

{"id":40193,"date":"2019-07-10T12:13:05","date_gmt":"2019-07-10T12:13:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=40193"},"modified":"2026-02-18T07:05:34","modified_gmt":"2026-02-18T07:05:34","slug":"spice-up-the-bedroom-for-his-woman","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/spice-up-the-bedroom-for-his-woman\/","title":{"rendered":"7 Ideas for Men to Spice up Your Sex Life"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-72492\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/sexy-ideas-for-men-to-spice-up-your-sex-life.jpg\" alt=\"Couple Sitting and Hugging\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">All men want to be the best, may it be in their career, their <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, and of course as a lover.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sometimes, there can be confusion about what a man can do to spice things up when it comes to pleasing your woman. But what can a man do to learn &lsquo;<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">how to spice up the bedroom for her<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">?&rsquo;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A man can do things to spice up the bedroom, which even a creative woman may not think of.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><em><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Related Reading: <\/span><\/em><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/10-reasons-to-have-sex-frequently-with-your-spouse\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><em>Health benefits of sex for females<\/em><\/span><\/a><\/pre>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As every woman is different, you just can&rsquo;t expect that with every relationship that you have, your partner would be amazed by how you spice things up in the bedroom.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There can be instances where it might seem frustrating to see that your<\/span> <a href=\"https:\/\/onlinelibrary.wiley.com\/doi\/abs\/10.1111\/jsm.12669\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><b>woman doesn&rsquo;t get aroused easily<\/b><\/a><b> or won&rsquo;t reach <\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.medicalnewstoday.com\/articles\/232318\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><b>orgasm<\/b><\/a><b> when you have sex<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As a man, this is just unacceptable! So, what can be done to be better in bed? What are the sexy things a man can do to spice up the bedroom for his woman?<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Challenges-faced-by-men\"><\/span>Challenges faced by men<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-45979\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/Challenges-faced-by-men.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Before we get to know the things a man can do to spice up the bedroom, we&rsquo;d want to know the real score in bed.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We all want to become the best lover for our partners, right?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, there are things that we simply can&rsquo;t control. Adulting is hard, and sex won&rsquo;t even be the same as when we were in college. Those hot steamy nights have become quickies, and the slow burn foreplay has become a quick kiss.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We may think that only women have insecurities in bed? Think again. Men also have their own share of <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/sex-tips-for-married-couples\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">challenges in bed<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, and some of them are :<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><b>&nbsp;Reaching the finish line &ndash; quickly<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Most men would agree that one of the biggest issues that we have when it comes to making our women satisfied is that <\/span><b>we reach the finish line too quickly<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We want to keep up the pace and last longer &ndash; believe us, but we just can&rsquo;t!<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><b>Don&rsquo;t make her moan<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Nothing is more frustrating than &ldquo;not&rdquo; seeing your woman moan.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Men definitely see and feel if our woman isn&rsquo;t satisfied or is not being aroused. When a woman is aroused, her face says it all, and don&rsquo;t forget about those moans.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><b>No more thrill<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You kiss and take your clothes off. That&rsquo;s it, no more hiding so you won&rsquo;t get caught&mdash;no more slow-burn foreplay &ndash; just the basic sex, which is definitely boring.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Men can sometimes feel that they are losing their touch!<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Spice-up-your-sex-life\"><\/span><span data-sheets-userformat='{\"2\":15105,\"3\":{\"1\":0},\"11\":0,\"12\":0,\"14\":[null,2,0],\"15\":\"Calibri\",\"16\":11}' data-sheets-value='{\"1\":2,\"2\":\"spice up your sex life\"}'>Spice up your sex life<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One of the first things a man can do to spice up the bedroom is to be the best version of yourself as a person and as a partner.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you know how to respect your woman and be there to <\/span><b>engage in good communication,<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> chances are, both of you will be comfortable in sharing your needs and wants, especially with your sex life.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you want your partner to know what you want in bed and you want her to open up with what she wants, then what would you expect?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/conservancy.umn.edu\/bitstream\/handle\/11299\/194563\/Newstrom_umn_0130E_18926.pdf?sequence=1\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Good sexual <\/span><\/a><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">communication<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, honesty, respect, and appreciation will open doors to not just great sex life but an unforgettable one too!