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In today’s digital age, it isn’t easy to manage teenagers.<\/span><\/p>\n They’ve got access to a lot of information and a plethora of dating apps. Who they meet, with whom they’re chatting and with whom they’re sharing sensitive information becomes hard for anyone to check.<\/span><\/p>\n As per reports on teen dating violence statistics, 26% of females and 15% of males have experienced dating violence before the age of 18. <\/span><\/p>\n It is alarming and can only be controlled when we give a safe space for teenagers to come forward and share their horrifying experiences<\/span><\/p>\n without judging them. Let’s understand what is dating violence and some warning signs of it.<\/span><\/p>\n Dating violence, as the name suggests, happens between two intimate partners.<\/span><\/p>\n They are dating and spending some personal time together.<\/span><\/p>\n This is when one of the partners starts to abuse the other partner. <\/span><\/p>\n This could be in the form of physical violence, like hurting them or beating them, sexual violence, like getting involved in sexual activity forcefully or without the consent of the partner. <\/span><\/p>\n There is also psychological violence such as using non-verbal or verbal communication to hurt the partner mentally or emotionally, and lastly stalking them and reaching out to their network, creating a form of fear within them.<\/span><\/p>\n For any teenager, when they’re not strong enough to deal<\/span><\/p>\n with such sudden behavior of an individual, managing or facing these gets hard.<\/span><\/p>\n They often sulk into depression, suppress their feelings and either stay with the abuser or decide to end their life. The only way to avoid such an extreme situation is by being watchful of your partner’s actions and words.<\/span><\/p>\n If you walk out of the relationship on time, you’re saved; otherwise, leaving them might be difficult.<\/span><\/p>\n We must first understand that warning signs of dating violence may not be obvious.<\/span><\/p>\n Therefore, we need to know about the different warning signs of <\/span>domestic violence<\/span><\/a> and dating abuse.<\/span><\/p>\n Knowing domestic violence will help us see through pretensions and masks. If you feel you’re experiencing dating violence, then this information will help.<\/span><\/p>\n One of the most common signs of dating violence is <\/span>physical abuse<\/span><\/a>. As the name suggests, this involves physical harm, such as slapping, punching, shoving, pinching, biting, pulling hair, kicking, and even grabbing.<\/span><\/p>\n Physical abuse also covers when a person refuses to seek medical care for a sick or harmed partner.<\/span><\/p>\n Also, if a person forces the other to take drugs, alcohol, or any other illegal substance, that’s already physical abuse.<\/span><\/p>\n Not all signs of violence are visible. This is where elements of <\/span>psychological abuse<\/span><\/a> come in. <\/span><\/p>\n In this category, the abuser would intimidate, threaten, blackmail, or forcibly isolate their partner. Psychological abuse can be in many forms. <\/span><\/p>\n Making sure you don’t talk to your family or friends is already a form of psychological abuse. Often, victims of this type of abuse may not even realize that the abuse is happening.<\/span><\/p>\n Attempting to force sexual contact or sexual behavior is one of the top examples of <\/span>sexual abuse<\/span><\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n Forcing your partner to do oral sex or <\/span>BDSM<\/span><\/a> is one of the clear warning signs of a violent person. Even if you’re married or have been together, rape is also possible and is a form of sexual abuse. <\/span><\/p>\n If you’re wondering, even sabotaging methods of birth control or refusing to wear a condom falls in this category.<\/span><\/p>\n Warning signs of domestic violence aren’t only seen when you have bruises on your body. Emotional abuse is as traumatic for the victim. <\/span><\/p>\n If your partner is always putting you down and undermining your sense of self-love, <\/span>gaslights<\/span><\/a> you, and gives you constant destructive criticisms, then that’s already abuse. <\/span><\/p>\n Maybe this is the first time that you’ve heard about this term. When you say economic abuse, it means the abuser takes total control of their partner’s income.<\/span><\/p>\n The abuser would use the money for themselves, withhold the victim from accessing their finances, or even forbid the victim from financially helping their family.<\/span><\/p>\n Now that you’re familiar with the different types of abuse, it’s time to check out the warning signs of abuse.<\/span><\/p>\n Listed below are some of the basic and initial signs of teen dating violence.<\/span><\/p>\n Dating violence is often covered up or denied because of the love that one has for one’s partner. Also, people could be naive and unaware of what constitutes dating violence. So, here are some key markers of dating violence:<\/span><\/p>\n Everyone is a free bird and has the right to live life without much of others’ intervention. <\/span><\/p>\n While growing up, no teenager would always accept their parents’ watchfulness. The same rule should not apply to your partner. Your partner shouldn’t tell you what and what not to do. They can be protective but not possessive over you.<\/span><\/p>\n They’ve to give space to your privacy and shouldn’t restrict your movement. If you sense that your partner is getting overly protective of you, be alert. This might gradually become possessiveness and your life might turn into hell.<\/span><\/p>\n Ups and downs in a relationship are acceptable.<\/span><\/p>\n Everyone goes through this and there isn’t anything to be worried about. However, some people get extremely abusive to their partners for no good reason. They behave rudely; they lose their temper quite easily and won’t think twice before bursting out in anger in public. <\/span><\/p>\n Such behaviors are signs that you’re into dating violence. <\/span><\/p>\n The sooner you leave the person, the better for you.<\/span><\/p>\n When you’re dating, there will be some intimate moments between the two of you. The ground of sexual activity is that it is done with someone’s consent. No one can force you to have sex with them under any circumstances; if you find it happening, this is violence. <\/span><\/p>\n Often, during the teenage years, our body goes through many changes.<\/span><\/p>\n The urge to have sex sometimes may prevail over senses, but this shouldn’t be an excuse for anyone to fall over you or force you to get involved in sexual activity. If your partner is trying to do that, speak with your parents. <\/span><\/p>\n You have the right to live with dignity and having sex without consent is an outcome of dating violence.