

{"id":43281,"date":"2019-11-08T06:57:36","date_gmt":"2019-11-08T06:57:36","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=43281"},"modified":"2024-08-30T04:21:44","modified_gmt":"2024-08-30T04:21:44","slug":"obsessive-love-disorder","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/love\/obsessive-love-disorder\/","title":{"rendered":"Obsessive Love Disorder: Symptoms, Causes &#038; How to Treat"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-92460\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/12\/601866596.jpg\" alt=\"Cute couple laying on bed reading book together\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Obsessive love disorder is not an alien concept anymore. A recent popular web series has started to get many people to know about and discuss obsessive love disorder in individuals and how destructive it can be.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While films and TV shows can be a slight exaggeration of how obsessive love disorder works, it is true that this is an unhealthy form of how attachment and relationships work.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Read on to know more about this disorder and find out if your partner is showing signs of it or not.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Read on more about obsessive love disorder below and how to stop obsessing over someone in an unhealthy way.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-is-obsessive-love-disorder\"><\/span><b>What is obsessive love disorder?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Well, to explain obsessive love disorder simply, it is about completely focusing on one individual to such an extent that it consumes you entirely.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/signs-you-are-falling-in-love\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Being in love<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> with another person is a healthy feeling and leads to positive things in the future. However, being obsessed with someone or something is not healthy at all.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Of course, you must know that something similar to obsessive love disorder is very common at the start of a relationship and can be a precursor to another thing.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Research highlight =<\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC5378292\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Research<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> conducted to understand what love addiction is and when it should be treated suggested that from a broad perspective, by contrast, everyone who loves is on a spectrum of addictive conditions.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The research found that being addicted to another person is not an illness but simply the result of a fundamental human capacity that can sometimes be exercised to excess.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">On the other hand, when considering a narrow perspective, the research suggests that love addiction is a neurobiological disorder with no place in a healthy or flourishing life.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It follows that we ought to offer love addicts some measure of treatment or support.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Difference-between-healthy-and-obsessive-love\"><\/span><b>Difference between healthy and obsessive love<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The distinction between healthy and obsessive love is that with Obsession, a person is inclined towards excessive fascination that eventually turns into a fixation.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">On the other hand, <\/span><b>healthy love is more liberating and helps people get to know one another.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When two people healthily love each other, they do not let go of their characters and interests. They do not feel threatened when their partner invests energy in other aspects of life without including them.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They are proud and pleased with their partner&rsquo;s achievements and want them to be the best version of themselves.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>With Obsession, living without each other can prove to be very difficult.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> The obsessed individual feels an uncontrollable need to know precisely where their partner is and who they are with whenever they are not together.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Negative sentiments, for example, envy and distrustfulness, start to crawl into the relationship. The obsessed individual speculates that their partner might be cheating or that all that they do or say is in some way or another an impression of how they feel about them.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-are-the-common-symptoms-of-obsessive-love-disorder\"><\/span><b>What are the common symptoms of obsessive love disorder<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As human beings, we generally feel a strong desire for loving and wanting to be loved and to understand signs of obsessive love; one must understand this basic human nature.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So how can you tell whether it is just a harmless love affair, or has it crossed its line and driven into Obsession?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Mentioned below are some love obsession disorder symptoms:<\/b><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Feeling a strong attraction<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Thinking obsessively about your partner to such an extent that you are unable to think or even focus on any other things<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The desire to spend all of your free time with the person you love&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Compromising your relationship with family and friends to pay attention to your partner<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Neglecting your daily activities such as your hobbies and your work so that you can focus on your partner<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Going out of your way just to make some kind of contact with a loved one<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Feeling a strong and intense territorial desire to protect your loved one<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Manipulating your partner such as holding things like money and food to keep them attached to you<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Possessive thoughts and behavior<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Depending on your love object for low self-esteem<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Being addicted to your loved one<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Asking your loved one for constant reassurance and affirmation<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Close monitoring of your partner&rsquo;s activities and whereabouts<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Delusional and extreme jealousy&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Stalking your partner physically and on social media<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If someone you know exhibits these symptoms, you should help them immediately.