{"id":36471,"date":"2019-04-08T10:58:55","date_gmt":"2019-04-08T10:58:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=36471"},"modified":"2023-07-18T07:22:58","modified_gmt":"2023-07-18T07:22:58","slug":"fear-of-rejection","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/fear-of-rejection\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Overcome Fear of Rejection in Any Aspect of Life"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-46286 size-full\" title=\"Fear of rejection\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/Fear-of-Rejection-101-All-You-Need-to-Know1.jpg\" alt=\"Fear of rejection\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Rejection is a very bitter pill to swallow, but unfortunately, most of us have taken a dose of it.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Whether it was for a job we applied and didn&rsquo;t get or a college we submitted our application to and did not get accepted; almost all of us have experienced rejection first hand.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Hearing the words no and not interested does not feel good at all regardless of how much you try to focus on the bright side. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Fear of rejection is common with everyone; it breaks many hearts, causes you to cry and creates fear in you deep down inside that soon becomes a hard-to-remove stain.<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Fear of rejection phobia is often referred to as rejection sensitivity in psychology literature. <\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When feeling rejected, it becomes an obstacle to your happiness and success. Getting over rejection is no easy feat.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So,&nbsp;how to get over rejection? <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Well, with some simple tricks, overcoming the fear of rejection can become very easy for you to do. So, read below to know all about fear of rejection and how to&nbsp;work at overcoming rejection.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Fear-of-rejection-symptoms\"><\/span>Fear of rejection symptoms<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Some symptoms and signs to look out for:<\/p>\n<ul><li><strong>You hesitate to express your opinion<\/strong> as you fear being judged and rejected<\/li>\n<li><strong>You try to blend in<\/strong> as you want to feel included and a part of the tribe.<\/li>\n<li>You have difficulty asserting yourself firmly and <strong>can&rsquo;t say no.<\/strong><\/li>\n<li>You get a better sense of self-worth by being socially likable, and that&rsquo;s why <strong>you end up being a people-pleaser<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>You feel inadequate<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>You put on a pretense of being someone else to impress others<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>You don&rsquo;t easily express your disagreement with others<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>You feel socially isolated and awkward<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>Your mind is often drifted to self-loathing<\/strong> and harsh, critical thought about yourself<\/li>\n<\/ul><h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Psychological-effects-of-rejection\"><\/span>Psychological effects of rejection<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-46287 size-full\" title=\"Psychological effects of rejection\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/Psychological-effects-of-rejection.jpg\" alt=\"Psychological effects of rejection\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p>Fear of rejection is for real.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.apa.org\/monitor\/2012\/04\/rejection\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\">Rejection inflicts a lot of pain and damage<\/a> to our well being and leaves us with a lot of social pain.<\/p>\n<ul><li>Neurologically speaking, when we experience rejection, the same part of the brain gets activated as when we undergo an injury or physical pain. <strong>Rejection is in no way less hurting than aggravated physical pain.<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>Fear of rejection can propel the need to rectify our mistakes or incorrect behavior<\/strong>, in the process helping us improve to survive and thrive.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Rejection elicits aggressiveness in people and they end up lashing out.&nbsp;<\/strong><\/li>\n<li>Fear of rejection in a relationship makes people doubt their abilities and self-worth, l<strong>eading them to a path of self-destruction.<\/strong><\/li>\n<li>It<strong> impairs our decision-making abilities<\/strong> and temporarily lowers our intelligence level.<\/li>\n<\/ul><p>Also watch:<br><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/5motuzyLXIk\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How-to-overcome-the-fear-of-rejection\"><\/span>How to overcome the fear of rejection<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As mentioned above,&nbsp;fear of being rejected has different challenges and emotional wounds it comes with, and before you learn how to overcome the fear of rejection, you must know the three most common rejection situations.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1-Work\"><\/span>1. Work<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Before delving into&nbsp;how to deal with rejection in love or relationships, let&rsquo;s plunge into another important aspect of life.<\/p>\n<p>Let&rsquo;s understand the<a href=\"https:\/\/us.experteer.com\/magazine\/how-to-deal-with-work-rejection\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"> dynamics of work and the rejection that entail at the workplace<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When it comes to work, there are two kinds of rejection,<strong> social rejection, and professional rejection.<\/strong> <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This comes to light when you feel as if you are passed over a promotion you deserve or are not given enough responsibilities.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">On the other hand, when dealing with a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.researchgate.net\/publication\/332605913_Fear_of_Rejection_Scale_Development_and_Validation\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\">phobia of rejection<\/a>, you can also struggle to fit in with your clients and colleagues and feel as if they don&rsquo;t hang out with you or invite you with them as they spend time.