

{"id":35256,"date":"2019-03-06T08:47:49","date_gmt":"2019-03-06T08:47:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=35256"},"modified":"2023-02-01T10:07:29","modified_gmt":"2023-02-01T10:07:29","slug":"sexual-intimacy-conflicts","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/sexual-intimacy-conflicts\/","title":{"rendered":"5 Strategies for Dealing With Your Partner\u2019s Sexual Conflicts"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-72772\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/ways-how-married-couples-handled-sexual-intimacy-conflicts-.jpg\" alt=\"Young depressed couple having problems in bed\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In a relationship, you spend so much time with a person and share their bed with them. But, over time, sexual conflicts start to arise. How do you cope with sexual intimacy issues?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Truth be told, most men and women complain about mostly the same things when it comes to their sex life, and these aren&rsquo;t issues that we have to be ashamed of because there are plenty of solutions to help with them.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We refuse to believe that marriage is unblemished by these <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.researchgate.net\/publication\/235556754_Sexual_Conflict\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">issues<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. More or less, some will appear over time, which implies that we&rsquo;ll have to look for a solution to manage our love life in the best way possible.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-does-sexual-conflict-in-relationships-mean\"><\/span><b>What does sexual conflict in relationships mean?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sexual conflict in a relationship means when both or one of the partners have a disagreement as far as their <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/make-your-partner-sexually-satisfied\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">sexual satisfaction<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> is concerned. Sexual conflict or intimacy issues can arise due to various issues, including monotony, different sex drive, trust issues, lack of respect, poor time management, etc.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When one or both partners are unhappy about their sex life, sexual intimacy issues arise. It can be easily dealt with if the issues are recognized at an early stage because intimacy problems can make a couple drift apart.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-are-the-causes-of-sexual-intimacy-challenges\"><\/span><b>What are the causes of sexual intimacy challenges?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There are numerous causes and signs of intimacy issues. So, What does a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/how-a-lack-of-physical-intimacy-can-hurt-your-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">lack of intimacy<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> look like in a relationship?<\/span> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here are some common reasons that create sexual intimacy challenges in couples.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<ol><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Low frequency of sex is one of the most common reasons to cause intimacy challenges. As time passes, the desire to have sex decreases, resulting in a void.&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If one or both partners fail to reach orgasm, it leaves them unsatisfied and creates intimacy issues.&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/erectile-dysfunction\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Erectile dysfunction<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, or a woman&rsquo;s inability to be turned on, is another reason that creates sexual intimacy conflicts.&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Loss of excitement and passion between couples drives them apart, resulting in sexual conflicts.&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A mismatched sex drive creates problems between a couple as one partner&rsquo;s <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.researchgate.net\/publication\/8136468_Women_with_low_libido_Correlation_of_decreased_androgen_levels_with_Female_Sexual_Function_Index\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">libido <\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">doesn&rsquo;t match the other.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Skipping foreplay can make the sex entirely boring, and rushing through the main course can get dull over time. It can easily cause intimacy conflicts.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">An emotional disconnect between couples can also cause sexual conflicts.&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If a couple is unable to <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/8-tips-to-improve-communication-in-your-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">communicate<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> their sexual desires to each other, sexual conflicts are bound to happen in the relationship.&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Watch this video to learn how to have a better sex life.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/lnigGtrwAfs\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5-strategies-for-dealing-with-your-partner%E2%80%99s-sexual-intimacy-conflicts\"><\/span><b>5 strategies for dealing with your partner&rsquo;s sexual intimacy conflicts<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, how married couples handle sexual intimacy conflicts? Here are some tips that will help you resolve conflict in romantic relationships.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. Boredom<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Has everything started to get too monotonous? That means that you have to try something new. Try to surprise your partner with a new sex position that you researched, and experiment with your social skills in luring your partner to do something new with you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Buy a sex toy and hide it under their pillow. There&rsquo;s a whole array of stimulants and toys out on the market. Don&rsquo;t worry, sex isn&rsquo;t as taboo as it was years ago because society is slowly accommodating to <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/open-communication-in-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">speak more openly<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> about it.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading<\/i><\/b><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">: <\/span><\/i><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-to-fight-boredom-in-your-marriage\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How to Fight Boredom in your Marriage<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>2. Idleness<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Has some time passed since your partner last laid a hand on you?