{"id":43218,"date":"2019-11-08T05:02:50","date_gmt":"2019-11-08T05:02:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=43218"},"modified":"2022-11-08T10:17:29","modified_gmt":"2022-11-08T10:17:29","slug":"setting-boundaries-with-parents","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/setting-boundaries-with-parents\/","title":{"rendered":"15 Tips On How to Set Healthy Boundaries with Your Parents"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

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Yоu lіkеlу rеmеmbеr thе thrіllѕ thаt саmе with рuѕhіng boundaries set fоr уоu bу your parents.<\/span><\/p>\n

Pаrt оf thе rеаѕоn іt wаѕ a “thrill” іѕ bесаuѕе уоu wеrе dоіng whаt уоu wеrе ѕuрроѕеd to bе dоіng аѕ a tееn — tеѕtіng your lіmіtѕ аnd еxраndіng your boundaries.<\/span><\/p>\n

However, as we grow up, setting boundaries with parents means much more than just breaking a few rules. The word ‘boundaries’ may have a negative connotation when growing up, but <\/span>boundaries<\/span><\/a> can and should be really healthy and help your relationship with your parents thrive.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>Examples of boundaries with parents<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n

Now that you understand that boundaries are and need to be healthy, how are they defined regarding parent-child relationships? Here are some examples that will give you a little clarity on the concept.<\/span><\/p>\n

  1. If your parents live in the same city as you and come to visit you too often, unannounced and uninvited, you can politely tell them that this is your personal space and as nice as it is to see them so often, you would like them to let you know of their plans to visit you.<\/span><\/li>\n
  2. If your parents always offer you unsolicited advice about food, lifestyle, dating, work, etc., you can nicely tell them that you love how concerned they are about you. Still, at the same time, you are now an adult who can take care of yourself and seek advice when you need it.<\/span><\/li>\n
  3. Your mom keeps making you the sandwich you used to enjoy as a child. However, your dietary preferences have changed, and you might not even like the same sandwich anymore. Just telling her how thoughtful it is for her to do so but letting her know about your preferences change is an example of setting a healthy boundary.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>

    What are personal boundaries? Watch this video to know more about them, and how to set them.<\/span><\/p>\n