

{"id":36454,"date":"2019-04-08T10:26:24","date_gmt":"2019-04-08T10:26:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=36454"},"modified":"2023-04-08T10:26:24","modified_gmt":"2023-04-08T10:26:24","slug":"spot-a-female-narcissist","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/spot-a-female-narcissist\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Spot a Female Narcissist"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-36456 size-full\" title=\"How to Spot a Female Narcissist\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/How-to-Spot-a-Female-Narcissist.jpg\" alt=\"How to Spot a Female Narcissist\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a condition where one&rsquo;s grandiose self-belief leads to a lack of empathy for other people. &nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The term is derived from the Greek Mythological character Narcissus, who has a taste for beauty, and after seeing his own reflection in a lake, he fell in love with himself and ignored everyone else. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Contrary to popular belief, modern people with NPD are capable of love. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They just love themselves more and see everyone around as an object for their own self-gratification. Unlike the Greek character Narcissus who ignored everyone else to look at his own reflection until he died, modern narcissists are extroverts that crave for validation from other people. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Narcissism is a gender-neutral personality disorder. A lot of Alpha males have it to some degree, but there are also female narcissists.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It goes without saying that relationship with a narcissistic person is unhealthy. Here are some tips on how to spot a female narcissist.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Female narcissist traits<\/b><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"She-feels-pleasure-from-others-pain\"><\/span>She feels pleasure from others pain<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Most people overlook female bullies. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The stereotype bully is a physically fit male with his army of physically fit men preying on the weak and helpless. The <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/liveboldandbloom.com\/09\/emotional-abuse\/female-narcissist\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Queen<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, with her own army of slightly less attractive but still higher than average girls, also preys on the weak, is simply described as a &ldquo;mean girl.&rdquo; <\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"She-is-vindictive\"><\/span>She is vindictive<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<blockquote><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Nothing gets past a narcissistic female, a wrong comment, a bad break-up, even something as simple as not acknowledging her greatness will backlash on some poor individual.<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Threats-are-squashed-like-a-bug\"><\/span>Threats are squashed like a bug<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Anyone who competes against her in anything will be bullied. No exceptions. If the target fights back, see the previous trait. <\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"A-female-narcissist-is-materialistic-and-brand-conscious\"><\/span>A female narcissist is materialistic and brand conscious<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">She has to have the latest this and that. She has to have the prettiest, most advanced, most expensive potpourri and whatchamacallit. Of course, it goes without saying that everyone will have to feel jealous of her because of it, or else see the previous two traits.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"A-queen-is-a-queen\"><\/span>A queen is a queen<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Female narcissists are delusional and believe they are modern day Queens. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">She expects to be treated like one (see previous three traits). To commoners who have not met a Queen before, a queen is never late, never apologizes, the center of the universe, and everyone else was born to serve her. Anyone who has a problem with this &ldquo;off with their heads.&rdquo;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"She-believes-everyone-is-jealous-of-her\"><\/span>She believes everyone is jealous of her<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Because she is perfect, everyone is jealous of her. Because she is perfect, anything that goes wrong is someone else&rsquo;s fault. Anything that contradicts this statement (see previous four traits).<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"She-is-also-bipolar\"><\/span>She is also bipolar<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">She is either very happy or having a bitch fit.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s pretty easy to spot a female narcissist. She is so desperate for attention that anyone can spot her a mile away. She is a temptress and the personification of a succubus. She will use everything in the female arsenal to get anyone&rsquo;s attention. However, female narcissist believes they only deserve the best. So unless you&rsquo;re Jon Bon Jovi, you don&rsquo;t have a chance in hell.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How-to-deal-with-a-female-narcissist\"><\/span>How to deal with a female narcissist<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-34404 size-full\" title=\"How to deal with a female narcissist\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/Do-Women-Watch-Porn-%E2%80%94-All-Your-Questions-Answered.jpg\" alt=\"How to deal with a female narcissist\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The best option is to stay away, the moment you are in her radar, then you are either her prey or a bug. Make no mistake, she is bat-shit crazy. Female narcissist sociopaths will use anything in her disposal to get what she wants. If she fails, some poor sod will be punished.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, as a temptress, female narcissists are also divas. She naturally attracts people due to her good looks and desirable body. A lot of people are blinded by this and becomes close to her without realizing the danger until it&rsquo;s too late.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you or someone you care about is tangled in her web, then here are some ways to help deal with her.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Know-thyself\"><\/span>Know thyself<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do not engage in a fight you cannot win. That is a formula for disaster. Do not underestimate the Queen and the army of zombies that follow her. Unless you have your own army that&rsquo;s willing to fight to the death for you. Think of a different strategy.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Assess-the-situation\"><\/span>Assess the situation<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Taking something from a female narcissist, even someone insignificant to her is a declaration of war. The closer that person is to her, the harder it is to wrestle that person from her grasp. If that person is you, you have to consider how much she values your contribution to her empire.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If the person is someone else, never let them know your plans. You don&rsquo;t know where their loyalties lie. Female narcissists are scheming, manipulative, backstabbers.They fight dirty and will not hesitate to use the person you care about against you.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Take-it-slow\"><\/span>Take it slow<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There is no point reasoning with a female narcissist <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/unhealthy-relationships\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">sociopath<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. It will only make her see you as a threat, and unless you are ready to fight a long battle of attrition, you just surrendered your only advantage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Slowly drive a wedge between that person and the Queen. It&rsquo;s a long term project, so you have to learn how to be patient. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Back-off at the first sign of trouble. <\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do what you can to stay off her radar. Female narcissists believe that everyone is an insignificant bug and she is too focused on herself to care.<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is her only weakness. Exploit it.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Patience-is-a-virtue\"><\/span>Patience is a virtue<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Female narcissists will never believe it, but she&rsquo;s a big fish in a small pond. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There are far more powerful people in the world, and some of them are narcissists themselves. &nbsp;You don&rsquo;t have to do anything for them to meet. It&rsquo;s bound to happen sooner or later. Your job is to get the person or yourself out of the way before you get stuck between a rock and a hard place.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The rule of thumb here is to stay away from <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/being-selfish-in-a-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">suffocating negative people<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Unless you are a narcissistic antagonist person yourself, there is nothing to gain by confronting a female narcissist directly. If you believe that seeing them suffer is worth all the trouble, then reread the first trait of a narcissist in this blog.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a condition where one&rsquo;s grandiose self-belief leads to a lack of empathy for other people. &nbsp; The term is derived from the Greek Mythological character Narcissus, who has a taste for beauty, and after seeing his own reflection in a lake, he fell in love with himself and ignored everyone else. Contrary to popular belief, modern people with NPD are capable of love. They just love themselves more and see everyone around as an object for their own self-gratification. 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