

{"id":4003,"date":"2015-12-23T08:56:49","date_gmt":"2015-12-23T08:56:49","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=4003"},"modified":"2026-03-20T08:54:58","modified_gmt":"2026-03-20T08:54:58","slug":"the-role-of-romance-in-a-relationship-and-its-importance","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/romance\/the-role-of-romance-in-a-relationship-and-its-importance\/","title":{"rendered":"The Role of Romance in a Relationship and its Importance"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-29251 size-full\" title=\"The Role of Romance in a Relationship and its Importance\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/12\/The-Role-of-Romance-in-a-Relationship-and-its-Importance.jpg\" alt=\"The Role of Romance in a Relationship and its Importance\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In order to meet success, long-term relationships do take work. Many couples share in the sense that their relationships lack fulfillment after a period of time. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While turmoil in any relationship is part of the course, long-term feelings of neglect, or no romance in a relationship&nbsp;are not.<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The secret to keeping love alive is in putting forth the effort that you did when love was new.<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Indeed, partners often wonder why their relationships fail, where those loving feelings have gone, or why they feel under-appreciated by their partners. This generally happens after the &ldquo;honeymoon period&rdquo;.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In some cases, couples may not experience a&nbsp;<span data-sheets-value='{\"1\":2,\"2\":\"relationship without romance\"}' data-sheets-userformat='{\"2\":15105,\"3\":{\"1\":0},\"11\":0,\"12\":0,\"14\":[null,2,0],\"15\":\"Calibri\",\"16\":11}'>relationship without romance<\/span> for years. But what about the couples that never seem discontented, whose displays of admiration for one another are apparent even after decades of marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Indeed, they are doing something right. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/5-characteristics-of-happy-couples\/\">Happily married couples<\/a> with a long history together, have managed to preserve some of the elements that were present while they were in the early stages of courtship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Consider the time when you and your current partner were dating before things got serious. Though you had a lot of fun, you were probably putting in a great deal of effort to keep them interested. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What were those things you did differently, and how does the past compare with the present?<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Is-romance-necessary-in-a-relationship\"><\/span>Is romance necessary in a relationship?<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Romance is one of the most crucial elements of happiness in relationships. T<span data-sheets-value='{\"1\":2,\"2\":\"the importance of romance in a relationship\"}' data-sheets-userformat='{\"2\":15105,\"3\":{\"1\":0},\"11\":0,\"12\":0,\"14\":[null,2,0],\"15\":\"Calibri\",\"16\":11}'>he importance of romance in a relationship cannot be trivialized. <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span data-sheets-value='{\"1\":2,\"2\":\"the importance of romance in a relationship\"}' data-sheets-userformat='{\"2\":15105,\"3\":{\"1\":0},\"11\":0,\"12\":0,\"14\":[null,2,0],\"15\":\"Calibri\",\"16\":11}'>Still, m<\/span>any partners do not really know <span data-sheets-value='{\"1\":2,\"2\":\"how important is passion in a relationship\"}' data-sheets-userformat='{\"2\":15105,\"3\":{\"1\":0},\"11\":0,\"12\":0,\"14\":[null,2,0],\"15\":\"Calibri\",\"16\":11}'>how important is passion in a relationship<\/span>&nbsp;or the&nbsp;<span data-sheets-value='{\"1\":2,\"2\":\"benefits of romance\"}' data-sheets-userformat='{\"2\":15105,\"3\":{\"1\":0},\"11\":0,\"12\":0,\"14\":[null,2,0],\"15\":\"Calibri\",\"16\":11}'>benefits of romance.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Understanding <span data-sheets-value='{\"1\":2,\"2\":\"how important is affection in a relationship\"}' data-sheets-userformat='{\"2\":15105,\"3\":{\"1\":0},\"11\":0,\"12\":0,\"14\":[null,2,0],\"15\":\"Calibri\",\"16\":11}'>how important affection is in a relationship<\/span>&nbsp;is a necessary first step for those interested in <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-to-rekindle-love-back-into-a-relationship\/\">rekindling love<\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But what are the little things you did as a part of your <span data-sheets-value='{\"1\":2,\"2\":\"marriage romance\"}' data-sheets-userformat='{\"2\":15105,\"3\":{\"1\":0},\"11\":0,\"12\":0,\"14\":[null,2,0],\"15\":\"Calibri\",\"16\":11}'>marriage romance&nbsp;<\/span>to get his attention, to keep him interested, to win him over?&nbsp;<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We&rsquo;d be willing to bet those things are no longer happening.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We often do not realize how much work we were putting in in the beginning, nor do we understand <span data-sheets-value='{\"1\":2,\"2\":\"why romance is important in marriage\"}' data-sheets-userformat='{\"2\":15105,\"3\":{\"1\":0},\"11\":0,\"12\":0,\"14\":[null,2,0],\"15\":\"Calibri\",\"16\":11}'>why romance is important in marriage<\/span>, and how a lack of romance can lead to an emotional breakdown and stagnancy.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-is-the-importance-of-romance-in-a-relationship\"><\/span>What is the&nbsp;importance of romance in a relationship?<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>To understand its importance, first of all, we need to know what romance is.&nbsp;<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Generally, romance includes one or more of the following:<\/span><\/p>\n<ol><li>Small gestures: That convey affection, adoration, thoughtfulness, and love<\/li>\n<li>Activities or actions of novelty: Actions executed for no other purpose than to enhance feelings of joy and connectedness<\/li>\n<li>Class: Activities or events that add a touch of high living.<\/li>\n<li>Any actions which bring a couple closer or show thoughtfulness and adoration<\/li>\n<\/ol><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Romance needs to be a normal and necessary part of our lives. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And the truth is there are no secrets to romance &ndash; you need to know what works for your partner; what makes them happy and apply them as often as you can to sweeten your relationship. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sustaining a marriage demands work, cooperation, and commitment. A couple is already accustomed to these things but marriage does not have to be all about &lsquo;hard work&rsquo;. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You are in a marriage because the bottom line is &mdash; you love and cherish your partner. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you decide to <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/romance\/how-to-add-romance-to-a-relationship\/\">use romance to enhance your marriage<\/a>,<\/strong> you decide to use it as a tool to show that you care, that your marriage and partner are worth the effort. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">These small acts collectively will make your relationship stronger, healthier, and make it last longer. These are only a few&nbsp;<span data-sheets-value='{\"1\":2,\"2\":\"advantages of romance\"}' data-sheets-userformat='{\"2\":15105,\"3\":{\"1\":0},\"11\":0,\"12\":0,\"14\":[null,2,0],\"15\":\"Calibri\",\"16\":11}'>advantages of romance in a relationship.