{"id":35292,"date":"2019-03-07T04:10:03","date_gmt":"2019-03-07T04:10:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=35292"},"modified":"2022-12-28T15:31:26","modified_gmt":"2022-12-28T15:31:26","slug":"elements-of-conflict","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/elements-of-conflict\/","title":{"rendered":"The Five Elements of Conflict in Relationships"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

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Elements of Conflict in a Relationship and How to Resolve Them<\/span><\/p>\n

Fights, arguments, disagreements, disputes, conflicts, whatever word you use, the meaning is the same when you are thick in the middle of it with your spouse: high-emotion discussions. No one likes these situations, but all relationships have their share of heated, often unpleasant moments. (If yours doesn’t, you aren’t communicating enough!)<\/span><\/p>\n

When we talk about the meaning of conflict in relationships, we do not necessarily refer to the typical definition of conflict, which is a disagreement or argument between two or more entities. <\/span><\/p>\n

Conflicts are different concerning a relationship, and they are inevitable.<\/span><\/p>\n

Let’s break down what we mean when we talk about conflict. Let’s learn about various aspects of conflict by understanding<\/span> the elements of conflict<\/span><\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>Conflict is a normal part of life<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n

No one goes through life in a bubble of joy, sparkles, and free kittens. Conflicts will present themselves in your professional and personal life. The key to going through these challenging moments is possessing the healthy skills that help you move towards <\/span>conflict resolution<\/span><\/a> in a way that is non-coercive, productive, and produces results that are agreeable to both parties involved. <\/span><\/p>\n

Learning to manage conflict means learning good communication and <\/span>listening skills<\/span><\/a>. Being a good listener, allowing your partner to air his point of view, and recognizing that you two are not adversaries as you work through conflict are all part of moving toward resolution in a mature, reflective way. <\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>Conflict can be minimized and sometimes avoided altogether<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n

Ever known someone who does risk management for a living? They constantly imagine future scenarios that may present a risk for a company and then work on different variables to reduce the likelihood of those risky situations ever developing. <\/span><\/p>\n

The same can be done for conflict management. Certain behaviors will produce conflict within your couple, and you would want to examine these and see where changes could be made to minimize the potential for disagreement. <\/span><\/p>\n

Example: you have a hard time being punctual, which is a major source of irritation for your husband. Solution: use alerts and alarms, and start out earlier than needed. So that you arrive on time (and avoid conflict with your husband). <\/span><\/p>\n

Avoiding conflict<\/span><\/a> does not mean rolling over and disregarding your feelings in order not to cause a fight. That attitude seldom works and can result in pent-up anger and resentment.<\/span><\/p>\n

One of the trickiest elements of conflict is to evaluate potential areas and see what needs to be dealt with healthily and what steps you can take to avoid unnecessary conflict.         <\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

In this video learn how to communicate better in your relationships.<\/span><\/p>\n