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong>Also watch:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/qjxNQ1QKyRY\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Fun-ideas-to-spice-up-the-bedroom\"><\/span><span data-sheets-userformat='{\"2\":15105,\"3\":{\"1\":0},\"11\":0,\"12\":0,\"14\":[null,2,0],\"15\":\"Calibri\",\"16\":11}' data-sheets-value='{\"1\":2,\"2\":\"ideas to spice up the bedroom\"}'>Fun ideas to spice up the bedroom<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Getting on the real deal here, we all want to know the things a man can do to spice up the bedroom. The road to becoming the best in fulfilling your partner&rsquo;s carnal fantasies is not that hard at all.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Just follow through with some of the easiest ways to spice up sex and <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/new-sex-tips-that-will-drive-your-wife-crazy\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">become better in bed<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1-Skip-the-Bed\"><\/span>1. Skip the Bed<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The best things to try in the bedroom or the sexy ideas for the bedroom may not even happen in the bedroom!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Skip the bed and try sex in a different place<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">! Try a midnight quickie in your garden, or maybe do it in the kitchen when your partner least expects it!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Be spontaneous, and be fun!<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<pre><em>Related Reading:&nbsp;<\/em><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/how-to-spice-things-up-in-the-bedroom\/\"><em>How to Spice Things up in the Bedroom<\/em><\/a><\/pre>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2-Open-your-eyes\"><\/span>2. Open your eyes<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When we kiss or when we are really enjoying sex, we tend to close our eyes.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Try this simple thing to spice up sex life &ndash; <\/span><b>open your eyes when you reach climax<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Stare at each other, don&rsquo;t close your eyes, and see how amazing it feels!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Seeing the look on each other&rsquo;s faces as you both reach climax is not just sexy but satisfying too.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3-See-yourself\"><\/span>3. See yourself<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-45982\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/See-yourself.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><b>Don&rsquo;t be shy!<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Turn on the lights or put mirrors where you can actually see the action. It&rsquo;s arousing, sexy, and wild at the same time!<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"4-Try-role-playing\"><\/span>4. Try role playing<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-72607 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/does-choking-your-partner-during-sex-gives-you-a-high.jpg\" alt=\"Beautiful woman and man hugging and kissing on the bed.\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Wondering how to spice up the bedroom? You can <\/span><b>start by exploring each other&rsquo;s fantasies by doing <\/b><b>sexual role plays<\/b><b>!<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Start with easy roles and try different and challenging roles the next time. It&rsquo;s a great way to fulfill each other&rsquo;s carnal fantasies.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5-Play-like-Christian-Grey\"><\/span>5. Play like Christian Grey<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-45984\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/Play-like-Christian-Grey.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you&rsquo;ve always admired Christian Grey, become him, <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">try out sex toys<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, and be unpredictable. If you want to be the best in bed &ndash; don&rsquo;t be shy!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There can be many things a man can do to spice up the bedroom, and one of them is being unpredictable and fun!<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"6-Play-some-music\"><\/span>6. Play some music<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Another sexy thing to do is to try out some sexy music in the background. <\/span><b>Try out slow seductive music to hard sexy R&amp;B.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Your mood will depend on the music that you&rsquo;ll choose. It adds spice to your sex life!<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"7-Shhh-Be-quiet\"><\/span>7. Shhh! Be quiet!<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We all know that things a man can do to spice up the bedroom include making your woman moan, right? Skip the loud moans and try quiet sex! It&rsquo;s fun and thrilling at the same time as you aren&rsquo;t allowed to make any noise!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You&rsquo;d be satisfied seeing how hard your partner contains herself from screaming your name!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There can be many things a man can do to spice up the bedroom, and you can even think of your own ways to <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/3-tips-for-better-sex-in-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">make sex better<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, not just for you but for your woman as well.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You just have to let go of any insecurities, doubts, and worries and enjoy sex as it is!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Be fun and be hot so you and your partner can enjoy a hot sex life!<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>All men want to be the best, may it be in their career, their relationship, and of course as a lover. Sometimes, there can be confusion about what a man can do to spice things up when it comes to pleasing your woman. But what can a man do to learn &lsquo;how to spice up the bedroom for her?&rsquo; A man can do things to spice up the bedroom, which even a creative woman may not think of. 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