

{"id":34215,"date":"2019-02-13T11:08:21","date_gmt":"2019-02-13T11:08:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=34215"},"modified":"2024-12-09T12:34:41","modified_gmt":"2024-12-09T12:34:41","slug":"sex-over-40","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/sex-over-40\/","title":{"rendered":"Sex in Your 40s: 20 Things to Keep in Mind"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-72776\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/things-to-keep-in-mind-for-sex-over-.jpg\" alt=\"Lovely young interracial couple dancing at home\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As we age, our body goes through changes. The metabolism may start to slow down, the joints start cracking, and suddenly you may feel that the oomph from life has vanished.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">These changes are inevitable, but that doesn&rsquo;t mean you can give up the thought of enjoying your life.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">People think sex life dies when you reach 40. But what is the truth about sex in your 40s?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You&rsquo;ve enjoyed the glorious years of your life. Now, it&rsquo;s time that you calm down and cherish aging. Well, there are various to have sex over 40, and you can still enjoy it with an aging body. Let&rsquo;s see how!&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-sex-after-40-is-really-like\"><\/span><b>What sex after 40 is really like&nbsp;<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you are reading this to know what life will be like once you hit that age, or are someone trying to figure out your sex life at the age of 40, and beyond, you are probably wondering what sex after forty is like.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The truth is the body goes through several hormonal changes at this age. Experts say that when someone turns 40 or reaches the age around the number, both men and women are likely to experience hormone changes, which affect their sexual drive and physical comfort during sexual activity.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">People may experience difficulty in arousal, more effort, or sensual pleasuring to feel sexual desire.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, you may also find yourself more explorative and confident in bed. Experts also say that people in their 40s are likely having the best sex of their lives because they have more consent, more sexual confidence, and are likely to have a stronger, more passionate bond with their partners.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is also recommended that people over 40 take care of their heart health, as it is likely to <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">affect their sexual life<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and health directly.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Watch this video to understand more about sexuality and ageing.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/aq7yI7-GpPY\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Sex-in-your-40s-20-things-to-keep-in-mind\"><\/span><b>Sex in your 40s: 20 things to keep in mind<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sex in your 40s can be exciting, explorative, and fun. Here are some things you should remember regarding sex when you are over 40. Here are some sex tips for over 40.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. Start paying extra attention to your health<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Without a doubt, you need to take care of your health. As we age, our body demands special attention. You may have neglected your health during the early years of life, but as we touch 40, you must stay fit.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Join a gym, get into regular <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/marriage-fitness\/marriage-fitness-test-6-questions-to-determine-how-fit-your-marriage-is\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">health check-ups<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, and consult the doctor whenever necessary. Certainly, if your body is fit and healthy, you will enjoy sex.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>2. Be careful about STIs (Sexual Transmitted Infection)<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s understood that you had a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">wild sex life<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> when you started your relationship. But that doesn&rsquo;t mean you can continue to enjoy it flawlessly when you touch 40. It&rsquo;s been observed that people who go through separation around this age neglect safe sex.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They have been in a committed relationship, but not anymore. So, if you&rsquo;re one of those, make sure that you practice safe sex and take precautions when getting involved in sex.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>3. Explore the wild part<\/b><\/h3>\n<p>As you reach 40, you likely gain more experience and are more <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/\">confident in your sexuality<\/a>. Now can be the perfect time to explore new things.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You&rsquo;re aware of your likes and dislikes and have gained sexual experience over the years. So, when you reach 40, you&rsquo;re open to new kinky things and won&rsquo;t shy away from trying.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Who says sex dies after 40? All you need is a bit of inspiration, and you&rsquo;re good to go.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>4. Keep aside your financial issues<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/finance\/ways-to-keep-financial-issues-from-destroying-your-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Financial issues<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> is one of the main problems most couples go through by mid age. They have a family and expenses lined up in front of them, and the thought of repaying them greatly disturbs them.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The solution could be to have a monthly meeting wherein you can discuss the financial status and keep the spreadsheets away from the bedroom. Don&rsquo;t let anything come in between the two of you.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>5. Performance doesn&rsquo;t bother you anymore<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As mentioned above, by reaching 40, you&rsquo;re sexually confident. You know what you&rsquo;re best at, and the performance issue is out of the question now.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You&rsquo;re more focused on enjoying sex than worrying about <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-to-impress-your-husband\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">impressing your partner<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. You can be at your best when the pressure is out of the window.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>6. Even quickies are uplifting<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sex frequency after 40s can decline, but quickies may be a good hack.