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Give your partners a friendly reminder, then try to lament in the most playful but serious way. Remind them of how much you miss their touch. If this doesn&rsquo;t do the trick, try a more engaging and straightforward approach.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If this also doesn&rsquo;t work, you need to talk seriously with them.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If your partner doesn&rsquo;t reply to your passionate endeavors, you might want to start asking yourself what&rsquo;s actually going on.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>3. Your sex drives don&rsquo;t match<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sometimes one wants more while the other wants less.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is a prevailing problem amongst <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/how-often-do-married-couples-have-sex\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">married couples<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, where one partner can&rsquo;t have enough sex while the other is either satisfied or wants less. For this to work, couples should mediate the issue between them.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Try to experiment with something new or raise the sex drive of the frigid. If you are the one who wants more sex in your marriage and feel that your husband or wife offers you less than expected, try to raise his or her sex drive. You can snuggle, talk dirty in your accepted limits and comfort, or propose new things.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is how married couples handle sexual intimacy conflicts.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading<\/i><\/b><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">: <\/span><\/i><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/incompatibility-in-relationships\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">10 Ways of Dealing With Incompatibility in Relationships<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>4. It isn&rsquo;t as it used to be<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Passion in marriages didn&rsquo;t prevail in the past as it does now in our modern times because people&rsquo;s life expectancies were a whole lot lower. Now, through modern medical advancements, we can spend up to sixty years next to a person, and thus the question arises &ndash; how do we keep the passion burning over the years? Well, the honest answer here is that you have to get creative.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Plan sex dates, and spark up <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/signs-of-unspoken-mutual-attraction\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">what attracted you to each other<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> in the first place. Be random, be spontaneous.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-72773\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/our-sex-drives-dont-match-.jpg\" alt=\"Beautiful happy couple of young lovers are hugging indoors at home, with love and tenderness\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<h3><b>5. Fantasies and swinging<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When the issues arise, most married couples agree to them if they&rsquo;re reasonable to fulfill, but some partners don&rsquo;t agree at all with each other. For some people, even catching their partner watching pornography is a sin.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Marriage means a long time to cope with the issue of <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/how-to-spice-things-up-in-the-bedroom\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">spicing up<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> intimate time by adding something new (such as fulfilling a fantasy). It will eventually come up from one side of the marriage or both in most <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/secrets-of-happy-couples\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">healthy couples<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Speak about this openly with your spouse. Depending on what you or your partner are asking, you should be able to consent to it.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"FAQ%E2%80%99s\"><\/span><b>FAQ&rsquo;s&nbsp;<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<h3><b>Can a relationship last without intimacy?<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Intimacy is very important for a romantic relationship. Without intimacy, a relationship cannot survive for too long. Sooner or later, things will fall apart. If you want to save your relationship, it will be better to seek <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/counseling\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">relationship counseling<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> from a professional.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Takeaway\"><\/span><b>Takeaway<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When it comes to swinging, you&rsquo;re both in it. Again, depending on your relationship with your partner, you can propose to spice things up in your love life alongside other open-minded couples at swinger clubs. Boredom eventually leads some couples to this option because they have already become too accustomed to one another, and predictability has become an issue.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>In a relationship, you spend so much time with a person and share their bed with them. But, over time, sexual conflicts start to arise. How do you cope with sexual intimacy issues? Truth be told, most men and women complain about mostly the same things when it comes to their sex life, and these aren&rsquo;t issues that we have to be ashamed of because there are plenty of solutions to help with them. We refuse to believe that marriage is unblemished by these issues. More or less, some will appear over time, which implies that we&rsquo;ll have to look <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1419,"featured_media":72772,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[31],"tags":[2521],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/35256"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1419"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=35256"}],"version-history":[{"count":8,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/35256\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":82821,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/35256\/revisions\/82821"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/72772"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=35256"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=35256"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=35256"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}