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-causes-obsessive-love-disorder\"><\/span><b>What causes obsessive love disorder?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-56970 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/how-to-handle-emotional-blackmail-in-a-relationship.jpg\" alt=\"Red Heart In A Rat Trap On White Wooden Background. Emotional Blackmail Darkside Concept.\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For many people, when a relationship starts, there is a time when both the partners are overwhelmed with each other; they want to be interested in everything that they are doing, thinking, saying, wanting, and more.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As the relationship starts to grow and develop, this kind of overwhelming Obsession starts to mature into friendship, respect, and commitment, and eventually subside.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The interest in your partner is still there, but the level of intensity tends to decrease. This is a healthy part of a relationship, but when this doesn&rsquo;t occur, it can lead to an obsessional relationship or obsessive love disorder over time.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">According to <\/span><a class=\"editor-rtfLink\" href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/experts\/grady-shumway\" target=\"_blank\"><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">Grady Shumwa<\/span><\/a><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">y, a licensed mental health counselor:<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">Obsessive love disorder often stems from an inability to transition from the intense initial phase of infatuation to a more balanced, mature relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">When the overwhelming focus on a partner doesn&rsquo;t evolve into a healthy friendship and mutual respect, it can escalate into an obsessive preoccupation with the partner&rsquo;s every thought, action, and desire.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">This persistent intensity can prevent the relationship from developing into a stable, long-term commitment, leading to the distressing patterns associated with obsessive love disorder.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-are-some-other-psychological-disorders-related-to-love\"><\/span><b>What are some other psychological disorders related to love<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Apart from obsessive love disorder, here are 3 other psychological disorders associated with love:<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. Erotomania<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A subtype of a<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Delusional_disorder#:~:text=Delusional%20disorder%20is%20a%20generally,a%20specific%20symptom%20of%20psychosis.\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">delusional disorder<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, Erotomania, is an uncommon paranoid condition where an individual has a delusional belief that another person is in love with him or her despite clear evidence against it. This can manifest into an obsessed with relationships and romantic idea.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Mostly witnessed in shy, dependent, and sexually inexperienced females who are infatuated with men who are unattainable due to their social, financial, or marital status and at times, even disinterest.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>2. Attachment disorder<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Used to describe disorders of mood, behavior, and social relationships, attachment disorder happens when an individual is unable to receive normal socializing care and attention from their primary caregiver in early childhood.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Such a disorder is usually associated with experiences of neglect, abuse, abrupt separation from caregivers in early ages (between three months and three years of age), frequent change or excessive numbers of caregivers, or lack of caregiver responsiveness to child communicative efforts resulting in a lack of basic trust.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>As Grady Shumway further explains:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>Attachment disorder arises when an individual fails to receive consistent and nurturing care from primary caregivers during critical early years. This can result from experiences of neglect, abuse, or frequent changes in caregivers, which disrupt the development of basic trust and healthy social relationships.<\/p>\n<p>The lack of stable, responsive caregiving during infancy and early childhood impairs the ability to form secure attachments and can lead to difficulties in emotional regulation and interpersonal relationships later in life.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">An adult suffering from attachment disorder can exhibit the following characteristics:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Fear of intimacy<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Lack of trust<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Anxious people pleaser<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Avoid close relationships<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Clingy and insecure<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Jealousy and possessiveness<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Anger<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><h3><b>3. Relationship OCD<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Also known as relationship substantiation,<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC4834420\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Relationship OCD<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> is a type of disorder that consumes an individual with doubts about their relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Even Though every one of us at some point in time might have had doubts about our romantic relationships, a person suffering from relationship OCD exhibits excessive, obsessive characteristics, such as:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Preoccupation with every small detail about their relationship.