

{"id":40777,"date":"2019-07-30T10:23:52","date_gmt":"2019-07-30T10:23:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=40777"},"modified":"2026-01-05T07:40:16","modified_gmt":"2026-01-05T07:40:16","slug":"college-relationship-advice","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/college-relationship-advice\/","title":{"rendered":"9 College Relationship Advice That Every Student Needs"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-40779 size-full\" title=\"9 College Relationship Advice That Every Student Needs\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/college-love.jpg\" alt=\"9 College Relationship Advice That Every Student Needs\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><b>Going to college<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> doesn&rsquo;t just mean that <\/span><b>you&rsquo;re off to a new beginning<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> of learning how to deal with life, your chosen field, and a lot of reports. Fact is, you&rsquo;re learning much more in college than just academics.<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Being in college also means that you will now face the real deal in life.<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><b>It is the best time<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> to actually <\/span><b>fall in love <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">and <\/span><b>be in a relationship<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> &ndash; sounds exciting? Of course, it is!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is also the time where we should absorb all the <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">college relationship advice <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">that we can get as it can dramatically mold us into who we are as an adult.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Finding-love-in-college\"><\/span>Finding love in college<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><b>Starting your college<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> life is already <\/span><b>overwhelming<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. The same feeling is likely to expand if you realize that this is also the <\/span>time where dating in college starts.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Don&rsquo;t worry! In fact, it&rsquo;s perfectly normal to feel anxious and nervous with all the big changes going on with your life. Aside from academics, reports, and projects, you&rsquo;ll <\/span>start knowing more people<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and <\/span>if you&rsquo;re lucky<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, this is also the <\/span><b>chance of finding love in college<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We will also have our own set of challenges in college.<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There are <\/span><b>challenges in academics<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, in our <\/span><b>social life<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and of course in <\/span><b>finding love<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. For some, admitting to someone that you like them comes off easily, but there are also instances where the <\/span>fear of rejection is greater<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> than the courage that we have in admitting our feelings.<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Each and every one of us will go through these trials.<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That&rsquo;s why it&rsquo;s best to <\/span><b>listen to <\/b><b>college relationship advice<\/b> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">that isn&rsquo;t just for dating but also on <\/span>how we can juggle our studies and love life.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Finding love in college isn&rsquo;t a requirement but we should also be open and ready to meet someone who we might<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/love\/things-losing-my-first-love-taught-me\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">fall in love<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> with.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Studies-and-dating-in-college\"><\/span>Studies and dating in college<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Most of you who are just starting off college would definitely want to know &ldquo;How does dating work in college.&rdquo; Who wouldn&rsquo;t?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Boys or girls should <\/span><b>be aware of the college dating rules<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> so we won&rsquo;t get lost with the fast-paced life that we&rsquo;ll be getting into.<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">College relationships have changed over time.<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Today, <\/span><b>college students<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> are more <\/span>open to dating and even flirting<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. It&rsquo;s the <\/span>so-called fun part<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> of college, a <\/span><b>stress-reliever<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and just because it&rsquo;s that time where we are all <\/span><b>exploring ourselves<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and <\/span><b>our sexuality<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One thing to expect from <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">college relationship advice <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">is to attain knowledge and wisdom not just in dating but on how we handle relationships as well.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Love can make your college life amazing<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> but if you <\/span>can&rsquo;t handle having a relationship<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and <\/span>focusing on your studies<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, this can have a great <\/span>effect on your future<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Today, college students are more aware of what they are doing and most parents already allow their children who are in college to have their own space and love life but we must also remember the top college relationship advice that will make this a little bit easier for us.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"College-dating-advice-for-you\"><\/span>College dating advice for you<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you&rsquo;re just on your first year of college and you somehow feel that you&rsquo;re also ready to start<\/span> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">dating someone in college<\/span> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">then this is for you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Remember, it doesn&rsquo;t matter how <\/span><b>millennials are liberated<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> or open-minded, <\/span><b>college relationship tips <\/b>are still worth<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> your time because believe it or not, if you love the wrong way &ndash; even your studies will be affected.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1-Having-a-partner-is-not-the-requirement\"><\/span>1. Having a partner is not the requirement<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The <\/span>first <b>college dating advice<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> that you should remember is that having a boyfriend or girlfriend isn&rsquo;t a requirement in college.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Of course, we understand how it&rsquo;s &ldquo;cool&rdquo; to be in and to be one of those who are in a relationship but if you are doing it just for this purpose, then it&rsquo;s not advisable.