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Are you unhappy in your marriage and wondering whether divorce is right for you? Here are some thoughts that could help.<\/span><\/p>\n Divorce is a reality and is common in our society. In this article, I’m not advocating for or against divorce. I’m advocating for whatever resolution is in the best interest of the couple that leads to their lasting happiness. So let’s get to it.<\/span><\/p>\n Here are 7 questions to ask yourself when considering divorce: <\/span><\/p>\n The magic is gone, you’ve both tried but<\/span> intimacy can’t be restored<\/span><\/a>, you’re having thoughts of starting something romantic with someone, infidelity <\/span><\/p>\n Loving someone and being in love with someone are two different things. You can still love him because you’ve been together for many years, he’s your best friend, he’s the father of your children, etc. But those intense love feelings seem to be gone. You know, the ones where he’s the first thing you think of when you wake and the last when you fall asleep, you look at him and get turned on,<\/span> when he touches you<\/span><\/a> it feels like he’s in love with you. <\/span><\/p>\n How do you feel about vows, religion, societal norms? <\/span><\/p>\n Afraid of reaction, what if she doesn’t feel this way and is shocked, will she suspect infidelity? <\/span><\/p>\n If not divorced, how would you want your relationship to change? If you divorce, do you remain in each others’ lives in some capacity? <\/span><\/p>\n The waiting period,<\/span> hire lawyers<\/span><\/a>, splitting up assets, moving\/selling a home, children’s school. <\/span><\/p>\n Kids as young as tweens and even younger can sense that something is wrong in your marriage. Even if this is true, it could possibly be traumatic for them to learn you’re getting divorced. On the other hand, maybe it’s more traumatic for you to stay unhappily married for years. In that case, what are you modeling to your children<\/a> about what is a healthy relationship?<\/span><\/p>\n Also watch:<\/strong> 7 Most Common Reasons for Divorce<\/span><\/p>\n<\/span>1. Why am I thinking about divorce?<\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>2. Am I in love with my spouse?<\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>3. Is it alright to even consider divorce?<\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>4. Is it alright to talk to my spouse about divorce early on?<\/span><\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n<\/span>5. What would be the ideal outcome if we DIDN’T get divorced<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>6. What are the logistics when someone gets divorced where you live?<\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>7. If you have any, how will you tell your children?<\/span><\/h2>\n