

{"id":44196,"date":"2019-12-18T12:39:04","date_gmt":"2019-12-18T12:39:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=44196"},"modified":"2023-06-11T07:14:16","modified_gmt":"2023-06-11T07:14:16","slug":"positive-methods-to-help-make-your-marriage-better","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/positive-methods-to-help-make-your-marriage-better\/","title":{"rendered":"Positive Methods to Help Make Your Marriage Better and Grow Together"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-43569 size-full\" title=\"Positive Methods to Help Make Your Marriage Better\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/The-Healing-Power-of-Our-Stories.jpg\" alt=\"Positive Methods to Help Make Your Marriage Better\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">All marriages have ebbs and flows, moments of deep connection, and moments of conflict. You might not have wanted to think about this on the day you took your vows, right?&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you said &ldquo;I do,&rdquo; you probably imagined a long, calm stream of happy love, home, and hearth-building, with awesome children and a picture-perfect life.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Hopefully, most of your marriage has been more ups than downs. Regardless of where you are in the cycle of married life, there are always ways to<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/save-your-marriage\/steps-to-a-better-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> make your marriage better.<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Life is about personal growth, and <\/span><b>making marriage better is part of that personal growth.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Let&rsquo;s look at some enjoyable steps to <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Improve-Your-Marriage\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">building a better marriage.<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Tips-to-have-a-better-marriage\"><\/span>Tips to have a better marriage<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Making marriage better is not about a one-time event. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sure, you and your spouse would enjoy a surprise getaway to that resort you&rsquo;ve been dreaming about in Hawaii. And who wouldn&rsquo;t love to come home to an amazing<\/span> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">candlelight dinner<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> for two, kids stashed away at grandmas?&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But the reality is, if you are genuinely invested in making the marriage better, you need to practice habits. Habits that you will use daily, weekly, monthly. To build a better marriage, these habits need to be applied consistently. Without that, they hold no strengthening power.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Also watch:<\/b><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/aRcD31sA2a0\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How-to-improve-your-marriage\"><\/span>How to improve your marriage<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Let&rsquo;s talk about sex. If you are like most married couples, your lives are super busy. Between children, careers, aging parents, and social commitments, your sex life has likely dropped off from what it was in the early days of your relationship.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is essential to pay attention to the physical side of your relationship, because not only is that one of the best<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.telegraph.co.uk\/health-fitness\/body\/the-eight-surprising-health-benefits-of-getting-married\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> benefits of married life<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, <\/span><b>sex is the glue that can strengthen a relationship <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">that might be seeing a decrease in its connectivity.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here&rsquo;s some good news: you don&rsquo;t need to have quality, earth-shattering sex every time. So think again the next time you turn to your partner and say there isn&rsquo;t enough time to get down and dirty. Just a quickie, or some tight cuddles, or some mutual stroking still counts as sex!&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Instead of taking 10 minutes to scroll through your social media sites, use those 10 minutes to get naked and love on each other.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1-Move-together\"><\/span>1. Move together<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-44906\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/Move-together.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Researchers have found that couples who take walks together report higher marital satisfaction than couples who do their separate power walks.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For a better marriage, take a daily stroll. Not only does walking help you stay in shape, but your shared activity promotes conversation.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Use this time to share your day or talk about upcoming projects. Just a 30-minute daily walk together can promote<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/healthy-relationships\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> better health<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and improve your marriage!<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2-The-importance-of-play\"><\/span>2. The importance of play<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-44907\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/The-importance-of-play.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One thing that sometimes gets lost in a long-term marriage is the playful aspect of your early dating days. Remember when you sent silly memes, or shared dumb jokes, or laughed at each other&rsquo;s imitations of, say, politicians?&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Why not order some fun onesies for the next time you are planning a Netflix weekend. Seeing your spouse all cozy in his fox onesie will make you laugh and make you feel closer.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3-Boost-each-other%E2%80%99s-each-day\"><\/span>3. Boost each other&rsquo;s each day<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-43972 size-full\" title=\"Boost each other's each day\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/Learning-How-to-Love-Trust-Without-Being-Insecure-With-My-Husband.jpg\" alt=\"Boost each other's each day\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">An easy and positive way to make your marriage better is to voice your admiration to your spouse.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Everyone likes to have the light shine on them, and telling your spouse how proud you are when they mention a goal they&rsquo;ve just met at work, or when you watch them help your child with their homework can go a long way to strengthening your marital happiness.<\/span><b> Be each other&rsquo;s biggest admirers!<\/b><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"4-Take-a-stroll-down-memory-lane\"><\/span>4. Take a stroll down memory lane<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-44909\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/take-a-stroll-down-memory-lane.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Couples who talk glowingly about how they met are more likely to be happy in their marriage. From time to time, take out your photo albums or scroll back on your Facebook timeline and look at pictures from years ago.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The memories and laughter will be warm and rich, and you&rsquo;ll end up feeling just a little closer for having relived these precious moments together.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5-Be-a-good-listener\"><\/span>5. Be a good listener<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-43735 size-full\" title=\"Be a good listener\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/Make-a-Difference-in-Marriage-by-Overcoming-Barriers-of-Communication.jpg\" alt=\"Be a good listener\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Nothing makes you feel closer to a person than knowing they truly hear from you. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When your spouse is talking to you, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/\"><b>be present and attentive<\/b><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Don&rsquo;t be checking your phone, even if a message has just come in.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Don&rsquo;t be prepping dinner, or half-watching your favorite series. He wants you to hear what he is saying, so turn towards him, look him in the eyes as he speaks, and acknowledge that you are listening by nodding or merely saying, &ldquo; Go on. What happened next?&rdquo;&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Also, if they are venting, you don&rsquo;t need to try and offer up solutions (unless they ask for some.) Merely saying that you understand is often enough.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"6-Ask-how-you-can-do-better\"><\/span>6. Ask how you can do better<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-44908\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/Ask-how-you-can-do-better.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"840\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A great question to ask which will help <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.gottman.com\/blog\/the-top-7-ways-to-improve-your-marriage\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">improve your marriage<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> is this one: &ldquo;Tell me what you need more of.&rdquo;&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is a simple question that can open up a pleasant conversation, where you<\/span><b> exchange honest words <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">about what you would like to see more of from your partner.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The answers can be so revealing, from &ldquo;I need more help with the household chores&rdquo; to &ldquo;I&rsquo;d love it if we could try some new erotic things in the bedroom.&rdquo; Whatever the response is to &ldquo;Tell me what you need more of,&rdquo; you can guarantee that it will help <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/make-physical-relations-with-husband\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">make your marriage better.<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>All marriages have ebbs and flows, moments of deep connection, and moments of conflict. You might not have wanted to think about this on the day you took your vows, right?&nbsp;&nbsp; When you said &ldquo;I do,&rdquo; you probably imagined a long, calm stream of happy love, home, and hearth-building, with awesome children and a picture-perfect life. Hopefully, most of your marriage has been more ups than downs. Regardless of where you are in the cycle of married life, there are always ways to make your marriage better. Life is about personal growth, and making marriage better is part of that <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1419,"featured_media":43569,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[9],"tags":[2567],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/44196"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1419"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=44196"}],"version-history":[{"count":6,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/44196\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":51459,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/44196\/revisions\/51459"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/43569"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=44196"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=44196"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=44196"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}