

{"id":44192,"date":"2019-12-18T11:54:16","date_gmt":"2019-12-18T11:54:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=44192"},"modified":"2025-05-07T04:31:09","modified_gmt":"2025-05-07T04:31:09","slug":"rules-for-a-happy-marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/rules-for-a-happy-marriage\/","title":{"rendered":"10 Golden Rules for a Happy Marriage That Lasts"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-42735 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/How-to-Make-Your-Husband-Happy-%E2%80%93-Five-Tested-Ways.jpg\" alt=\"8 Rules for a Happy Marriage \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is true that when two people with different personalities start to live under one roof, clashes are bound to happen. However, this doesn&rsquo;t imply that they can&rsquo;t be happy.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There are some useful rules for a happy marriage that can guide couples to work on their relationship healthily and joyously.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">To build a happy marriage, both partners should accept each other for who they&rsquo;re. They should respect the differences as well.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Keep reading this article to learn more about the golden rules for a happy marriage. It will give you the right foundation for your marriage.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-are-the-golden-rules-of-marriage\"><\/span><b>What are the golden rules of marriage?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The golden rules for a successful marriage are the basic foundations of a healthy marriage. They define what is essential for a marriage to work and the chance to be beneficial for both partners.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The golden rules for a happy marriage ensure that both partners feel loved, cared for, respected and validated. It helps them avoid bad habits that might harm the relationship in the long run.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"10-golden-rules-for-a-happy-marriage\"><\/span><b>10 golden rules for a happy marriage<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There are certain <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/rules-for-a-healthy-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">rules for a successful relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Let&rsquo;s examine the rules for a happy marriage that these few couples follow.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Some of them are surely easy to follow.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. Acceptance<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Most couples worry about how to have a lasting marriage.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The moment they see a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/secrets-of-happy-couples\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">happy couple<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, they wonder about the secret behind it. Well, one of the basic rules for a happy marriage is to accept the partner the way they are.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In most cases, either of them tries to change the other in some way or another. It can be a habit or behavior.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you start accepting your partner for how they are, you will see the change in your married life. Suddenly, the agitation will be replaced with happiness. This change will slowly take over your life, and you will live a happy married life.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/developing-acceptance-skills-in-a-relationship\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Developing Acceptance Skills in a Relationship<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>2. Find your happiness<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Another rule to have a lasting marriage is to find the reason for your happiness.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">No one can live in an unhappy and <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC5293605\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">stressful marriage<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> at all. There is always a reason that is holding a couple together. It could be the child, how your partner makes you feel, the security they provide you, or the comfort they give you.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you&rsquo;re eagerly looking for steps to a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/lessons-for-a-happy-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">happy marriage<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, find the reason for your happiness.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you have failed to find one, then take a call.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>3. Appreciate the imperfections<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One of the secrets to a long, happy marriage is to adore the imperfections in your partner.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s a universal truth that no one is perfect. When you fall in love, you may start looking at all the positives in a person, but the moment you walk into a relationship, the imperfections start to show up, which ruins the beautiful dream you were looking forward to.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The best way to hold on is to acknowledge and accept imperfections with open arms.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A perfect person is a myth.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Imperfections make us human and let&rsquo;s adore this. You should fear someone who is too perfect for you. Perhaps, they&rsquo;re hiding something.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">According to <\/span><a class=\"editor-rtfLink\" href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/experts\/jenni-jacobsen\" target=\"_blank\"><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">Jennifer Jacobsen Schulz<\/span><\/a><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">, LCSW:<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">Sometimes, marriages fall apart when the honeymoon stage ends, and people begin to realize that their partner isn&rsquo;t perfect. <\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">T<\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">hese imperfections are inevitable, and they don&rsquo;t mean the marri<\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">age<\/span><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\"> is doomed.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h3><b>4. Communication<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One of the golden happy marriage rules is strong communication between a couple, as it <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC4852543\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">can determine<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> marital satisfaction levels.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">No relationship can survive without healthy and honest communication. A couple must share their feelings and emotions with others.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They should share how they feel, what they feel and when they feel it. Without this, the rules of a happy marriage are incomplete.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>5. Exciting sexual life<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A happy sexual life is part of the rules for a happy marriage.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You may have an amazingly comfortable rapport with your partner, but if you have a dissatisfying sexual life with them, happiness can&rsquo;t be achieved.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One of the golden rules of marriage that can&rsquo;t be ignored is that you must pay attention to your sex life.