

{"id":35695,"date":"2019-03-15T06:51:09","date_gmt":"2019-03-15T06:51:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=35695"},"modified":"2023-06-03T10:44:46","modified_gmt":"2023-06-03T10:44:46","slug":"what-to-expect-before-youre-expecting","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/pregnancy\/what-to-expect-before-youre-expecting\/","title":{"rendered":"What to Expect Before You&#8217;re Expecting"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-35697 size-full\" title=\"What to Expect Before You're Expecting\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/what-to-expect-before-youre-expecting.jpg\" alt=\"What to Expect Before You're Expecting\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In a<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/opa.hhs.gov\/adolescent-health?adolescent-development\/reproductive-health-and-teen-pregnancy\/teen-pregnancy-and-childbearing\/trends\/index.html\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">2016 study<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, It showed that 209,809 US births are from women aged 15-19 with 89% of them out of wedlock. To put that number into perspective, it is close to the number of US Soldiers who died in World War I, the Vietnam War, and the Korean War combined.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Interpreting it in another way, it only took one year (in 2016) for American teen girls to replace all the population lost by the United States in three out the four major wars of the 20th century. Yes, just teen girls, it doesn&rsquo;t even count other age brackets.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It creates the impression that making babies is easy. However, the majority of the population decides to wait. There are some who wait until after they are married, just like what their parents told them.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So for married couples who are ready to have children, here is a list of<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.infertilitytexas.com\/blog\/fertility-expectations-vs.-reality\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">interesting statistics<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> on what to expect before you are expecting.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"The-ability-to-conceive-on-a-natural-basis-is-only-20-per-month\"><\/span>The ability to conceive on a natural basis is only 20% per month<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It means that there are only 5-7 days in your wife&rsquo;s cycle that she can get pregnant. If she has regular menstruation and familiar with the<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/healthengine.com.au\/info\/calendar-based-methods-of-contraception\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> calendar rhythm method<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> of contraception, then you should know what specific days it is.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, for married couples who want to have a baby. Just do the opposite of what the calendar rhythm method recommends.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"10-to-15-of-couples-in-the-US-have-difficulty-conceiving\"><\/span>10% to 15% of couples in the US have difficulty conceiving<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">15% is a fairly low percentage, but considering there are over 60 million married couples in the states, that&rsquo;s a high number of individuals. If you are part of this minority trying but failing to have children the old-fashioned way, consult a doctor.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If either the husband or the wife has health problems that can affect pregnancy, it can only be found by a doctor through several laboratory tests. Blocked fallopian tubes, damaged uterus, and low sperm counts are the usual suspects. None of those can be diagnosed without a physician.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Age-matters\"><\/span>Age matters<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<blockquote><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The fertility of women drops drastically from the age of 35 onwards. The same goes for men when they reach the age of 40.<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you waited too long getting everything pitch perfect for the baby or simply having too much fun to have an infant ruin all of it, then you&rsquo;re out of luck.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We are not Elves or Turtles. There comes a point in our lives that age catches up with us and we are no longer as vibrant as we used to be. The reproductive system drastically deteriorates over time. It is the only organ system that can shut down while we are still alive.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Modern medicine has ways to compensate for trying to conceive at an advanced age. It will require constant monitoring by a professional and supporting medication. Close observation will not guarantee a safe full-term pregnancy and delivery, but it would increase the chances of success.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Get-healthy\"><\/span>Get healthy<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-35698 size-full\" title=\"Get healthy\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/Get-healthy.jpg\" alt=\"Get healthy\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Just because you&rsquo;re in your 20&rsquo;s that doesn&rsquo;t mean you are a picture of health.<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Urbanized sedentary lifestyle, medication, genetics, pollution, vices, and other toxins can greatly affect our body&rsquo;s ability to procreate.<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">An unhealthy body that may or may not be your fault can greatly affect the body&rsquo;s ability to have children. This goes the same for both male and females. Even<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au\/health\/conditionsandtreatments\/weight-fertility-and-pregnancy-health\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">weight can also become a factor<\/span><\/a> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">when trying to conceive. If you are able to conceive even with health problems, it increases the risk of complications during pregnancy and birth.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Pregnancy complications is a serious matter. There are cases of pregnancy and childbirth-related deaths. It may not be a common case, but it isn&rsquo;t rare either.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It might be nothing<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When a couple tries to have a baby and fails. There is nothing wrong with trying again. Give it a full year before considering something is wrong.<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.webmd.com\/infertility-and-reproduction\/features\/getting-pregnant-can-be-harder-than-looks#1\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">85% of couples are able to produce a child within their first year<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, it follows that 15% does not. It is a hit and miss game and doing it every day can reduce sperm count in men.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If neither partner has age, health, or weight issues, then wait a bit and play the odds a bit longer before panicking and going to a doctor. The chances of succeeding are higher in the short 12-14 hour window after ovulation.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here are some<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.thebump.com\/a\/ovulation-symptoms-signs-of-ovulation\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">symptoms of ovulation<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<ol><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Cervical mucus changes<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A heightened sense of smell<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Breast soreness or tenderness<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Mild pelvic or lower abdominal pain<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Light spotting or discharge<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Libido changes<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Changes in the cervix<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So play your cards right and it may happen. It is statistically possible to miss that 20% chance a month, for several months in a row. So plan ahead by setting aside a &ldquo;session&rdquo; during the ovulation period, and increase sperm density through abstinence a few days to a week prior to it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There is nothing wrong with<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/sex-scheduling-is-not-a-dirty-word\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sex scheduling<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, especially for married couples trying to have a child. Spontaneity has its uses, but when you are intentionally trying to get pregnant, all the more reason to set aside an appointed time in your busy schedule to actually do it.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"There-is-a-lot-to-plan-when-you-want-to-conceive\"><\/span>There is a lot to plan when you want to conceive<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Having children and starting family can be the ultimate goal of marriage for some couples. After reading this article, you may think that it&rsquo;s actually harder than it looks. But it&rsquo;s not. It only applies to 15% of the population.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For the significantly larger 85%, getting knocked up the old-fashioned way happens naturally and flawlessly. So don&rsquo;t worry about it, stress also lowers fertility and stressing over nothing is twice the loss.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Having children is a<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/parenting\/life-after-the-baby\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">rewarding and fulfilling journey<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Making them is the same. You don&rsquo;t lose anything by it trying over and over with your loved one. So what to expect before you&rsquo;re expecting? Lots of action.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If all else fails, there&rsquo;s always<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/americanpregnancy.org\/getting-pregnant\/infertility\/in-vitro-fertilization\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In Virto Fertilization (IVF)<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. It is a process of fertilizing an extracted egg from the wife with a sperm sample from your husband in a laboratory environment. The embryo is then surgically implanted back to the mother&rsquo;s uterus.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So congratulations in advance to you and your future family. If the old-fashioned natural method is not working for you, modern science has your back.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>In a 2016 study, It showed that 209,809 US births are from women aged 15-19 with 89% of them out of wedlock. To put that number into perspective, it is close to the number of US Soldiers who died in World War I, the Vietnam War, and the Korean War combined. Interpreting it in another way, it only took one year (in 2016) for American teen girls to replace all the population lost by the United States in three out the four major wars of the 20th century. Yes, just teen girls, it doesn&rsquo;t even count other age brackets. 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