte\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\">&#65279;<\/span><\/iframe><\/p>\n<div class=\"subscribeYT_highlight\"><div class=\"subscribe_channel\">\r\n            <div class=\"subscribe_text\">Join millions <span class=\"sub_text1\">building healthier, happier<\/span> <span class=\"sub_text2\"> relationships.<\/span><\/div>\r\n            <a class=\"subscribe-btn-in-content\" href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/@Marriagedotcom?sub_confirmation=1\" target=\"_blank\">\r\n            <img src=\"\/images\/youtube_icon_small.png\" class=\"icon-left\" alt=\"YouTube\">\r\n            <span>Subscribe<\/span>\r\n            <img src=\"\/images\/bell_icon_new.svg\" class=\"icon-right\" alt=\"Extra Icon\">\r\n            <\/a>\r\n        <\/div><\/div>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you have been thinking about these things, then there is a chance that you are feeling why relationships are<\/span> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">falling apart and it has started.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">According to the <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.apa.org\/topics\/divorce\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">American Psychological Association<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, about 40-50% of marriages in the United States alone end up in divorce.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Nobody wants this to happen and even for some, knowing that their <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">marriage is falling apart<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> can cause a feeling of denial and hurt.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There can be many reasons why relationships fail nowadays.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That is why it&rsquo;s important to be aware, in that way, you can still do something about it. It&rsquo;s <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/key-to-long-term-relationship-success\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">your marriage<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and it&rsquo;s just right that you do your best to fight for it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Top reasons why relationships fail<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How can you tell whether your marriage is experiencing a relationship breakdown?&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The good thing here is that the reasons why relationships fail have signs and if you are aware, then you can act on it.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here are 10 reasons relationships fail<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1-You%E2%80%99re-not-growing-together\"><\/span>1. You&rsquo;re not growing together<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-43790 size-full\" title=\"You&rsquo;re not growing together\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/Do-You-Fear-Marriage-After-a-Divorce.jpg\" alt=\"You&rsquo;re not growing together\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p>That overall feeling that you&rsquo;re not growing with your spouse. Many years have passed yet; you&rsquo;re still in the same situation as you were before, with no improvements, no goals, and no focus.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">marriage is falling apart <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">when you get the realization that you are not where you want to be.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2-You%E2%80%99re-focusing-on-the-%E2%80%9Cused-to%E2%80%9D-phrases\"><\/span>2. You&rsquo;re focusing on the &ldquo;used to&rdquo; phrases<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Why do relationships fail?&nbsp;<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is when you <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.huffpost.com\/entry\/12-worst-relationship-mindsets_b_807926\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">focus on the negative <\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">instead of the positive side of your marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you come to the point where you always notice how your spouse &ldquo;used to&rdquo; be like this, and like that. When all you get is disappointments after disappointments. What happens to your present situation?&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3-You-are-no-longer-connected\"><\/span>3. You are no longer connected<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-43926 size-full\" title=\"You are no longer connected\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/Filing-for-Divorce-in-Montana.jpg\" alt=\"You are no longer connected\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You may start feeling that your <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">marriage is falling apart <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">once you don&rsquo;t feel that &ldquo;connection&rdquo; any longer. It&rsquo;s one of the most common reasons why you feel that the person you married is a total stranger.&nbsp;<\/span><\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do you notice relationships falling apart because people change?&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"4-One-sided-marriage\"><\/span>4. One-sided marriage<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.oprahdaily.com\/life\/relationships-love\/a29153727\/signs-of-one-sided-relationship\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">one-sided marriage<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> can be draining.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is one of the most common reasons why relationship end and fact is; no one wants to be in a one-sided relationship.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s when you&rsquo;re the only person who thinks for the relationship, who makes constant efforts, and the one who seems to care about your future together.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5-You-honestly-don%E2%80%99t-care-anymore\"><\/span>5.&nbsp;<b>You honestly don&rsquo;t care anymore<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One of the top reasons why relationships fail is when you just feel that you no longer care about your spouse anymore.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s not that you&rsquo;re in love with someone else or you hate the person, it&rsquo;s either you&rsquo;ve been feeling fed up or you just fell out of love.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"6-No-more-intimacy\"><\/span>6. No more intimacy<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Intimacy is <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/intimacy\/5-reasons-why-theres-intimacy-missing-in-your-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">very important<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> in one&rsquo;s relationship.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">From physical intimacy to psychological and emotional intimacy, if a relationship is lacking this, then it means your <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">marriage is falling apart<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Just like a plant, it needs constant nurturing, and intimacies at many levels are the factors that strengthen any relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Also watch: Top 6 <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/save-your-marriage\/reasons-why-marriages-fail\/\">Reasons Why Your Marriage<\/a> Is Falling Apart<\/span><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/x7N2pu1EA1s\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"7-You-always-have-misunderstandings\"><\/span>7. You always have misunderstandings<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You always have misunderstandings. It makes you so tired and every time you try to talk with each other, you end up having misunderstandings.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Is this one of the reasons to end a relationship? Is it still worth fighting for?&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"8-A-heavy-feeling-or-negative-vibes\"><\/span>8. A heavy feeling or negative vibes<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You go home and you don&rsquo;t feel happy.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Even to the extent of seeing your spouse gives you that heavy and negative feeling. In fact, everyone starts wondering why you always seem hot-tempered.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s because you are no longer excited to go home. This is one of the things that inevitably leads to the realization that your <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">marriage is falling apart<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"9-You-are-no-longer-happy\"><\/span>9. You are no longer happy<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-44207 size-full\" title=\"You are no longer happy\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/10-Essentials-for-Resolving-Conflict-With-Kindness.jpg\" alt=\"You are no longer happy\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One of the final things that you should realize why do relationships end is when you no longer feel happy.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The spark is gone, the urge to be with your spouse is no longer there, and most of all, you don&rsquo;t see growing old with the person anymore.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"10-Maybe-it-is-time-to-let-go\"><\/span>10. Maybe it is time to let go<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One of the hardest decisions to make when you&rsquo;ve realized that you&rsquo;re no longer happy is if it&rsquo;s really the time to let go.&nbsp;<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You begin to ask yourself if it&rsquo;s still worth it to fight for your marriage or to talk to your spouse about<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/therapy\/how-to-find-the-best-therapist\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> going to therapy<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Everything about the situation will make you think about getting a divorce, but is it really the best decision to make?&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Marriage doesn&rsquo;t have to be perfect; in fact, many couples have dealt with the feeling that their <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">marriage is falling apart <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">but, were able to do something about it.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You both need to want to change your current status and your current relationship; you both need to work on it together.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The truth is, the real reason why your <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">marriage is falling apart<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> now is that you&rsquo;re not willing to work on it. The real reason why you are in this situation is that you are focusing on what is wrong instead of how you can make it right.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, if you want to change and still work on this marriage, then it&rsquo;s time to focus on how you can make your relationship work.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&ldquo;When you make the sacrifice in marriage, you&rsquo;re sacrificing not to each other but to unity in a relationship.&rdquo;- Joseph Campbell When a couple decides to get married, they are all hoping for their own happy life together.&nbsp; Never would a couple expect a marriage that leads to divorce.&nbsp; If we knew that this union would end in divorce, would we even bother to spend money, invest in love and even time?&nbsp; Though sometimes, the sad reality of life happens and you find that your marriage is falling apart.&nbsp; When does a relationship begin to fail? 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