

{"id":35380,"date":"2019-03-08T11:31:02","date_gmt":"2019-03-08T11:31:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=35380"},"modified":"2024-03-28T03:26:25","modified_gmt":"2024-03-28T03:26:25","slug":"low-self-esteem-in-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/low-self-esteem-in-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"10 Ways On How Low Self-Esteem Affects a Relationship"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-35382 size-full\" title=\"How Low Self Esteem Affects a Relationship\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/How-Low-Self-Esteem-Affects-a-Relationship.jpg\" alt=\"How Low Self Esteem Affects a Relationship\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/self-esteem-makes-successful-relationships\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Self-esteem in relationships<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> is vital. Some people would often talk about respect, love, communication, and intimacy, but self-esteem and relationships also go hand in hand.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Why is this so? What does it mean if you have low self-esteem in a relationship? How does this affect your relationship and your partner?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Self-esteem is important for each and every one of us.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s your opinions, beliefs, and even how you view yourself that determines how you perceive and value yourself.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But the thing is, self-esteem is different for each person, and it changes depending on life experiences, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/therapy\/negative-experiences-of-the-past-can-affect-your-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">past relationships<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, and how you talk to yourself.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Unfortunately, if you have low self-esteem, it could affect not only your work, and productivity but also your relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-causes-low-self-esteem\"><\/span><b>What causes low self-esteem?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Self-esteem and <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/the-psychology-of-relationships\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">relationship psychology<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> are connected because they affect a person&rsquo;s attachment style. It also predicts if your love for each other will survive.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>According to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/experts\/silvana-mici\">Silvana Mici<\/a>, a licensed psychologist:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>From a therapist&rsquo;s perspective, I believe that people with low self-esteem may feel insecure in their relationships, constantly seeking reassurance from their partner and fearing rejection or abandonment.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But first, we want to understand what causes low self-esteem.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Life is different for everyone. There may be events that could change your self-esteem. Here are some examples:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Unrealistic beauty expectations through social media, magazines, and ads<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><a href=\"https:\/\/estd.org\/narcissism-consequence-trauma-and-early-experiences\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Trauma<\/span><\/a> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">from a previous relationship<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Experiencing racism, judgment, and social stigma<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Being bullied<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Abuse<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Medical or physical conditions<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Separation or divorce<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Not graduating or losing a job<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Some people could take these experiences and overcome them, but it&rsquo;s difficult. Some deal with it, but unknowingly, their self-esteem is affected.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Dr. Paul Conti, M.D., a psychiatrist and expert in treating trauma, discusses dealing with trauma, along with the other aspects of human challenges.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/IOl28gj_RXw\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How-self-esteem-affects-relationships\"><\/span><b>How self-esteem affects relationships<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do you want to know how low self-esteem affects relationships?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Low self-esteem relationships occur because they influence your behavior, opinions, and even your reactions.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A person who has low self-esteem battles their thoughts, doubts, and insecurities, and this affects your relationships.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">To understand &ldquo;How does low self-esteem affect relationships?&rdquo; let&rsquo;s look at the effects that it could cause.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-to-know-your-self-worth-in-a-relationship\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">10 Ways to Know Your Self-worth in a Relationship<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"10-ways-low-self-esteem-affects-a-relationship\"><\/span><b>10 ways low self-esteem affects a relationship<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/love\/what-is-self-love\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Self-love<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and self-respect in relationships are essential. Sure, the idea of &lsquo;love thyself&rsquo; is not too far-fetched. If you do not believe that you are worth it or good enough, how can you expect your partner to think so?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here&rsquo;s what low self-esteem in a relationship looks like.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. You are always the victim<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is one of the trickiest of things, having to deal with your own insecurities.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You are always in defensive mode. The fight and flight mode is always on, and you are in constant flux.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Low self-esteem can make one test or sabotage their potentially good relationship. Or it can result in you settling for less.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/quizzes\/is-low-selfesteem-preventing-you-from-finding-love\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Low self-esteem<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> can also result in severe defensive mode. One can hide behind childish banters or arguments. You could try and travel the wave and wait it out, but it would rarely set out in your favor.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>2. You give them way too much credit<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/what-does-it-mean-to-be-in-love\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Being in love<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> is like the start of spring.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The romance is blooming, the fragrance is everywhere, and you are enamored by everything. You start to live in a fantasy, and everything you see or touch is love. However, this seldom is the case. When such idealization starts to take hold, it is pretty easy to lose hold of reality and always defend your loved one.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Because of self-esteem, one usually thinks too little of themselves and takes the blame for every lack upon themselves, be it from the partner as well.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>3. Jealousy is never a flattering shade<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Let&rsquo;s be honest; we all have been jealous of that one person who was a tad bit too close to our significant other at that particular moment.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A healthy amount of jealousy is not too wrong; however, one must keep a check on what is triggering bouts of jealousy and try to steer clear of those particular tasks.