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Most people think that once they find the right person, they’ll spend the rest of their lives together. In the beginning, the relationship is loving and supportive but after a while, they start noticing a change. This is the <\/span>common beginning of every painful story<\/b> narrated by domestic violence victims around the world.<\/span><\/p>\n A <\/span>survey<\/span><\/a> conducted by the United Nations shows that nearly <\/span>35% of women worldwide <\/b>have <\/span>experienced<\/b> some form of <\/span>physical<\/b> or <\/span>sexual intimate partner violence<\/a><\/b>. Also, if you consider the <\/span>crime trends<\/span><\/a>, you will see that nearly 32% of women are domestic violence victims and 16% of women are subjected to contact sexual abuse by an intimate partner<\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n Little by little, their <\/span>partner begins exhibiting strange behavior<\/b> which more often than not turns violent. However, it’s important to note that not all domestic abuse is physical. Many <\/span>victims <\/b>also <\/span>experience mental abuse<\/a><\/b>, which is by no means less impactful.<\/span><\/p>\n Chances are that the longer the abuse is happening, the worse it will get.<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n No one imagines they’ll ever find themselves in this situation.<\/span><\/p>\n No human being wants to be hurt and humiliated by their partner. And yet, for some reason, the victims still choose not to leave their batterers.<\/span><\/p>\n Why is that?<\/span><\/p>\n Now, leaving an abusive relationship is not as easy as it may sound to you. And, unfortunately, <\/span>there are many reasons<\/b> why <\/span>people stay<\/b> in abusive relationships, which, quite often, even turn deadly.<\/span><\/p>\n In this article, we will delve into this topic a bit deeper and see what it is that’s stopping victims from leaving and reporting their abusers.<\/span><\/p>\n It comes as no surprise that <\/span>shame<\/b> is <\/span>one of the main reasons<\/b> why domestic violence victims stay. It is a surprise how this feeling is often what stops humans from doing what they want and feel is right.<\/span><\/p>\n Many think that leaving home, breaking up with their abuser or<\/span> getting a divorce means they’ve failed<\/span><\/a>. They cannot allow their family, friends, and community to see the situation they found themselves in and show that they are weak.<\/span><\/p>\n Not meeting the expectations of society often puts a lot of pressure on victims, which is why they feel like they must stay and endure. However,<\/span> leaving an abuser<\/b> is <\/span>not a sign of weakness<\/b>, it is a <\/span>sign of strength<\/b> that shows that someone is strong enough to break the cycle and look for a better life.<\/span><\/p>\n Some <\/span>domestic violence victims<\/b> are <\/span>of the opinion<\/b> that they <\/span>did something <\/b>to <\/span>provoke the violence<\/b>. While there is nothing a person can do to instigate an attack, some individuals still feel responsible for these incidents.<\/span><\/p>\n Maybe they said something or did something that provoked their partner. This is usually an idea that was put in their head by their abuser.<\/span><\/p>\n Abusers commonly tell their victims that they are rude, nagging and that they made them angry because of their behavior. None of these are a reason to become violent, and yet the victims of domestic violence believe what they are told.<\/span><\/p>\n Furthermore, if the <\/span>abuse is psychological<\/b>, they think that it’s not really included in the category of abuse when they don’t have bruises to show for it.<\/span><\/p>\n However, their self-esteem is affected to the point where they believe they deserve the harsh words.<\/span><\/p>\n Sometimes, domestic violence <\/span>victims have nowhere to go<\/b>. And, that is the reason why <\/span>they fear leaving<\/b> such <\/span>abusive relationships<\/b>.<\/span><\/p>\n This is especially true if they are financially dependent on their abuser. If they feel like leaving home, it is like admitting defeat. They will probably not go back to their parents.<\/span><\/p>\n Turning to friends is often only a temporary solution, plus they risk their partner coming after them and potentially even involving the friends into the altercation.<\/span><\/p>\n On the other hand, <\/span>victims of abuse<\/b> are often so <\/span>isolated<\/b> that they <\/span>have no life<\/b> outside of the home and feel alone with <\/span>no friends they can rely on<\/b>.<\/span><\/p>\n However, they can look for a safe house in the area, seeing as how these institutions often offer housing, legal help and counselling<\/a>, in addition to helping individuals get their life back on track.<\/span><\/p>\n Constantly hearing<\/b> about family tragedies due to <\/span>domestic violence on the news<\/b> is not encouraging and it’s no wonder domestic violence <\/span>victims are afraid of leaving home<\/b>.<\/span><\/p>\n For example –<\/b><\/p>\n If they choose to report their partner, they risk further violence, often even more brutal, in case the police does nothing to help them.<\/span><\/p>\n Even if they manage to win a case and their partner gets convicted, chances are they will seek them out once they are out of prison to get revenge.<\/span><\/p>\n On the other hand, <\/span>getting a restraining order against an abuser<\/b> is also a <\/span>possibility<\/b> but it’s very important to weigh the pros and cons of doing such a thing, which is something experts from <\/span>The Legal Advisory Service<\/span><\/a> can help with.<\/span><\/p>\n However, regardless of how they are feeling about their partner seeking revenge and harming them after they leave, the <\/span>abuse in the home<\/b> can also <\/span>have awful consequences<\/b> if they don’t react on time.<\/span><\/p>\n One of the main reasons why women don’t leave their abusers is that they are in love with their tormentors.<\/span><\/p>\n Yes! In some cases, the domestic violence <\/span>victims<\/b> still <\/span>see a glimpse of the person<\/b>, they <\/span>fell in love with<\/b>, in their abuser. This often leads to them thinking they can go back to how it was before.<\/span> They believe <\/b>that <\/span>they can help their batterer<\/b> and show them enough support <\/span>to prevent abuse<\/a><\/b>.<\/span><\/p>\n Offering loyalty and unconditional love is not a way to stop violence, as then the abuser will keep taking more and more.<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n Some people often feel bad for their partner due to their current situation, such as losing a job or a parent. On the other hand, <\/span>abusers<\/b> often <\/span>promise to stop<\/b> and change and the <\/span>victims believe<\/b> them <\/span>until it happens again<\/b>.<\/span><\/p>\n When there are kids involved, the whole situation is immediately much harder.<\/span><\/p>\n The victim usually does not want to run away and leave the kids with their violent partner, while taking the kids and running can pose so many legal problems. Therefore, <\/span>they are willing to stay <\/b>in this abusive household to<\/span> prevent their kids<\/b> from <\/span>experiencing<\/b> the <\/span>same level of abuse<\/b>.<\/span><\/p>\nRelated Reading:<\/strong> What is domestic violence?<\/a><\/em><\/pre>\n
<\/span>Why do people stay in abusive relationships?<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>1. They feel ashamed<\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>2. They feel responsible<\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>3. They have nowhere to go<\/span><\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nRelated Reading:<\/strong> Best Ways to Protect Yourself From an Abusive Partner<\/a><\/em><\/pre>\n
<\/span>4. They are afraid<\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>5. They hope to help their abuser<\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>6. They are worried about their kids<\/span><\/h2>\n