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We start having crushes as early as primary school, we all know the feeling. Their presence brightens our day, we want to see them all the time, and we feel jealous if they pay attention to someone else.<\/span><\/p>\n We go through our teenage days no longer confused about this feeling. <\/span>We become selfish<\/span><\/a> and want to form an intimate relationship with that particular person. We also go through puberty at the same time and curious about sex. A lot of people confuse those feelings with lust.<\/span><\/p>\n You can imagine what happens, we all have been through high school.<\/span><\/p>\n As we grow older, some of us still feel that “butterflies in our stomach” about a particular someone, but what does it really mean?<\/span><\/p>\n We all feel a sense of attraction to someone. That cute guy on TV, the pretty girl in the coffee shop, that hot and responsible boss, and that naughty neighbor. It happens even when it’s a complete stranger we saw on the bus.<\/span><\/p>\n Why do we feel something weird when we encounter those people? <\/span><\/p>\n First off, it’s natural.<\/span><\/p>\n Infatuation happens to everyone. It’s just a matter of how we react to it, and as we grow older, we learn more about society’s norms.<\/i><\/p>\n Those norms guide us on how we are supposed to react. But it’s our choice if we want to follow it. Most of us build our own set of guiding principles that we follow based on what we learned and experienced.<\/span><\/p>\n So based on our principles, what is that attraction? Is it love or lust?<\/span><\/p>\n It is neither.<\/span><\/p>\n You’re brain is just saying this person if your type. Nothing more, nothing less. We touched on the topic of guiding principles because it is what will tell you what you should do next. Some people do nothing, others go for it, while there are people who do something inappropriate.<\/span><\/p>\n So a crush on a random stranger is worth next to nothing. Unless you find it in yourself to <\/span>get to know the person<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n This depends on a hundred different factors. According to <\/span>Freud<\/span><\/a>, our psyche is divided into the id, ego, and superego. <\/span><\/p>\n Id – The id is the impulsive and instinctive component of our psyche. It is the powerful basic drives we have as a biological being. It’s the thing in our mind that makes us want to eat, procreate, dominate, and other things living beings need to survive.<\/span><\/p>\n Ego – The decision making faculty.<\/span><\/p>\n Superego – Part of our psyche that tells us to follow the norms and morals of society.<\/span><\/p>\n Simple, that person could be taboo (Your Family, Your Girlfriend’s sister, A happily married woman, Same gender, etc) or you are committed to someone else, and most societal moral norms say you can’t have more than one intimate partner.<\/span><\/p>\n The funny feeling is just your Id telling you, you want the person, your superego will tell you whatever morals you follow, and your ego will be the decision you eventually make.<\/span><\/p>\n The id doesn’t think, it just wants. Everything else is a different story. Regardless of how you interested you are, it’s all about what your ego does that personifies what you really are.<\/span><\/p>\n It means you want to have an intimate relationship with the person, whether you should, is a different story.<\/span><\/p>\n According to <\/span>Christiana Njoku<\/span><\/a>, LPC:<\/span><\/p>\n<\/span>The puppy love<\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>You get a funny feeling about someone you know<\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>What does the Freudian structural model have to do with the person you like?<\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>So what does it mean to have feelings for someone?<\/span><\/h2>\n
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