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You must have heard it a million times, be it about life or relationships that one should lower their expectation in a relationship or life. This advice, though, does not sit right with a number of people.<\/span><\/p>\n Among them is the University of South Carolina’s Psychology Professor, <\/span>Donald Baucom<\/span><\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n After being related to the field for more than a decade, doing research and analysis, he has concluded that <\/span>people generally get what they expect<\/b> – from life and relationships. <\/span><\/p>\n It is like releasing certain kinds of energy into the universe; you attract what you release. <\/span><\/p>\n Baucom is of the belief that if one would lower their standards thinking that this is what being in a relationship entails, and this is what life is supposed to be, then they are basically giving their significant other all the chances to walk all over them. <\/span><\/p>\n He found out that people with high standards deliberately look for significant others with better etiquettes, social and cultural values, and upbringing; and because of their higher expectations, their partner knows that they cannot be trampled upon and they tread lightly.<\/span><\/p>\n With that being said, it is important to<\/span> keep relationship expectations realistic and achievable<\/span><\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n Understanding your spouse, their drive, aspirations, and goals are important.<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n One extremely wrong expectation is that every human being expects to have a home very similar if not exactly the same as they grew in. If their mothers were homemakers and fathers were bread earners, they expect their spouse to follow the same ideology. Ignoring the fact that their spouse could have been raised with a completely different mindset, they set expectations, which eventually lead to disappointment on one or both ends.<\/span><\/p>\n One has to learn the differences in marriage between their parents’ and their own. <\/span><\/p>\n As the saying goes, we end up marrying or settling down with someone who resembles our parents the best. <\/span><\/p>\n It is mainly because of the sense of security or calmness their aura provides. However, harboring expectations that they will create the same home is just pushing one’s limits. <\/span><\/p>\n Relationship expectations should be built with time and should remain in flux. One cannot expect their wife of ten years to behave in the same way as she did during the initial years.<\/span><\/p>\n As suggested earlier, people should set their standards high and believe that their future significant other should love, honor, and respect them; that they will live happily ever after. <\/span><\/p>\n However, they should also know that there is no such thing. As soon as the honeymoon period ends, and it does eventually, and real-life kicks in, minute and minor conflicts start.<\/span><\/p>\n And one needs to remember that you and your significant other are two separate and different individuals. You have different ideals, values, mindsets, and thought procedure. No two siblings are alike, then how can two strangers be the same?<\/span><\/p>\n Personality differences in marriage are extremely common.<\/span><\/p>\n Ever heard of opposites attract? Your significant other is your opposite, your better half. There will be times when you will argue, fight, bicker, have spats, but there will be some form of respect in your partner’s heart for you. <\/span><\/p>\n<\/span>Realistic expectation in relationship<\/span><\/h2>\n
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