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2-Friendship\"><\/span>2. Friendship<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When entering new friendships, you can feel as if you are being rejected, especially if you are trying hard to connect more than the other person. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Alternatively, with long term friendship, you can feel like your friends are simply using you for favors and taking advantage of you without reciprocating them back. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Or maybe you can feel like you are pushed out of the group or ignored as soon as your friends all get together.&nbsp;Getting over the fear of rejection in such situations is challenging and needs a lot of inner strength.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3-Romantic-relationships\"><\/span>3. Romantic relationships<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When it comes to being scared of rejection, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.sciencedaily.com\/releases\/2010\/07\/100706150611.htm\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\">dealing with rejection during a romantic relationship<\/a> can be incredibly tough. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, the<\/span> fear of rejection in relationships<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;is incredibly common. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Whether you struggle with <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/why-do-men-hate-rejection-so-much\/\">dealing with rejection as a girl or a<\/a><\/span> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">guy<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, the feeling of shame and pain is pretty much the same. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Most of the time, people in happy and long-lasting relationships end up questioning things such as how to initiate<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/start-sexual-communication\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">sex<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> without fear of rejection. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">During this fear of rejection, you may feel pessimistic about your love life and even undesirable. This fear of rejection can also take place due to a lack of<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">communication<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, do not worry, because mentioned below are some tips that will help you overcome this fear of rejection easily.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Overcoming-fear-of-rejection\"><\/span>Overcoming fear of rejection<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><strong>&nbsp;<img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-36474 size-full\" title=\"Overcoming fear of rejection\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/Overcoming-fear-of-rejection.jpg\" alt=\"Overcoming fear of rejection\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/strong><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1-Reject-the-self-fulfilling-ideology\"><\/span>1. Reject the self-fulfilling ideology<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Whenever you hold on to the false assumption that everyone will simply reject you, you tend to create situations where rejection is bound to take place. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Without even knowing, you will be sending out signals that will push others away and turn all your fears into reality.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So instead of doing this, it<strong> is important that you battle the self-fulfilling prophecy by looking for signals of acceptance<\/strong> and write them down.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2-Practice-being-sensitive-in-small-steps\"><\/span>2. Practice being sensitive in small steps<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The thing that is very common with rejection is a vulnerability. People avoid being honest with the other person because it makes them sound too sensitive and vulnerable. <\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><em><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When dealing with rejection, it is important that you do not try to continue walking on eggshells or shove your negative feelings away.<\/span><\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Instead, try to express your feelings and thoughts as clearly as you can in a more respectful and clear way. This will help in reducing resentment that will follow rejection.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3-Stop-being-a-victim\"><\/span>3. Stop being a victim<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you continue to see yourself as a victim, your actions will continue to show a negative version of yourself. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, once you let go of being a victim, you will start to see positive things happening all around you.<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><em><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Instead of having pity on yourself and your life, focus on the strengths you have; focus on the attributes that you have that allowed you to cope in life. <\/span><\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Avoid obsessing over the past choices and situations you have gone through and try to learn from them as an alternative.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As the famous<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.azquotes.com\/quotes\/topics\/fear-of-rejection.html\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">fear of rejection quote<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> goes, by Robert Foster Bennett <strong>&ldquo;It is not rejecting itself the people fear, it is the possible consequences of rejection.&rdquo; <\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Once you overcome your rejection and prepare to accept the consequences that come along with it, you will be able to live life more freely. <\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Rejection is a very bitter pill to swallow, but unfortunately, most of us have taken a dose of it.&nbsp; Whether it was for a job we applied and didn&rsquo;t get or a college we submitted our application to and did not get accepted; almost all of us have experienced rejection first hand. Hearing the words no and not interested does not feel good at all regardless of how much you try to focus on the bright side. 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