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/things-to-consider-before-choosing-your-life-partner\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">good life partner<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> will never let you feel jealous; however, the blame cannot be completely one-sided. Jealousy is usually the side effect of low self-esteem. If you think that your partner deserves better, you become more susceptible to the fear of being dumped.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/signs-of-jealousy-in-a-relationship\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">15 Signs of Jealousy in a Relationship<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>4. You have the need to change and will change if need be<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One should not sacrifice their personality for anything. We are all unique and made for a different purpose. It is our destiny to shine and create sparks in our own unique space.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is only because of low self-esteem that people feel the need to twist and change themselves just so they can be praised by others and fit better.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Changing your personality for someone else is never the sign of a healthy mind or relationship.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<h3><b>5. Playing the blame game and drawing a constant comparison<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Happiness comes from within.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you are happy, being in an unpleasant situation would not be able to squash your spark. However, if you are sad or unhappy from within, it would be difficult even to crack a smile.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you think that your partner lost their temper because you did not do the dishes or because you forgot to call them, which resulted in the start of the downward spiral, you start believing that everything is your fault &ndash; this kind of thinking is the first sign of low self-esteem and an<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/the-blame-game-is-destructive-to-your-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> unhealthy relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In several worst-case scenarios, significant others start to exploit this habit.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The best way for this is to seek help; try and make your partner understand so that they can be patient with you &ndash; thus you can carve your way towards a healthier and more mutually beneficial relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>6. You stick with a bad seed even though they are bad for you<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The relationship is going downhill, your significant other is mistreating you, life is chaos, you are losing yourself and your loved ones &ndash; yet you refuse to leave them.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Such a kind of dependency is a result of low self-esteem. When you feel that you cannot survive without your partner.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The idea of always being together is not<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/romance\/romantic-gestures-for-him-and-her\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">romantic or a gesture<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> of love. Quite on the contrary, it suggests dependency and lack of trust.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>7. Your intimacy depends on your self-esteem or the lack of it<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Intimacy isn&rsquo;t just about lovemaking. There is emotional, mental, spiritual, and physical intimacy.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A person whose self-esteem is momentarily threatened or is lacking won&rsquo;t be able to open up and be intimate with their partners.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Let&rsquo;s talk about <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC5987853\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">physical intimacy<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. When a person feels insecure, they won&rsquo;t be able to let go of their inhibitions and thus won&rsquo;t reach that level of arousal needed to be intimate. Your partner can feel this, too.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This goes the same with emotional, mental, and spiritual intimacy. It&rsquo;s like a shield that prevents you from connecting to your partner.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>8. You can&rsquo;t express yourself or your emotions<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Communication is vital for a relationship to grow. This affects low self-esteem and relationships because they go together.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You don&rsquo;t feel confident enough to even stand up for yourself. You also feel insecure and cannot express your feelings.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Therefore, in relationships, people with low self-esteem are often seen as a person being &ldquo;walked on&rdquo; or even abused.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>9. You find yourself dependent and in need of a constant emotional fix<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When a person with low self-esteem finds a partner, there could be two effects. This person could gain their self-esteem back or be dependent.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s like you can&rsquo;t function without your partner. Instead of finding a solution for your problems, you depend on your partner&rsquo;s reassurance.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s called an emotional fix when you think you need your partner to function, decide, and ultimately, be happy. You also couldn&rsquo;t bear to be alone.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Unfortunately, this could drain your partner.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>10. You become possessive<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As a partner with low self-esteem depends on their partner, soon, you&rsquo;ll develop a sense of possessiveness due to fear.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You feel threatened that someone might take your significant other away or they might tempt this person to cheat.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This mindset turns to possessiveness, then jealousy.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Soon, to pacify the uncontrollable emotions, you will need another emotional fix. This becomes a cycle that will eventually cause the relationship to fall apart.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How-to-boost-your-self-esteem\"><\/span><b>How to boost your self-esteem<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Losing your self-esteem in a relationship is something we all dread happening.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Before you can fully commit yourself and your love to someone else, it&rsquo;s better to work on yourself first.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here&rsquo;s how you can improve your self-esteem:<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. Count your strengths<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Create a journal and list them. This way, you can remind yourself about all the things you can do.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>2. Celebrate your small victories<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You can find so many reasons daily to celebrate. These little things are also important, and it shows how amazing you are.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>3. Focus on the things that you can change<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We all want to be better. List the things that you can actually change. Don&rsquo;t focus on the things that you can&rsquo;t.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Remember that it&rsquo;s okay to make mistakes<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>4. Avoid people who bring you down<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is perfectly okay to distance yourself from <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.waldenu.edu\/online-masters-programs\/ms-in-clinical-mental-health-counseling\/resource\/strategies-for-dealing-with-toxic-people\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">toxic people<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Not all people close to you want the best for you. If you feel they are trying to bring you down, remove them from your life.