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Try out new things. Experiment on the bed. Try to find out what suits you both.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/intimacy\/healthy-sexual-relationship\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">10 Characteristics of a Healthy Sexual Relationship<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>6. Respect each other&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Good <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/best-marriage-advice\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">marriage advice<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> showcases that loving someone and respecting someone are two different things.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Often couples are in love, but they fail to respect each other. When you respect each other, you respect the other person&rsquo;s views, privacy, perspective, and thoughts.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">These small things can have a huge difference in overall satisfaction and happiness.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Jenni Schulz highlights that:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>Contempt, the opposite of respect, is a driving force in marital dissolution.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/reasons-why-respect-is-important-in-a-relationship\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">10 Reasons Why Respect Is Important in a Relationship<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-32229\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/Headstart-to-Happy-Relationships-and-a-More-Satisfying-Life.jpg\" alt=\"what makes a happy marriage\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<h3><b>7. Express love daily<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What makes a happy marriage? Expressing love daily.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It makes no sense if you love your partner but are not expressing it.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Expressions can be helping them with daily chores, surprising them often, cooking something good, going on a holiday, or doing exciting things.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">These small <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/gestures-to-make-your-wife-or-girlfriend-happy\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">gestures<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> show how much you love them. It is indeed one of the prominent rules for a happy marriage.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>8. Learn something every day, together<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Usually, couples complain there is nothing new to do or discover about each other.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One of the rules for a happy marriage states that you should both enroll in an activity together. The more you <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/spending-time-together\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">spend time<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> with each other, the more you learn about each other. Besides, through these activities, you will be enhancing your personality.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>9. Practice forgiveness<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Trying to figure out how to have a happy marriage? Make forgiveness your superpower.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Forgiveness is a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.psychalive.org\/forgiveness-the-secret-to-a-healthy-relationship\/#:~:text=Studies%20have%20shown%20that%20couples,likely%20to%20enjoy%20longer%20lives.\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">way to move on<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> from past issues and toward a better future. A lack of forgiveness can create resentment, harming the relationship in the long run.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>10. Apologize<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We all make mistakes occasionally, but our ego might stop us from asking for <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/forgiveness\/how-to-practice-forgiveness-in-a-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">forgiveness<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, how to be a happy married couple? Learn to apologize when you realize that you&rsquo;ve made a mistake. The apology can be a healing balm that makes your partner feel better.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Apologizing for your mistakes makes you more humble and also works to <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-to-make-your-relationship-better\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">make your relationship better<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> over time.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Watch this video to learn the best way to apologize to your partner:<\/span><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/q-ApAdEOm5s\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-makes-a-woman-happy-in-marriage\"><\/span><b>What makes a woman happy in marriage?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Several factors can make a woman happy in a marriage. Having a partner that truly loves, respects, supports and cares for you can be some such factors.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A woman is usually happy with a partner who listens to her, validates her feelings, shares mutual <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/7-important-tips-to-build-trust-in-relationships\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">trust<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and with whom she has a genuine connection.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Final-thoughts\"><\/span><b>Final thoughts<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s not easy to be happily married.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You both should put in the effort to make things work. The rules mentioned above for a happy marriage can be a good start to consider.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Remember to respect each other, establish strong communication, be expressive and have a fun-filled sexual life.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>It is true that when two people with different personalities start to live under one roof, clashes are bound to happen. However, this doesn&rsquo;t imply that they can&rsquo;t be happy.&nbsp; There are some useful rules for a happy marriage that can guide couples to work on their relationship healthily and joyously.&nbsp; To build a happy marriage, both partners should accept each other for who they&rsquo;re. They should respect the differences as well.&nbsp; Keep reading this article to learn more about the golden rules for a happy marriage. It will give you the right foundation for your marriage.&nbsp; What are the <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1419,"featured_media":41559,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[9],"tags":[2568],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/44192"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1419"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=44192"}],"version-history":[{"count":10,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/44192\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":108652,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/44192\/revisions\/108652"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/41559"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=44192"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=44192"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=44192"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}