

{"id":34761,"date":"2019-02-21T12:15:05","date_gmt":"2019-02-21T12:15:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=34761"},"modified":"2024-03-13T14:13:56","modified_gmt":"2024-03-13T14:13:56","slug":"sexual-dissatisfaction-in-a-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/sexual-dissatisfaction-in-a-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"5 Ways to Overcome Sexual Dissatisfaction and Its Effects"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-29445 size-full\" title=\"Ways to Overcome Sexual Dissatisfaction in a Relationship\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/Understanding-the-Stress-and-Sexuality-Connection.jpg\" alt=\"Ways to Overcome Sexual Dissatisfaction in a Relationship\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sexual dissatisfaction, sounds familiar, doesn&rsquo;t it? It&rsquo;s pretty common for a couple to go through this phase. There are many factors that encourage sexual dissatisfaction; however, many of them can be managed if a couple tries and works together. If you&rsquo;re going through such a phase, you need not panic.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Observe your symptoms and execute efforts to terminate them.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-is-sexual-dissatisfaction\"><\/span><b>What is sexual dissatisfaction?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sexual dissatisfaction is a very common problem that many people experience. It can be caused by many things, including <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/solutions-for-8-common-relationship-issues\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">relationship problems<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, anxiety, and lack of sex in the marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sexual dissatisfaction means that you do not enjoy sex with your current partner or you do not like sex in general. This is a serious problem because sex is an important part of a relationship, and without it, the relationship may fall apart.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Is-it-normal-to-be-sexually-unsatisfied\"><\/span><b>Is it normal to be sexually unsatisfied?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For many people, sexual satisfaction is a cornerstone of a healthy relationship. It is something that should be enjoyed and sought out. Yet, for some, sexual satisfaction is not always a reality.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you wonder if it is normal to be sexually unsatisfied, then the answer depends on a number of things.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For example, is the problem with you or your partner? Do you lack confidence or is your partner not meeting your needs? Does a lack of intimacy make you both feel distant from each other? Is the problem caused by unrealistic expectations or miscommunication? Do you need to discuss it with your partner?&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Perhaps you need the help of a professional. However, in most cases, the answer is that there is nothing wrong with you. It is simply part of being human. Many people experience periods of sexual dissatisfaction throughout their lives.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/make-your-partner-sexually-satisfied\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">10 Tips on How to Satisfy Your Spouse<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-happens-when-you-are-sexually-unsatisfied\"><\/span><b>What happens when you are sexually unsatisfied?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sexual dissatisfaction is a common problem that many people experience. It can lead to a number of issues, including <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/low-self-esteem-in-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">low self-esteem<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, loneliness, difficulty maintaining relationships, and even sexual frustration.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Although sexual dissatisfaction is not a sex problem, it can certainly make sex less enjoyable. Many people who are dissatisfied with their sex life turn to unhealthy behaviors in an attempt to boost their self-esteem and improve their sexual satisfaction.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Examples of these behaviors include <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.huffpost.com\/entry\/sex-weight-loss_n_6549040\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">binge eating<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, using drugs and alcohol, and participating in risky sexual behaviors.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Over time, these unhealthy behaviors can take a toll on your physical, mental, and social well-being and lead to serious consequences such as depression, weight gain, and increased feelings of <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/how-do-you-know-you-have-anxiety\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">stress and anxiety<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, it is important to remember that there are many things you can do to improve your sexual satisfaction and improve your overall health and well-being.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5-ways-to-overcome-sexual-dissatisfaction\"><\/span><b>5 ways to overcome sexual dissatisfaction<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Not being sexually satisfied in the relationship can cause a relationship decline. So, how to be sexually satisfied in a relationship? Check out 5 ways to overcome sexual dissatisfaction and get back to the fun of making love.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. Talk to your partner about how you&rsquo;re feeling<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How to tell your partner you&rsquo;re not sexually satisfied? Open up about how you&rsquo;re feeling and see if your partner can offer any suggestions or ideas on how to fix things.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you&rsquo;re not comfortable talking about it with your partner or are feeling unwanted sexually in a relationship, talk to a trusted friend instead. Maybe they can shed some light on the situation and help you figure out what&rsquo;s wrong. If you need someone to vent to, feel free to talk it out here.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">According to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/experts\/jenni-jacobsen\">Dr. Jennifer Jacobsen<\/a>, PhD in Psychology, <\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Communication is essential in a relationship; if there&rsquo;s a problem in your sex life, it&rsquo;s important to speak up.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/heart-to-heart-relationship-conversations\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">10 Relationship Conversations You Can Have With Your Partner<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>2. Try some sex toys together<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sex toys are great ways to improve your sex life. They&rsquo;re a great way to spice things up and get your engines revving again. There are lots of different types available &ndash; the possibilities are endless! See which ones are the best for you by trying them before you buy.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Check out the key benefits of using pleasure toys in your sexcapades:&nbsp;<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/4LSTfMANYqk\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h3><b>3. Schedule a date night with your partner<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Getting away for a night or two can help you and your partner reconnect and fall back in love. Whether you&rsquo;re planning a romantic weekend getaway or a just-for-fun day at the movies, be sure to spend some time together doing something you both enjoy.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Related :<\/i><\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/date-ideas-for-you-and-your-spouse\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">7 Memorable Date Ideas for You and Your Spouse to Reignite Your Relationship<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>4. Try something new in the bedroom<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.aarp.org\/home-family\/sex-intimacy\/info-2015\/sex-questions-libido-stds-schwartz.html\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Trying new positions<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, taking turns pleasuring each other, experimenting with bondage &ndash; all of these things can help you get in the mood and make love more fun. If you like to keep things a little spicy, why not try adding a bit of BDSM to your sex life?&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You might be surprised at how it brings out the passion in both of you. If you&rsquo;re not sure where to start, check out these 8 kinky tricks to spice up your lovemaking.