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2-Choose-someone-who-will-contribute\"><\/span>2. Choose someone who will contribute<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-39980 size-full\" title=\"Choose someone who will contribute\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/4-Signs-to-Describe-What-Is-Unconditional-Love-in-a-Relationship.jpg\" alt=\"Choose someone who will contribute\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p>Another <b>college dating tips<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> for guys and girls is that the <\/span>person you&rsquo;ll choose to date<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> should also be someone who will <\/span>contribute to your overall well-being<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">According to <\/span><a class=\"editor-rtfLink\" href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/experts\/christiana-njoku\" target=\"_blank\"><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">Christiana Njoku<\/span><\/a><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">, LPC:<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">If you want to date, don&rsquo;t just date any kind of person; date someone who will always be there to positively contribute to your life and academics.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This <\/span><b>person should be good for you<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and not someone who will make life hard.<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Falling in love with the wrong person can give you stress that can cause you to even fail your studies.<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Don&rsquo;t let this happen.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3-Seek-respect-not-attention\"><\/span>3. Seek respect, not attention<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Seek respect<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> from the person who you will date, <\/span><b>not attention<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yes, attention is great for a while but <\/span><b>respect is bigger<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and is <\/span><b>one of the best things<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> that love can teach us.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We may not all have serious<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/reasons-not-to-marry-your-college-love\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">relationships in college<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> but we should at least make sure that we are firm on what we want to have.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"4-Always-value-your-studies\"><\/span>4. Always value your studies<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Another <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">college relationship advice <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">that we should remember is that both of you should still value your studies.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Fact is, it&rsquo;s so <\/span><b>easy to get distracted with love<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> that our <\/span><b>academics become a second priority<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. This shouldn&rsquo;t happen, instead, both of you should help each other be better in your studies.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5-Be-sure-of-yourself-first\"><\/span>5. Be sure of yourself first<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Before deciding to court someone or to get into a relationship, we should <\/span><b>first be sure of ourselves<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Entering a relationship, when you&rsquo;re not ready won&rsquo;t work out. Jealousy, insecurities, and unnecessary fights are bound to happen when you&rsquo;re not ready to enter a relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"6-Have-goals-and-set-priorities\"><\/span>6. Have goals and set priorities<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Being in college is stressful enough. So <\/span><b>don&rsquo;t let your relationship take a toll<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> on your stress levels. It&rsquo;s important for you and your partner to have goals that you can work together.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"7-Can-you-handle-studies-and-relationships\"><\/span>7. Can you handle studies and relationships?<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you want to know <\/span><b>how to start dating<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> in college, then you have to <\/span>ask yourself<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> if you can handle both your studies and your relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Christiana Njoku highlights that:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>For students thinking of getting into a relationship, don&rsquo;t make that decision yet without fully considering the costs.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you can, then maybe you can <\/span><b>start accepting suitors<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> or court the girl you like. If not, then maybe you <\/span>still need to <strong>focus on your studies<\/strong><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> first.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"8-Think-better\"><\/span>8. Think better<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you feel that you&rsquo;re showing more interest with someone than they do to you &ndash; think better. Why rush to have a relationship?<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"9-Heartbreaks-never-make-a-lesser-person\"><\/span>9. Heartbreaks never make a lesser person<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Break up or <\/span><b>heartbreaks<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> will <\/span>never make you a lesser person<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. It also doesn&rsquo;t mean that you are unlovable too.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, if this happens, remember that you are still capable of loving and being loved.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"We-decide-for-ourselves\"><\/span>We decide for ourselves<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We also know that no matter how many <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">college relationship advice <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">and tips that we come across, at the end of the day, <\/span><b>we&rsquo;re still the ones who <\/b>will decide for ourselves<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Being a college student is both thrilling, hard, stressful, and unforgettable that&rsquo;s why we&rsquo;re here &ndash; to live our lives and prepare for our future.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Finding love along the way would be awesome but also a little reminder that we need to be a little wiser too.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Going to college doesn&rsquo;t just mean that you&rsquo;re off to a new beginning of learning how to deal with life, your chosen field, and a lot of reports. Fact is, you&rsquo;re learning much more in college than just academics. Being in college also means that you will now face the real deal in life. It is the best time to actually fall in love and be in a relationship &ndash; sounds exciting? Of course, it is! This is also the time where we should absorb all the college relationship advice that we can get as it can dramatically mold us <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":675,"featured_media":40779,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[2498],"tags":[2586],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/40777"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/675"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=40777"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/40777\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":115880,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/40777\/revisions\/115880"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/40779"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=40777"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=40777"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=40777"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}