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Constant fear of not being loved.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Constant fear of not being enough for their partner.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Constantly comparing their relationship with others.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How-to-treat-obsessive-love-disorder-7-practical-tips\"><\/span><b>How to treat obsessive love disorder: 7 practical tips<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">On the off chance that you are suffering from obsessive love disorder, know that you can be helped to manage this condition.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There are numerous approaches to manage obsessive love disorder. For starters, you must withdraw yourself from your obsessive fixations. Here are some more helpful ways to get the help you need<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-54831 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/09\/the-always-something-better-syndrome.jpg\" alt=\"Couple Kissing Happiness Fun. Interracial Young Couple Embracing Laughing On Date\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. Understand your feelings<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Those looking for obsessive love disorder treatment should start by acknowledging their emotions. It&rsquo;s like recognizing the weather&mdash;you need to know what you&rsquo;re dealing with before deciding how to dress. Understanding your feelings is the first step in managing them.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>2. Establish boundaries<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Think of boundaries like personal space. Just as you wouldn&rsquo;t invade someone&rsquo;s personal bubble, set limits in your relationships. This helps create a healthy balance between closeness and independence.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>3. Focus on yourself<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Consider self-love as a daily vitamin. Make time for activities that bring you joy and fulfillment. Remember, it&rsquo;s okay to prioritize your well-being. Taking care of yourself is not selfish; it&rsquo;s necessary.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>4. Distract yourself<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Think of distractions as your favorite TV show during a rainy day. Engage in activities that capture your attention and shift your focus away from obsessive thoughts. Sometimes, a mental diversion is all you need.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>5. Seek support<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Imagine dealing with a heavy backpack&mdash;asking for help is like sharing the load. Reach out to friends, family, or a mental health professional. Having a support system can make the journey much lighter.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>6. Set realistic expectations<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Consider expectations like a roadmap. While it&rsquo;s great to have goals, make sure they&rsquo;re realistic. Appreciate the journey rather than fixating on the destination. Life&rsquo;s twists and turns can often lead to unexpected, beautiful places.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do you have unrealistic relationship expectations? Watch this insightful video by holistic psychologist Dr. Nicole LePera:<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/-sZ4LsSNBvA?si=BVx7qcXMzqJMTL-g\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\">&#65279;<\/span><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h3><b>7. Embrace change<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Change is like the seasons&mdash;it&rsquo;s inevitable. Be open to it. Allow yourself to grow and adapt. Sometimes, the most beautiful flowers bloom in unexpected seasons. Embracing change can lead to personal growth and a more balanced perspective on love.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"FAQs\"><\/span><b>FAQs&nbsp;<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Let&rsquo;s dive into some common questions about obsessive love, unraveling the complexities in a way that&rsquo;s easy to understand and relatable.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Is obsessive love disorder real?<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yes, it&rsquo;s a real psychological condition where intense and intrusive thoughts and feelings about someone impact your daily life.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Is obsessive love dangerous?<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Unchecked, it can lead to unhealthy behaviors and affect mental well-being. Recognizing the signs and seeking support is crucial to manage it safely.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>What is it called when someone is obsessed with you?<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s commonly referred to as obsessive love when someone becomes fixated on you. Setting boundaries and seeking assistance can be important in such situations.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Why do I become obsessed with people?<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Becoming obsessed with people can stem from various factors, such as a need for validation, fear of abandonment, or past experiences. Understanding these roots is key to managing and redirecting those feelings.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Breaking-the-obsession\"><\/span><b>Breaking the obsession<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Obsessive love disorder might be an indication of a genuine mental health condition, and in the event that it goes untreated, it can lead to other serious mental health issues.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Treating such psychological disorders is possible especially for the individual who is able to seek adequate help and support.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Obsessive love disorder is not an alien concept anymore. A recent popular web series has started to get many people to know about and discuss obsessive love disorder in individuals and how destructive it can be. While films and TV shows can be a slight exaggeration of how obsessive love disorder works, it is true that this is an unhealthy form of how attachment and relationships work.&nbsp; Read on to know more about this disorder and find out if your partner is showing signs of it or not. 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