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>5. Practice self-care<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Take care of yourself so that you can take care of your partner. Eat healthy, get plenty of sleep, and do your best to unwind at the end of the day. Stress from an unfulfilling relationship can be a huge trigger for erectile issues, so make a conscious effort to keep stress at bay as much as possible.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How-to-make-your-sex-life-better-in-your-relationship\"><\/span><b>How to make your sex life better in your relationship<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do you often think, &ldquo;I&rsquo;m sexually unsatisfied in my relationship?&rdquo;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Well, a healthy sex life plays a vital role in keeping the partners connected. Check out these sex <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/8-common-problems-in-married-life\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">issues in marriage<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and ways to make your sex life better with specific solutions:<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>A. Problem: Communication<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Why is communication so important? It&rsquo;s because the quality of a relationship depends on it.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The effect of communication is undeniable. It makes the partner feel loved and cared for. These things are important when it comes to<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/love\/making-love\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">making love<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. If a spouse isn&rsquo;t feeling loved, there is no way they will have sex with you happily.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A healthy, happy, and loving relationship leads to good sex life, and<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/14-ways-to-keep-your-relationship-strong-healthy-and-happy\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">for a happy and healthy relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, you will need good communication. When you have sex out of obligation or as a duty, there is little or no satisfaction in it which leads to sexual dissatisfaction or a sexually unsatisfying marriage.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The outcome is ultimately resentment towards your partner.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>&ndash; Solution<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you aren&rsquo;t big on communication but you still want to make an effort, start small. You can simply sit together to watch a movie and discuss that. Give your spouse a rundown of your day or just try involving your spouse in a harmless daily conversation.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Once this becomes a habit, you will fall into a routine of asking your spouse about the day they had or what&rsquo;s bothering them in general.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This will have a warm effect on them, and the end result will be a sex filled with love or, at least, care and not just obligation.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>B. Problem: Busy schedule<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-34763 size-full\" title=\"Problem Busy schedule\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/Problem-Busy-schedule.jpg\" alt=\"Problem Busy schedule\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s not easy to juggle work, home, and kids all at once and still not have an effect on your life. All this tension and stress takes a toll on a person, and the first thing that gets affected by this is the<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">sex life<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Sex drive is greatly affected by the stress level of a person.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sex isn&rsquo;t two bodies working together like a machine, it&rsquo;s more like desires and passions meeting and creating magic, and this magic can&rsquo;t take place with stress and tensions looming at the back of your mind.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Cooking, cleaning, taking care of kids, and keeping the house perfect can tire the spouses easily. The thought of sex at the end of a highly tiring day isn&rsquo;t a relaxing thought.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/experts\/jenni-jacobsen\">Dr. Jacobsen<\/a> further states that,&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When stress becomes out of control, your sex life can take a hit, so it&rsquo;s essential that you develop healthy stress management strategies.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h3><b>&ndash; Solution<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Work to reduce the load. You can do that by organizing and prioritizing. Do not think that you have to do it all today.<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/prioritize-your-relationship-partner-and-sexual-connection\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you prioritize<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, things become clear; you will understand the fact that there are things that can be left for the next day.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Reducing the load will help you relax better. Keeping a house tidy and clean is important, but your sex life is more important.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>C. Problem: No spark<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A couple who has been married for long loses spark; their<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">sex life becomes more like a chore<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> or a job.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You have to do it because, well, you have to. There is no passion, no desire, or in common words, no spark. Sex life without that spark is one of the core sexual problems in marriage and can get frustrating.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You need that wow factor where both the participants feel that they have been satisfied to the full.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sex that has become a job will soon lead to &ldquo;let&rsquo;s do it tomorrow.&rdquo; Tomorrow may never come then.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<h3><b>&ndash; Solution<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Make an effort; that&rsquo;s all you need. Try and do things you have never done before, which can include dressing up, sensual music, and candles.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Nothing sets the mood better than scented candles. The pleasant shock will entice your partner. Coming together, then, will be more sensual and erotic than ever. The thrill of change will take desires to the peak.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Another foolproof piece of advice would be to try different positions; this will require both communication and participation from both parties. The outcome will be better and engaging sex and a few laughs too.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Bottom-line\"><\/span><b>Bottom line<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sex isn&rsquo;t a job. It&rsquo;s not a chore that you have to do because you are married. Sex is so much more than that. It&rsquo;s a beautiful feeling that leads to pure satisfaction when done right.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you are in an unsatisfying relationship, do not let your marriage sink because of sexual dissatisfaction; take charge and create magic.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Sexual dissatisfaction, sounds familiar, doesn&rsquo;t it? It&rsquo;s pretty common for a couple to go through this phase. There are many factors that encourage sexual dissatisfaction; however, many of them can be managed if a couple tries and works together. If you&rsquo;re going through such a phase, you need not panic. Observe your symptoms and execute efforts to terminate them. What is sexual dissatisfaction? Sexual dissatisfaction is a very common problem that many people experience. It can be caused by many things, including relationship problems, anxiety, and lack of sex in the marriage. Sexual dissatisfaction means that you do not enjoy <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":675,"featured_media":29445,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[31],"tags":[2520],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/34761"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/675"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=34761"}],"version-history":[{"count":6,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/34761\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":96644,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/34761\/revisions\/96644"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/29445"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=34761"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=34761"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=34761"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}