<\/span><\/p>\n As mentioned, every relationship hits a rough patch at least once in its lifetime. <\/span><\/p>\n However, during such times, coping with reality might get difficult, but blaming one another isn’t the solution. <\/span><\/p>\n If you’re a soft person and are taking the blame for everything bad in the relationship, you’re suffering from dating violence. Dating involves two individuals, and both are equally to blame.<\/span><\/p>\n So, don’t let your partner make you the soft target for anything wrong.<\/span><\/p>\n When in a relationship or even while dating, no one has the right to make threats of any kind. <\/span><\/p>\n However, it’s been observed that some individuals threaten their partner like they’ll destroy their life, would not let them have a peaceful life if they leave them, etc. Such threats are unacceptable and one is not obliged to be in such a relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n One of the warning signs of abuse is when you’re dating, but you slowly notice that your partner is trying to isolate you.<\/span><\/p>\n At first, this person tries to distance you from your friends. You can no longer see them or hang out with them.<\/span><\/p>\n Then you might notice that your partner will intercept any plans of seeing your family.<\/span><\/p>\n You might realize that one day, you’ve been isolated from the people who would help you escape your abuser.<\/span><\/p>\n Why would someone do this? As mentioned above, these people can help you and this person wants them out of your life to fully take control.<\/span><\/p>\n Teen dating violence or even if you’re already living together, there’s no excuse for abuse. Remember that.<\/span><\/p>\n It may start when your partner stalks your social media accounts and would suddenly read your messages. This may be an act of trust and love for some, but is it?<\/span><\/p>\n Try to do the same to your partner and you’ll hear harsh words and even insults, but when it comes to your social media accounts, this person demands transparency.<\/span><\/p>\n If you find this unfair, then you are right. It’s because your partner is already showing dating violence, which is one sign to watch out for.<\/span><\/p>\n We don’t have to be experts to know that verbal and <\/span>emotional abuse<\/span><\/a> are destructive behaviors. They are abusive and will significantly affect a person’s mental and emotional health.<\/span><\/p>\n Sadly, we don’t know what’s happening when it’s just you and your partner.<\/span><\/p>\n These are all signs of emotional and verbal abuse, from feeding your hurtful words to depriving you of attention and pretending you don’t exist.<\/span><\/p>\n Unfortunately, these warning signs of abuse often remain unheard of, with no one speaking out.<\/span><\/p>\n When you take up <\/span>relationship counseling<\/span><\/a>, you’ll learn many valuable and healthy relationship traits. One of which is when you should respect your partner’s <\/span>privacy<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n What if you’re dating an abuser? What happens then?<\/span><\/p>\n This person would come barging into your home, grab your stuff, reply to your messages and emails, and cancel your trips or schedules.<\/span><\/p>\n What does this show us? It’s clear that this person has no respect for you.<\/span><\/p>\n Now, these are the most obvious domestic violence warning signs to watch out for. If your partner, may it be for a week, day, or years, when your partner hurts you physically, then that’s already dating abuse.<\/span><\/p>\n Sadly, some people would even <\/span>stay in the relationship<\/span><\/a> thinking it’s just a one-time thing, an accident, or their loved one would still change.<\/span><\/p>\n Unfortunately, that will not happen. An abuser will always have this tendency.<\/span><\/p>\n It doesn’t matter if it’s a slap, a push, a punch, or throwing an appliance at you; abuse is abuse.<\/span><\/p>\n If you can relate to all these signs of violence, you are experiencing it.<\/span><\/p>\n Don’t think it is just coincidence or that it was your fault that triggered your partner’s abusive behavior. This has got to stop; of course, you might want to know where to start. <\/span><\/p>\n Here are five ways to understand how you can deal with abusive dating.<\/span><\/p>\n Don’t keep this to yourself. Your partner is already preventing you from reaching out before it gets out of hand. Ask for help.<\/span><\/p>\n Call the people you trust, and tell them what’s happening behind closed doors. <\/span><\/p>\n If you’re studying, go to your teacher or mentor. You can also reach out to your parents or friends. <\/span><\/p>\n<\/span>What is dating violence?<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>5 types of dating violence<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n
1. Physical abuse<\/b><\/h3>\n
2. Psychological abuse<\/b><\/h3>\n
3. Sexual abuse<\/b><\/h3>\n
4. Emotional abuse<\/b><\/h3>\n
5. Economic abuse<\/b><\/h3>\n
Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> Financial Abuse in Marriage – 7 Signs and Ways to Deal With It<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n
<\/span>10 warning signs of dating violence<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n
1. Possessiveness<\/b><\/h3>\n
Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> 5 Powerful Signs Your Partner Is Possessive in the Relationship<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n
2. Unexpected anger<\/b><\/h3>\n
3. Getting sexual without consent<\/b><\/h3>\n
4. Blaming you for everything bad<\/b><\/h3>\n
Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> How to Stop the Blame Game in Your Relationship<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n
5. Making threats<\/b><\/h3>\n
6. Isolation from your family and friends<\/b><\/h3>\n
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<\/p>\nRelated Reading:<\/i><\/b> 12 Things to Never Tell Your Friends About Your Relationship<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n
7. Monitoring your social media accounts<\/b><\/h3>\n
8. Verbal and emotional abuse<\/b><\/h3>\n
9. Invades your privacy<\/b><\/h3>\n
10. Physically hurts you<\/b><\/h3>\n
<\/span>How to deal with dating violence<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n
1. Ask for help<\/b><\/h3>\n
Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> How to Ask for Support From Your Partner When You Need It<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n
2. End the relationship\/dating<\/b><\/h3>\n