{"id":42785,"date":"2019-10-15T11:22:50","date_gmt":"2019-10-15T11:22:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=42785"},"modified":"2024-05-02T05:29:02","modified_gmt":"2024-05-02T05:29:02","slug":"communicate-with-spouse-during-separation","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/communicate-with-spouse-during-separation\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Communicate With Your Spouse During Separation"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-28230\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/Are-conflicts-boon-or-a-bane-in-a-relationship.jpg\" alt=\"Are conflicts boon or a bane in a relationship\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Deciding to be separated, either legally or psychologically, is a major change that you&rsquo;ll be making in your life. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Although your marriage might seem to be experiencing a major crisis at the moment, there is hope to get it back on track.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Remember,<\/span> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/divorce\/differences-between-separation-and-divorce\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">separation doesn&rsquo;t mean divorce<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">; technically, you&rsquo;re still married. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Communicating with your spouse during separation is essential if you still want to rekindle the bond that brought you together and re-establish the connection that seems to have been lost.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In this article, we&rsquo;ll cover some marital separation tips and<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;learn <\/span><b>how to communicate effectively with your spouse<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> during separation.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong>Also watch:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/5Rb1CIgt37I\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Setting-up-good-and-open-communication\"><\/span>Setting up good and open communication<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-45356 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/Setting-up-good-and-open-communication.jpg\" alt=\"Couple having good conversation \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Even if you&rsquo;ve decided to be separated for a while, that doesn&rsquo;t mean that you can&rsquo;t stay friends and care about one another. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Discuss with your spouse how much communication actually needs to happen between the two of you, and how much interaction is needed.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This would help you avoid the<\/span> <a href=\"http:\/\/www.separationadvice.net\/339\/four-common-mistakes-couples-make-during-separation\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">common mistakes that couples make during separation<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Set<\/span><b> marriage<\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/separation\/practical-tips-for-separating-from-your-spouse\/\"> <b>separation<\/b><b> guidelines<\/b><\/a>, <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">preferably from the start, to be clear in your purposes and to avoid any doubt or future confusion.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you want to learn how to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/save-your-marriage\/save-your-marriage-alone-during-separation\/\">save your marriage during separation<\/a>, you&rsquo;ll have to acknowledge the fact that you&rsquo;ll need to learn how to be a good listener.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Learning how to communicate with your spouse will show them that you&rsquo;re genuinely interested in understanding their feelings and that by doing so, you are genuinely interested in making things work again.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Every marriage is complex and different in its own way, but through honest give-and-take dialogue, the former bond that united you in the first place can be strengthened again.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Consistency-is-key\"><\/span>Consistency is key<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-42645 size-full\" title=\"Consistency is key\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/Look-Inward-for-Change-to-Save-Your-Marriage.jpg\" alt=\"Consistency is key\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One of the most valuable<\/span> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/save-your-marriage\/keys-to-save-your-relationship\/\"><b>marriage separation advice<\/b><\/a> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">we can give you is to stay consistent in your actions or strategy when communicating with your spouse. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">After you&rsquo;ve established (or re-established) a good communication channel, maintain it and patiently nurture it.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Be punctual in your meetings with your spouse and show him or her that you&rsquo;re committed to making this work again.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Author Mwanandeke Kindembo states,&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Time and effective communication are the best medicine in love. Consider all the imbalances and get back to normal. Literally fixing your love life with your partner.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It might seem difficult at first, but if you don&rsquo;t persevere in your endeavors to communicate regularly with your spouse during separation, you will risk letting your current status culminate in divorce.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Set-goals\"><\/span>Set goals<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-45357 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/Set-goals.jpg\" alt=\"Couple calculating financial bills \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you want to learn <\/span><b>how to rebuild your marriage during a separation<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, first <a href=\"https:\/\/hbr.org\/2015\/02\/increase-the-odds-of-achieving-your-goals-by-setting-them-with-your-spouse\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\">establish your relationship goals<\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Many couples fail to rekindle the light between them because they aren&rsquo;t focused enough on what they really want to accomplish.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Confusion is an awful enemy when rebuilding a marriage after separation, and what to do during a separation can often prove to be a tricky question to answer.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Take a seat at the table with your spouse and write together a separation agreement in which you lay down on paper your problems and the whole process of how they managed to get you in the current predicament.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Do-trial-separations-work\"><\/span>Do trial separations work?<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-45358 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/Do-trial-separations-work.jpg\" alt=\"Sad couple \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It depends on what you want to obtain out of a<\/span> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/separation\/dos-and-donts-of-legal-separation\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">trial separation<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Being separated isn&rsquo;t the same thing as being divorced. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For example, because you aren&rsquo;t divorced, you still keep the benefits of being married, even though you&rsquo;re separated.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maybe both of you want to keep them, and want to follow certain<\/span><b> trial separation guidelines. <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For example, as a trial separation tip, a legal separation is nice to have when you think of the tax incentives.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You don&rsquo;t need to have anything on your mind during your separation if you want to save your marriage, let alone the <a href=\"https:\/\/aifs.gov.au\/cfca\/bibliography\/financial-issues-related-separationdivorce\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\">financial issues related to separation<\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Maybe you want things to get as serious as they can, and one of you imposes trial separation boundaries.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Learning how to communicate with your spouse during separation<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> can seem, at first, hard to do.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/experts\/christiana-njoku\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Licensed Professional Counsellor Christiana Njoku states,&nbsp;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Communication is a two-way street; during separation, take time out to have important conversations.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Depending on where both of you are in your relationship, on an emotional and mental level, if you follow a set of marital separation guidelines from the start, you can save your marriage and return to your former way of life.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Having no communication during separation is definitely not recommended if you want to save the marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Deciding to be separated, either legally or psychologically, is a major change that you&rsquo;ll be making in your life. Although your marriage might seem to be experiencing a major crisis at the moment, there is hope to get it back on track.&nbsp; Remember, separation doesn&rsquo;t mean divorce; technically, you&rsquo;re still married. Communicating with your spouse during separation is essential if you still want to rekindle the bond that brought you together and re-establish the connection that seems to have been lost.&nbsp; In this article, we&rsquo;ll cover some marital separation tips and&nbsp;learn how to communicate effectively with your spouse during separation. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1394,"featured_media":28230,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[36],"tags":[2706],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/42785"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1394"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=42785"}],"version-history":[{"count":12,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/42785\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":98879,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/42785\/revisions\/98879"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/28230"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=42785"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=42785"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=42785"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}