{"id":35839,"date":"2019-03-19T07:15:51","date_gmt":"2019-03-19T07:15:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=35839"},"modified":"2023-05-02T16:34:41","modified_gmt":"2023-05-02T16:34:41","slug":"is-my-husband-a-narcissist","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/is-my-husband-a-narcissist\/","title":{"rendered":"Is My Husband a Narcissist or Just Selfish?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

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Day after day, you see the real personality of the man you married.<\/span><\/p>\n

While you might hate some of his quirks and habits, they are still tolerable and, at times, a sign that you love each other because he can be himself when you are together.<\/span><\/p>\n

However, when you begin to see traits like extreme jealousy, lies, and pretensions, you question the person you just married.<\/span><\/p>\n

Do you question, my husband is a narcissist or just selfish? How can you even tell?<\/span><\/p>\n

Related Reading:<\/i><\/b>  <\/span>20 Signs of a Selfish Husband and How to Deal With Him<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n
<\/span>Traits of a narcissist<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n
We’re all familiar with how a person can be selfish just by the word itself, but a narcissist is something different.<\/span><\/p>\n
Don’t base your conclusions on just a few traits but rather as a whole because we’re talking about a personality disorder.<\/span><\/p>\n
NPD stands for <\/span>narcissistic personality disorder<\/span><\/a>,<\/span> not a trait that you can use to tag anyone you see exhibiting only a few signs.<\/span><\/p>\n
NPD has much more than just the love of a great life and being self-absorbed.<\/span><\/p>\n
To get a glimpse, here are some of the traits that you will find in your husband if he suffers from NPD.<\/b><\/p>\n
  1. He will and can turn every conversation to him.<\/span><\/li>\n
  2.  Expects you as his wife to only focus on him and no one else so you can meet his every demand and emotional need.<\/span><\/li>\n
  3.  Doesn’t show care about how he depreciates you as a person.<\/span><\/li>\n
  4.  Implies that he is the only one who knows what is best for you and will discourage you from making your own decisions.<\/span><\/li>\n
  5.  A narcissist husband will focus on blaming you or other people rather than taking responsibility.<\/span><\/li>\n
  6.  Expects you to be there whenever he needs you. No reasons and no excuses.<\/span><\/li>\n
  7.  Doesn’t see that you have your own needs, too, because he is overly involved with his world.<\/span><\/li>\n
  8.  Wants to be the center of attention and will do everything to have it – even if it means he has to belittle you or his children.<\/span><\/li>\n
  9.  He will never admit a mistake and will divert the issue to you. He is closed-minded and will never accept any form of criticism.<\/span><\/li>\n
  10.  He can still throw tantrums at his age when he doesn’t get what he wants.<\/span><\/li>\n
  11.  Lives with the mindset that he is better than everyone else<\/span><\/li>\n
  12.  He can be incredibly charming and may seem so perfect with other people. Will show a different personality to prove he is a catch.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>
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    <\/span>What does narcissism look like in a marriage?<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n
    Narcissism in marriage<\/span><\/a> is not always visible. However, it never remains hidden. Narcissistic partners treat their partners like trophies and try to control their lives. <\/span><\/p>\n
    Narcissists expect their partners to behave as per their expectations. They like to manipulate their partners and situations in their married life. Such people also behave irrationally when they fear that they might be losing control over their partner.<\/span><\/p>\n
    <\/span>7 Signs you have a narcissistic husband<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n
    So to help you along in identifying the signs of a narcissistic husband, we have created a checklist for you.  <\/span><\/p>\n
    A person with <\/span>Narcissistic Personality Disorder <\/span><\/a>continuously seeks out other people’s admiration, and they display high levels of self-grandiosity and lack of empathy.<\/span><\/p>\n
    A little narcissism can be healthy – it stops us from being walked all over and becoming so selfless that we can’t survive.<\/span><\/p>\n
    But when a person is too self-absorbed, as in the case of narcissism, it becomes a personality disorder; it’s a cause of concern.  <\/span><\/p>\n
    If your partner exhibits the traits of a narcissistic husband, it could be detrimental to your well-being and sense of self.<\/b><\/p>\n
    1. He puts people down <\/b><\/h3>\n
    He always talks about people in a destructive manner or puts them down with his words. Nothing is encouraging or appreciating that comes out of his mouth for you and others. <\/span><\/p>\n
    2. He prefers people who flatter him<\/b><\/h3>\n
    He always prefers the company of people who agree with him and flatter him. People who are always ready to roll with him even when he is entirely wrong. He likes to be the center of attraction. He enjoys feeling like the most important person in the room. <\/span><\/p>\n
    3. He behaves negatively <\/b><\/h3>\n
    Your husband responds negatively when you share certain behaviors or manner of speaking that you do not appreciate. You can’t reason with him as he thinks there is no room for improvement as he is perfect. He makes you feel guilty about thinking bad of him. <\/span><\/p>\n
    Related Reading: <\/b>10 Signs of Ego in Relationship and What to Do<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n
    4. He makes up lies<\/b><\/h3>\n
    He habitually makes lies unnecessarily, mostly because he doesn’t want to admit his fault. He always comes up with excuses. <\/span><\/p>\n
    Watch this video to know some signs through which you can determine if he is lying to you or not :<\/b><\/p>\n