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Beginning a relationship can seem so blissful. Then you come to realize that this is the person you want to marry and spend the rest of your life with.<\/span><\/p>\n At that moment of happiness, you do not realize that there is way more to think about, like the extended family and<\/span> how to manage your relationship with in-laws.<\/b><\/p>\n No one ever thinks well when I fall in love with this person I will have to also fall in love<\/a> with their family, but is there a need to learn ‘how to maintain a good relationship with your in-laws?’<\/span><\/p>\n Can in-laws become an issue in the relationship\/marriage? or are there ways to have an easier relationship with your in-laws?<\/span><\/p>\n Some couples can agree that they would rather stay away from their in-laws because they just can’t get along rather than try managing in-law relationships.<\/span><\/p>\n However, there are marriages that can have a great time with their extended families and do it very often.<\/span><\/p>\n We have all heard of the movie “monster in law,” and other references to the mother-in-law from hell, but sometimes it is not even the mother in law that causes the turmoil in the relationship, it can be the father-in-law and\/or the siblings.<\/span><\/p>\n There should also be titles for rude and nosy sisters-in-law and titles for know-it-all brothers-in-law. Whatever and with whomever, the issue may be, can cause a drift and a problem in a marriage\/relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n One of the most important<\/span> tips for building a relationship with your in-laws<\/b> is to set certain boundaries in the relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n I recently attended a wedding and during the ceremony, the priest stated that once two people commit to marriage they are creating a new life together<\/a>, and the family they were born into would come second and their wife\/husband and children would be first.<\/span><\/p>\n Which is very true, but can be forgotten. I loved reading this quote, “Your spouse should not be second to your parents, friends, coworkers, or even to your children” (dr.dougweiss.com).<\/span><\/p>\n Boundaries are very important <\/b>and sometimes the family on either side lacks them or pretends not to have them.<\/span><\/p>\n For a marriage to work<\/a>, it is important, that both spouses remind their families of this and stick to what they agreed to in their marriage. In-laws can be toxic, and this is not fair for a marriage\/relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n Rumors and gossip by in-laws are just the beginning, making things tense and uncomfortable.<\/span><\/p>\n It is also important to note that with the holidays these issues become even more stressful in a relationship<\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n