

{"id":39779,"date":"2019-07-01T09:24:43","date_gmt":"2019-07-01T09:24:43","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=39779"},"modified":"2024-12-23T11:18:56","modified_gmt":"2024-12-23T11:18:56","slug":"intelligence-gap-in-marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/intelligence-gap-in-marriage\/","title":{"rendered":"Intelligence Gap in Marriage- Does It Matter? Experts Believe It Matters as Much as Love"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-39781 size-full\" title=\"Intelligence Gap in Marriage- Does It Matter? Experts Believe It Matters as Much as Love\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/Intelligence-Gap-in-Marriage-Does-It-Matter-Experts-Believe-It-Matters-as-Much-as-Love.jpg\" alt=\"Intelligence Gap in Marriage- Does It Matter? Experts Believe It Matters as Much as Love\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If we talk about healthy and successful relationships, we always <strong>pay attention to honesty, communication, and the level of trust<\/strong> among the partners. Even though these factors are the basis of any relation, there is one factor which is usually ignored. That factor is intelligence gap in marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Now the question that many couples fail to understand is, how much <strong>does intelligence matter in a relationship?<\/strong><\/span> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is a fact that usually this factor gets lost in the shuffle.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.researchgate.net\/publication\/258150996_The_Relationship_Between_Intelligence_and_Divorce\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\">Intelligence gap in marriages<\/a> is extremely important because it aids the couples in easily expressing out their emotions and at the same time help each other in managing their uncontrollable emotions.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How-to-determine-if-you-are-an-emotionally-intelligent-couple\"><\/span>How to determine if you are an emotionally intelligent couple?<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Is intelligence important in a relationship?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Experts believe it all depends upon<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">how partners communicate<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> with each other. It also depends upon how much we are aware of our partner&rsquo;s emotions and how we handle the most difficult of moments.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Some people are very much <strong>inclined towards emotional intelligence<\/strong>, but there is always a chance that you can learn about the&nbsp;intelligence gap in marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">According to <\/span><a class=\"editor-rtfLink\" href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/experts\/grady-shumway\" target=\"_blank\"><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">Grady Shumway<\/span><\/a><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">, a licensed mental health counselor:<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">Emotional intelligence in a relationship can be developed through practice, active listening, and empathy.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-preserver-spaces=\"true\">Couples who make a conscious effort to understand and support each other&rsquo;s emotions tend to strengthen their bond and manage challenges more effectively.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Reasons-why-experts-believe-emotional-intelligence-gap\"><\/span>Reasons why experts believe emotional intelligence gap<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is true that we ignore the fact that both<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/emotional-intimacy\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">love and intelligence<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> equally matter in successful relationships.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Those couples who fail to understand this fact, face problems and their relationship is more likely to fail or be unsatisfactory.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.gottman.com\/blog\/emotionally-intelligent-husbands-key-lasting-marriage\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">experts<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> firmly believe that <strong>intelligence gap in marriage plays a very important role in marriages<\/strong>.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Let&rsquo;s find out how important is equal intelligence in a relationship<\/b><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1-You-will-understand-each-other-in-a-better-way\"><\/span>1. You will understand each other in a better way<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<blockquote><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Empathy is clearly one of the most common signs of emotional intelligence. It has a huge impact on your relationship and also improves the quality of your relationship.<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The thing about empathy is the ability to understand and identify the challenges and rough patches you and your partner may be going through. It also means that you are capable of understanding those feelings, and manage them well too.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2-You-can-have-any-kind-of-conversation-with-your-partner\"><\/span>2. You can have any kind of conversation with your partner<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-38950 size-full\" title=\"You can have any kind of conversation with your partner\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/Signs-a-relationship-is-getting-serious.jpg\" alt=\"You can have any kind of conversation with your partner\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The best thing about equal intelligence in a relationship is, you do not have to fear about being judged or criticized. This is because <strong>constructive criticism in marriage is extremely important<\/strong> and gives you a chance to improve and grow as well.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If partners are open to constructive criticism, it means they are improving and getting better. Instead of attacking and blaming the other person, they give each other <strong>constructive feedback and criticism<\/strong>.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This allows them to <strong>work upon themselves<\/strong> and help each other grow while maintaining emotions and sensitivity towards each other.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3-Egos-aside-you-are-vulnerable-to-one-another\"><\/span>3. Egos aside, you are vulnerable to one another<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Although it is not a good idea to be vulnerable to anyone, in order to connect well with your partner, <strong>you must keep your egos aside<\/strong>.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is all part of emotional intelligence. It is not a bad thing if you are vulnerable and dependent upon your partner and have extreme feelings for your partner.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Grady Shumway, LMHC, further shares:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>Vulnerability promotes deep emotional connection and trust in a relationship, allowing both partners to feel understood and supported. By setting aside ego, couples create a safe space for genuine intimacy and growth.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"4-You-can-express-all-kinds-of-feelings-with-your-partner\"><\/span>4. You can express all kinds of feelings with your partner<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One of the best things about equal intelligence in a relationship is that you can just be open about your feelings. It is true that sometimes it takes years to discuss your true feelings to your partner openly. However, due to the&nbsp;equal level of intelligence, you will no longer need to waste so many years in expressing your feelings honestly.<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><em><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Speaking up or communication means that relationships become stronger.<\/span><\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is because if you will not speak, then those <strong>unexpressed feelings will be bottled up<\/strong>. These unspoken feelings will not even help you develop a good relationship with your partner.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5-Apologizing-will-be-way-easier\"><\/span>5. Apologizing will be way easier<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It can be very hard to let go of your pride and apologize for any mistake you might have made. But if you do so, it is one of the signs of intelligence and maturity. An emotionally intelligent partner does it because they know the importance of the relationship and value it more than their pride.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Intelligence gap in marriage matters a lot because it has the power to break down any kind of barriers between you and your partner. It also helps you to understand each other quite well.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">After reading the above-mentioned information regarding intelligence gap in marriage, you might have figured out the importance of it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Couples fail to understand the major role emotional intelligence plays to keep the<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-to-resolve-trust-issues-in-a-relationship\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">relationships stronger and intact.<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Partners who are equally intelligent can carry on their relationships for years without facing prolonged problems that may cause them to break up. The only thing which you have to remember is to <strong>have proper communication<\/strong> and the <strong>ability to express your feelings<\/strong> with your partner.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.researchgate.net\/publication\/283886890_Emotional_Intelligence_and_Marital_Satisfaction\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\">Studies<\/a> have revealed that those couples who have low scores of emotional intelligence have poor relationships which do not last for long. This also includes quality as well as the <strong>support of their relationship<\/strong>.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>If we talk about healthy and successful relationships, we always pay attention to honesty, communication, and the level of trust among the partners. Even though these factors are the basis of any relation, there is one factor which is usually ignored. That factor is intelligence gap in marriage. Now the question that many couples fail to understand is, how much does intelligence matter in a relationship? It is a fact that usually this factor gets lost in the shuffle. Intelligence gap in marriages is extremely important because it aids the couples in easily expressing out their emotions and at the <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":675,"featured_media":39781,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[2502],"tags":[2601],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/39779"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/675"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=39779"}],"version-history":[{"count":6,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/39779\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":106539,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/39779\/revisions\/106539"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/39781"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=39779"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=39779"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=39779"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}