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>5. Exercise<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Being fit and exercising will definitely boost your self-confidence. Aside from making you healthy, you are also able to release hormones that make you feel good.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>6. Do things that make you happy<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You can start doing the hobbies that you love and see how they can uplift your mood and even boost your self-esteem.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do things because you&rsquo;re happy and not because that&rsquo;s how everyone wants to see you. Put yourself first.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>7. Practice self-love, self-respect, and self-compassion<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Learning these three will change how you view yourself. Remember. If you can give these three to others, don&rsquo;t you think you deserve them too?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Talk to yourself like you&rsquo;re talking to a friend, have compassion. Love yourself because you&rsquo;re lovable, and you deserve to be loved. Lastly, respect yourself because you are a human being.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>As certified coach Silvana Mici explains:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>Work on building your self-esteem through self-care, therapy, and positive affirmations. Communicate openly with your partner about your feelings and insecurities.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In any event that you feel your low self-esteem in a relationship is causing trouble, ask for help.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You can ask for help and talk to your family, close friends, or if need be, to a licensed therapist.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">More than anyone, they could help you address the issue and help you with getting your self-esteem back.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"FAQs\"><\/span><b>FAQs<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Now that you&rsquo;re familiar with the signs of low self-esteem in relationships, there could still be questions you want to clear out, and this is a good start.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Aside from the low self-esteem in relationship symptoms, here are other frequently asked questions that might help.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-35383\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/Jealousy-is-never-a-flattering-shade.jpg\" alt=\"Jealousy is never a flattering shade\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>How do you deal if you have low self-esteem in a relationship?<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One of the most common symptoms of low self-esteem in a relationship is the feeling of fear. This fear increases and will damage your relationship if you don&rsquo;t face it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That&rsquo;s right, you need to face the problem and find a solution.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Don&rsquo;t depend on your partner to make you happy or to make you feel good. Instead, start with yourself and work from within.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Why do people with low self-esteem choose to stay in toxic relationships?<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A person with low self-esteem in a relationship might think that they don&rsquo;t deserve better.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They develop a <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;this is the best that I could get&rdquo;<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> mindset, thus allowing them to get walked on and abused.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>How can you tell if a person has low self-esteem?<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Once you get to know a person, the traits of having low self-esteem are undeniable. Sadly, lacking confidence is painful and is a challenge.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Making fun of yourself&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Thinking that you&rsquo;re not good at anything<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You say negative things to yourself<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You lack self-compassion<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You think you&rsquo;re always at fault&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You don&rsquo;t believe it when someone compliments you<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Afraid of trying out new things<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You feel empty and sad<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You are overly sensitive, jealous&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You need constant reassurance from someone else&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You depend on your significant other<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s hard for you to believe that your partner loves you<\/span><\/li>\n<li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>What should I do if my girlfriend\/ boyfriend has low self-esteem?<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;I love this person so much, but loving someone with low self-esteem can also be tiring.&rdquo;<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s true. Loving someone who is unsure of themselves and lacks self-acceptance, self-love, and self-esteem could drain the both of you. The constant jealousy, doubt, and even emotional fix can seem like a cycle.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You might feel like you&rsquo;re not growing. This is one reason why low self-esteem ruins relationships.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One of the biggest mistakes that partners make when they are dating a person with low self-esteem is that they try to give them love, emotional fixes, and reassurance. Over time, you would just find yourself walking on eggshells.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you really want to help, then there is one thing that you could do. Talk and support your partner.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Instead of always fulfilling emotional fixes all the time, help your partner practice self-love, self-compassion, and even self-respect. In any event, they would agree you can also support them in going into therapy. This is how to improve self-esteem in relationships.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Takeaway\"><\/span><b>Takeaway<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">No one is perfect if such problems arise. One should seek help instead of giving up and just living one day after the other.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Don&rsquo;t let your low self-esteem in a relationship strip you of your happiness and your chance to enjoy life.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The point of life is to live and experience each day with new opportunities and happiness. Self-esteem, in the end, is just you<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/counseling\/counseling-techniques-for-a-healthier-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> loving yourself and being happy<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> for what you are &ndash; whatever it may be.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Remember, before you can fully love someone and be in a relationship, you must first learn how to be happy on your own, and to love yourself first.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Self-esteem in relationships is vital. Some people would often talk about respect, love, communication, and intimacy, but self-esteem and relationships also go hand in hand. Why is this so? What does it mean if you have low self-esteem in a relationship? How does this affect your relationship and your partner? Self-esteem is important for each and every one of us. It&rsquo;s your opinions, beliefs, and even how you view yourself that determines how you perceive and value yourself. 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