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So many people dream of a great married life. Let’s say; astounding chemistry, crazy love, and life with the type of spouse they’ve always dreamt about. Beautiful!<\/span><\/p>\n It’s a beautiful thing to feel that way. It’s super sweet to anticipate those soul-awing things. But how many people prepare for love? Or is it enough to expect all that from the other person and count oneself out?<\/span><\/p>\n Be attentive, supportive, complimentary, and communicate– these are a handful of essentials that one must remember while being in a relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n Whether you’re married for many years or just getting hitched, you probably want to know how you can be the best spouse there is for your life partner. This is something that can be learned with some practice and patience. <\/span><\/p>\n And what is best about it is that becoming the best spouse will also make you a better person in general.<\/span><\/p>\n Well, that doesn’t sound balanced. That may be very biased and can lead to several <\/span>relationship issues<\/span><\/a> in the long run. Preparation for how to be a good spouse and a great married life is something one should begin way before they even start to have feelings for someone.<\/span><\/p>\n Dionne Eleanor, Relationship & Empowerment Mentor, says<\/span><\/p>\n A great spouse doesn’t simply expect to receive love, they show up reflecting love too.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n After the whirlwind of romance and rocky relationships, marriage is the real deal. It demands certain attention, changes in roles and responsibilities. The whole point of view takes a spin, and everything changes. <\/span><\/p>\n There are certain expectations that are attached by society and your significant other as well.<\/span><\/p>\n However, all is not lost. If you are looking for a cheat sheet of sorts, something to guide you in the rocky ravines, fret not and keep on reading.<\/span><\/p>\n The following pointers will definitely help you be a better partner. <\/b><\/p>\n The whole idea of being a partner is to help the other person out when in need.<\/span><\/p>\n It is like a tag team. You help the person take whatever they need at the time of desperation.<\/span><\/p>\n In such moments, if your partner is difficult or moody, instead of bulldozing out or having a shouting match, remember that you are supposed to help them recover from whatever problem they are facing.<\/span><\/p>\n One of the ways of how to be a better spouse is that you are supposed to be their rock, <\/span>to be able to understand them<\/span><\/a>, care for them, and nurture them at that moment.<\/span><\/p>\n Think of yourself in their place; think about what could have triggered the storm. Remember, not everything needs to be said. <\/span><\/p>\n If your partner has to inform you about their episodes and depression just like a friend or an acquaintance, or a stranger, why are you in such an intimate relationship? <\/span><\/p>\n Dionne Eleanor says,<\/span><\/p>\n When you walk in your partner’s shoes, you start to understand what they may feel, and that’s a chance for love to truly deepen a little more.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n Let’s just put it out there; no one is perfect. Chant this mantra in your heart.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n Remember that, as cliché, as it sounds, people have both good and bad in them, but being an important person in someone’s life, it is the partner’s job to hone your greatness and to discipline any bad vibes or shortcomings.<\/span><\/p>\n Dionne Eleanor comments,<\/span><\/p>\n True appreciation is about seeing the beauty in the imperfection and recognizing the worth in your partner every day.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n The thing is that couples complete each other. We, inherently, are incomplete and lack a lot of things; it is only after we meet our significant other that we are whole. But, remember that significant others are supposed to understand our shortcomings and help us complete our being. <\/span><\/p>\n One very important aspect that generally is present in 99% of the relationships is jealousy.<\/span><\/p>\n We need to remember that it is because of the shortcomings on your part as a partner that your significant other feels jealous. <\/span><\/p>\n If you truly notice them, <\/span>care for them<\/span><\/a>, love and nurture them, and make them confident of your love and admiration, there is no way that your significant other will have to revert to jealousy, ever, and you will have a significant key of how to be a better spouse.<\/span><\/p>\n One of the most important things that are quite common nowadays is that couples can be quite sarcastic, ruthless, and cunning when it comes to a fight. <\/span><\/p>\n Because they are aware of each other’s shortcomings and weaknesses and drawbacks, they tend to take it all out during fights or arguments.<\/span><\/p>\n One of the tips for how to be a better spouse is to remember that fights usually ensue at the time when one of the two is at their lowest; that time is not for brandishing your significant other’s weakness right at their face. <\/span><\/p>\n Take it all in, try and be there for them; otherwise, what is the point of the whole marriage?<\/span><\/p>\n Let’s start with what’s most fun. It might sound selfish to begin a set of advice on how to become a better spouse by talking about your own wellbeing. Yet, as everyone will agree, we can only be good for others when we’re good to ourselves. <\/span><\/p>\n Or, in other words, we must be at the top of our game to be able to give the best to our loved ones.<\/span><\/p>\n What this means is sleep well, eat well, exercise, practice mindfulness, and do the things you enjoy. There is science behind such an assertion. <\/span><\/p>\n For example, as a <\/span>study<\/span><\/a> by Gailliot and Baumeister revealed, to eat well essentially means to have greater self-control and willpower (due to blood glucose levels).<\/span><\/p>\n And self-control is essential when you are married, whether it sounds like a joke or not. <\/span><\/p>\n You need restraint in order not to succumb to anger for the smallest things or burst out in tears. Having <\/span>self-control in marriage<\/span><\/a> means to be able to freely react to your partner’s actions and not to be a passive toy in the hands of your emotions.<\/span><\/p>\n There is never too much emphasis on the importance of <\/span>good communication in any <\/span><\/a>relationship<\/span><\/a>, including marriage. <\/span><\/p>\n It means opening up the channels of deep and meaningful interaction, one in which you can learn about yourself and your partner. <\/span>Effective communication<\/span><\/a> means knowing how to express yourself and listen to others.<\/span><\/p>\n Being assertive is even more than just knowing how to communicate. Being assertive means that you find ways to tackle both your insecurity and defensiveness and your instinct to be aggressive to reach your goals. Being assertive means <\/span>learning to respect yourself and your spouse<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n You can begin by learning about your assertive rights. These are tenets that teach you how to overcome certain maladaptive patterns in your behavior towards yourself and others. <\/span><\/p>\n For example, these assertive rights propagate that you have the right to say no, not know everything, not be the best in everything, be wrong, and change your mind. And they teach you to respect the same rights of others. <\/span><\/p>\n This is why being assertive helps you be the best spouse you can possibly be.<\/span><\/p>\n Whether it’s a birthday, anniversary, or the day you both first met, make sure you remember these dates rather than sitting with an excuse that you are bad with dates.<\/span><\/p>\n Remember important dates and make the day special for your spouse. This will definitely go a long way in strengthening the bond over time.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/span>Marriage is a constant work in progress<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>Marriage is no doubt a tough act to follow<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>25 ways for how to be a better spouse<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n
1. Put yourself in your partner’s shoe, more often than usual<\/b><\/h3>\n
2. Choose to be more appreciative of the good<\/b><\/h3>\n
Related Reading: <\/strong>Appreciating And Valuing Your Spous<\/a>e<\/strong><\/em><\/pre>\n
3. Notice them<\/b><\/h3>\n
4. Be nice<\/b><\/h3>\n
5. Take care of yourself<\/b><\/h3>\n
Related Reading: <\/strong>5 Self-Care Tips in an Unhappy Marriage<\/a><\/em><\/pre>\n
6. Learn to be assertive<\/b><\/h3>\n
7. Remember important dates<\/b><\/h3>\n
8. Express your gratitude<\/b><\/h3>\n