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It’s funny how often we notice things that are happening to others, but we don’t see what’s happening to ourselves. The same thing happens a lot in relationships. We see others in a healthy relationship or observe problems in unhealthy ones, but we miss signs on our own.<\/span><\/p>\n Psychologists say that it is a classic case of the <\/span>boiling frog experiment<\/span><\/a>. Subtle incremental shifts are harder to notice than sudden and abrupt changes. That’s why we hardly notice it when we gain a few pounds, but see it outright from other people who we haven’t seen for a while.<\/span><\/p>\n It is human nature to reject change when we are happy and content. People focus their attention on other aspects of their lives, and subconsciously neglect their intimate relationships. Small cracks are often ignored and left unattended until the foundations of the relationship come falling down their heads.<\/span><\/p>\n It’s natural to be complacent when you have trust and security. Both are major ingredients for a healthy and long-lasting relationship, and partners rely on that trust and security believing that nothing will ever change.<\/span><\/p>\n But things do change, intimate relationships are like a fire, it needs to be maintained to keep it burning. People in long-term healthy relationships neglect to do it, believing that their partner will never do anything to hurt them. That is true in most cases, but there are times, even without third-party intervention, that the relationship is ruined even if that wasn’t the intention.<\/span><\/p>\n That is why a periodic maintenance inspection is necessary to prevent problems from costing you down the line, just like what you do with your car.<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n Healthy relationships vs Unhealthy relationships vs Complacent relationships<\/b><\/p>\n Healthy relationships freely communicate their thoughts and feelings with words and actions. The couple shares every concern and victory, and they are always on the same page. <\/span><\/p>\n Unhealthy relationships have no communication at all if ever there is any, it’s either an argument or one dictating to the other. <\/span><\/p>\n Complacent relationships assume that no words are needed and everything is understood right away.<\/span><\/p>\n Healthy relationships and complacent couples are loyal to each other. There is transparency and trust in both healthy and complacent relationships. <\/span><\/p>\n All complacent relationships started as a healthy one, it is that trust that made the couple complacent in the first place. <\/span><\/p>\n Unhealthy relationships have physical or <\/span>emotional infidelity<\/span><\/a>. The couple does it on purpose, but not to hurt their partner, they are simply reaching out to compensate what’s lacking in their relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n Couples in healthy relationships look forward to their future together. They are constantly discussing their plans. It’s in sync with their individual life goals, and they are consistently working on it. <\/span><\/p>\n Unhealthy relationships, on the other hand, do nothing of the sort. They are simply living in the present and doing their own thing with at least one of the partners disregarding the feelings of the other. <\/span><\/p>\n Complacent relationships assume that everything is perfect, and nothing needs to be done for a bright future together.<\/span><\/p>\n It is practically impossible for any relationship to have no conflicts, even intimate and healthy ones. Healthy relationships discuss it in the open, and both parties work towards resolving them. <\/span><\/p>\n In unhealthy relationships, the conflicts are part of the background, and very little is done to change it. It is part of their <\/span>toxic<\/span><\/a> and suffocating lifestyle.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/span>Healthy relationships: Comfort, contentment, and complacency<\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>1. Open communication \/ No communication \/ Assumed communication<\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>2. Fidelity \/ Infidelity \/ Fidelity<\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>3. Forward-looking \/ Living in the present \/ Assumed future<\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>4. Resolve conflicts \/ Constant issues \/ Ignore problems<\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>5. Positive behavior \/ Destructive behavior \/ Positive behavior<\/span><\/h2>\n