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Are you feeling disconnected from your partner? Are you wondering why did I get married? Any questions you may be having regarding your relationship is normal. Think back to the moment you fell in love with your partner. Wasn’t it easy? Falling in love is one of the easiest, effortless things you’ve ever done or will ever do. Why? Because love has a way of making the colors seem brighter, your walk becomes stronger. And somehow having that new love in your life that becomes your other half to walk along the earth which changes things.<\/span><\/p>\n Now, come to the present moment. Staying in love takes effort, doesn’t it? Notice I didn’t say work. Staying in love takes effort because getting to know the ins and outs of the person that you choose to be your partner in life.<\/span><\/p>\n A couple that has thirty years of experience in their relationship, took them thirty years to achieve. Please don’t expect to be in a place where arguments don’t happen during your first years of marriage. You’re going to argue, you’re going to have to learn<\/span> how to compromise if you want to stay married<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n Here are a couple of ways you can learn how to protect your relationship from falling apart and potentially help you generate strength within your relationship. <\/span><\/p>\n Maintaining your identity in your relationship is extremely important. Ask yourself, who am I? If you can’t answer that question clearly and honestly, you’re running the risk of losing yourself inside your relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n This is an issue I see more than I want to in my private practice. Within your relationship, it’s very easy to fall into the spell of the other especially in the beginning when you still have your rose-colored glasses on.<\/span><\/p>\n At times, you may forget to protect your own relationship with yourself while keeping your identity and focus solely on the relationship you’re having with your boyfriend, girlfriend, partner or spouse. Keep yourself in mind at all times.<\/span><\/p>\n Remember the easiness that exists in taking care of others and not yourself. Be who you are within the relationship.<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n Continue to do things only for you. When you take care of yourself, you’ll be providing your relationship with a healthy individual. Make sure you still feel free in your relationship. If you don’t feel free in your relationship obviously there will be some issues.<\/span><\/p>\n If the issues are couple related and you decide to go to therapy, always consider going to therapy as a couple first. Here’s why, when you go to therapy as a couple you will both grow within the relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n If you go alone, you’ll be the only one growing and your partner will stay behind. That disbalance will disturb the status quo and throw off the ‘norm’ of your relationship. Depending on the strength of your relationship’s foundation, that disbalance can possibly lead to domestic violence.<\/span><\/p>\n Also watch: Top 6 Reasons Why Your Marriage Is Falling Apart<\/span><\/p>\n<\/span>Staying in love takes effort<\/span><\/h2>\n
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<\/span>Getting to know each other takes time<\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>1. Maintain your identity<\/span><\/h2>\n
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