{"id":38689,"date":"2019-06-06T08:49:01","date_gmt":"2019-06-06T08:49:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=38689"},"modified":"2023-06-06T08:49:01","modified_gmt":"2023-06-06T08:49:01","slug":"how-to-discipline-your-child","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/parenting\/how-to-discipline-your-child\/","title":{"rendered":"A Parents Advice on How to Discipline Your Child"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

\"Parent's<\/p>\n

It is a parent’s right and privilege to discipline their own child. The truth is nobody, not even your own folks have the right to tell you how to raise your own children.<\/span><\/p>\n

The first thing you need to understand is the goal. <\/span>Discipline is not for you, it is for the child<\/span><\/a>. Managing a child with self-discipline is rewarding for the parent, but what’s truly important is your children have the drive to clean up after themselves when you are not looking. <\/span><\/p>\n

So, how can you discipline your child?<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>Discipline and tough love<\/span><\/h2>\n

Your child will grow up someday, and you will no longer be able to control their decision-making process. You have one chance to make sure your child makes the right choice all the time.<\/span><\/p>\n

The moment they fall under the influence of their peers, your moral lessons become less and less important. Unless it is deeply embedded in their personality and subconscious, your child is vulnerable to more dangerous forms of influence. <\/span><\/p>\n

Peer pressure is powerful and can undermine an entire decade of parental discipline.<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

A lot of parents are under denial that their children will never fall to peer pressure. They act surprised when their children end up dead from a drug overdose, suicide, or shootouts with the police. They claim that their child will never do those things, but in the end, all their speculations, drama, and delusions will not change the fact that their child is dead. <\/span><\/p>\n

If you don’t want to experience this, make sure your child doesn’t even start down that road.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>What can you do to discipline your child<\/span><\/h2>\n

\"Things<\/p>\n

The examples given above are extreme worst-case scenarios, and hopefully, it won’t happen to you. <\/span><\/p>\n

But those are not the only negative impact on a child or young adult if they lack discipline. They can do poorly in school and end up working dead-end jobs for the rest of their lives. <\/span><\/p>\n

Entrepreneurship is also a path to success, but it’s twice as hard and requires 10 times more discipline than working a 9-5 job.<\/span><\/p>\n

There are things to consider when you are disciplining your child. It should be a balance between doting on your child and<\/span> teaching them discipline<\/span><\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n

Doing too much in either direction will have undesirable results. Giving in to their wants too much and you will raise a spoiled brat that hates you and disciplining them too much will raise a monster that also hates you.<\/span><\/p>\n

There is no “perfect age” to start teaching kids discipline, it depends on their cognitive development. <\/span><\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

According to the <\/span>Piaget Child Development Theory<\/span><\/a>, a child learns how to reason, logic processes, and distinguish between reality and make-believe in the third concrete stage. Children are able to step into this stage as early as four years old or as late as seven.<\/span><\/p>\n

Here is a list of requirements before disciplining a child.<\/span><\/p>\n