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<h2><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-10176 size-full\" title=\"How to rekindle or add romance in a relationship\" src=\"http:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/12\/94.jpg\" alt=\"How to rekindle or add romance in a relationship\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/h2>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How-to-rekindle-or-add-romance-to-a-relationship\"><\/span>How to rekindle or add romance to a relationship<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Years after marriage there are couples who still struggle with the idea of<a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/romance\/how-to-add-romance-to-a-relationship\/\"> how to be romantic in a relationship<\/a>. Creating romance in a relationship becomes easy when you become mindful of the below:<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Bonding<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Created through experiences that bring partners closer. This can be brought about through acts of affection, gift-giving, reminiscing, meaningful conversation, laughter, and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/\">intimacy<\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Fun<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"line-height: 1.5;\">Romance should be a joyful experience; and is often reflected through enjoyable activities such as going to the movies, the carnival, attending parties together, or playing games.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Humor<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Humor is a major element to most romance. Couples with a good sense of humor will enjoy cheesy adages, funny greeting cards, comics, and laughing at the absurd.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Nostalgia<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Being together a long time, couples are able to share memories by reflecting on the past. Going through old photos or revisiting past hang-out spots can bring back old feelings and thus, enhance bonds.<\/p>\n<p><b>Intimacy<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sex, romance, and relationships, all go hand in hand, sex in romantic relationships is integral to its health. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Introducing new elements into your sex life, or <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/how-often-do-married-couples-have-sex\/\">simply engaging in sexual activities more&nbsp;<\/a><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/how-often-do-married-couples-have-sex\/\">often<\/a>, will certainly increase romance. Although romance may lead <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">to intimacy, intimacy and romance can fuel one another.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Adventure<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Spontaneity &ndash; out of the ordinary activities that promote a sense of adventure, such as hiking in the woods together, getting &ldquo;lost&rdquo; on a drive, or doing something taboo- like visiting an adult book store- are great ways to create romance through the adventure.<\/span><br><b><\/b><\/p>\n<p><b>Respect<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Romancing your lover should convey respect and reciprocity.<\/span><br><b><\/b><\/p>\n<p><b>Appreciation<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Romance invites <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/love\/8-ways-to-show-appreciation-to-the-love-of-your-life\/\">appreciation<\/a>, likewise, appreciation will create the impetus to initiate romantic activities with your partner.<\/span><br><b><\/b><\/p>\n<p><b>Passion<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It involves strong feelings of enthusiasm, and joy, and powerful or compelling feelings of love and desiring.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Romance feeds the elements that comprise a loving relationship. Without it, desire and adoration for one another will almost assuredly fade, rendering the relationship dull and mundane.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Understanding the importance of practicing romance in your relationships will add spark to your love life, prolong feelings of connectedness &amp; result in your ultimate happiness for years to come.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Here-are-10-everyday-romantic-ideas-to-try\"><\/span>Here are 10 everyday romantic ideas to try:<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Now that we have established the&nbsp;importance of affection in a relationship, here are some everyday tips and ideas that can help you become more romantic:<\/span><\/p>\n<ol><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Get your spouse a wristwatch. Inscribe it with: &ldquo;I always have time for you.&rdquo;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Buy a lottery ticket. Give it to your spouse with a little note that says: &ldquo;I hit the jackpot when I married you!&rdquo;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Write &ldquo;I love you&rdquo; on the bathroom mirror with a piece of soap\/their lipstick. <\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When out in public, wink\/smile at your spouse from across the room.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ladies: Send your hubby a letter sealed with a kiss. <\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Send your spouse a trophy for being the &ldquo;World&rsquo;s Best Lover&rdquo;? Wink, wink. <\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Pick flowers for them from the side of the road. <\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Don&rsquo;t just go out to a movie on Saturday. Call your spouse from work on Wednesday and ask for a date. Best way to perk up a dull week. <\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Have &ldquo;your song&rdquo; playing on the stereo when your spouse returns home from work.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Cook together.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol><p>From small gestures to grand ones, there is a lot that you can do to rekindle the romance in your relationship. All that matters is your ability to make those efforts.<\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>In order to meet success, long-term relationships do take work. Many couples share in the sense that their relationships lack fulfillment after a period of time. While turmoil in any relationship is part of the course, long-term feelings of neglect, or no romance in a relationship&nbsp;are not. The secret to keeping love alive is in putting forth the effort that you did when love was new. Indeed, partners often wonder why their relationships fail, where those loving feelings have gone, or why they feel under-appreciated by their partners. This generally happens after the &ldquo;honeymoon period&rdquo;. In some cases, couples may <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":29251,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[25],"tags":[2557],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4003"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4003"}],"version-history":[{"count":47,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4003\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":118672,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4003\/revisions\/118672"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/29251"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4003"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4003"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4003"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}