{"id":43722,"date":"2019-12-05T11:26:27","date_gmt":"2019-12-05T11:26:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=43722"},"modified":"2025-04-04T05:39:52","modified_gmt":"2025-04-04T05:39:52","slug":"commitment-and-seeing-it-through","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/commitment-and-seeing-it-through\/","title":{"rendered":"Significance of Commitment in Relationships"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

\"Young<\/p>\n

The commitment you make to your partner to be their other half in life is a huge one.<\/span><\/p>\n

There’s a goal of permanence and solidity between you when you announce commitment in a relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>You have chosen your person, and they are choosing you back<\/span><\/h2>\n

Making promises and taking vows are part of this arrangement. You decide to give yourself wholly to someone else with the intention of staying together forever; then life happens, things get hard, you struggle, you fight, and you may want to give up and split up.<\/span><\/p>\n

Thinking this is an easy way out is a mistake, I hope if you’re feeling this way,  you’ll stop and think about it long and hard before you leave your partner and give up on your love.<\/span><\/p>\n

As a therapist I have helped couples in a lot of different circumstances to find their way back to a loving and close relationship where they both feel important and valued. I know it is possible, even if it doesn’t seem so in the moment.<\/span><\/p>\n

We hear a lot about “the old days” when people stayed together no matter what and enjoyed lasting commitment in a relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n

We know that a lot of couples worked it out, figured out a way to fix their problems and move forward, and it also means that there were toxic and abusive relationships where partners were trapped and felt like they had no option but to stay with their partner.<\/span><\/p>\n

Whether it meant they were living with alcoholism or violence, they felt they had no choice but to stay; in large part due to the stigma society of the time put on divorce and single women of marriageable age who chose not to be with a partner.<\/span><\/p>\n

I hate to see couples who are staying together for any reason other than love and commitment but some couples stay together for the sake of the children, for economic reasons or lack of other viable options.<\/span><\/p>\n

At the core of it, commitment in a relationship means keeping your promises.<\/span><\/p>\n

Even when it’s difficult, even when you don’t feel like it. If you promised to be someone’s person, to be there and show up in their life, you need to take that seriously.<\/span>