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you started, you were concerned about quiet <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">sex and quickies<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. As you started the family, you found ways to enjoy these two. By age 40, you will be an expert in it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, quickies and quite a sex over 40 are new, and you enjoy it. Cherish the moment and add this to your relationship portfolio.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>7. Conceiving may be a problem<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Our body goes through certain changes by the time we reach 40.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Women&rsquo;s eggs decrease, and it may be a challenge if you&rsquo;re trying to conceive. It won&rsquo;t be an easy task for you, and you may find yourself more involved in fertility treatment or baby-making sex.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, conceive when the egg quantity is good, as the chances of complications increase later.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading:-<\/i><\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/family\/preparing-to-conceive-first-child\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">3 Common Mistakes Couples Make While Trying to Conceive<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>8. Create your ritual<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How to make <\/span><\/i><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/romance\/make-sex-more-romantic\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">sex more interesting<\/span><\/i><\/a><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> after 40?<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s time that you spend some quality time doing something a-sexual. For instance, you can co-cook every Sunday or give each other foot massages every Saturday night and can do some outdoor activity every first weekend of the month.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This way, you&rsquo;re strengthening your relationship and exploring various facets of your partner.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p>LCSW <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/experts\/danica\">Danica Mitchell<\/a> says,<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>Creating rituals for emotional intimacy can be a great way to make those moments extra special and prevent small acts from getting lost in the hectic parts of life. Having strong emotional intimacy is a great foundation for sexual intimacy<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-34217 size-full\" title=\"Performance doesn&rsquo;t bother you anymore\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/Performance-doesn%E2%80%99t-bother-you-anymore.jpg\" alt=\"Performance doesn&rsquo;t bother you anymore\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<h3><b>9. Unveil your foreplay expertise<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Foreplay is underrated in sexual activities. Nonetheless, you want to take things nice and easy when you grow old. That&rsquo;s when foreplay emerges as an important part. So, when you&rsquo;re getting involved in sex over 40, consider unveiling your <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/foreplay-ideas-spice-up-your-life\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">foreplay expertise<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Look for various ways to provide satisfaction to your partner through foreplay. This will help you maintain sexual excitement, which otherwise might vanish.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>10. Spontaneous sex in a long-term relationship<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As couples are busy raising kids and keeping their families intact, they may find sex taking a back seat in their lives. This may be because a lot of couples want to go for planned sex. But, as you age, you should be more open to spontaneous sex.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Try out new things, experiment with the position, and have sex whenever you both are free or if you can sneak out for a while. These exciting moments will keep you both together and have sex alive in your relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading:-<\/i><\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/keys-to-long-lasting-relationship-success\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">20 Keys to a Successful Long Term Relationship?<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>11. Be accepting and confident of your body<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your body is likely to undergo several changes when you reach the age of 40. You may not feel as you used to in your 20s or even 30s. You may also start to notice that you look different now.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, a key to good sex in your 40s is accepting your body and the changes it is going through. You should also love your body and be confident about it. Confidence is attractive to people, and your partner will likely see your body how you see it.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading:-<\/i><\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/ways-to-excude-confidence-in-your-relationship\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">25 Ways To Exude Confidence In Your Relationship<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>12. Positions are all the more important<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As your body changes, the sex has to change with it. You may have developed certain body or <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/get-over-loneliness\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">health issues that make certain sex positions hard for you<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Discuss positions that work the best for both of you, in terms of comfort and pleasure, with your partner.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Danica Mitchell further adds,<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>There are also many tools, such as pillows and chairs, that can make different positions more comfortable and enjoyable<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h3><b>13. Lubricants can help<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Lubricants can help make sex smooth-sailing for you when trying to experiment with <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-to-bring-passion-back-into-a-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">new positions<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> or just trying different things, especially after a certain age. Please do not shy away from giving them a chance.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>14. Feed the feel-good hormones<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How to increase <\/span><\/i><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/reasons-of-no-sex-drive-in-your-marriage\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">sex drive<\/span><\/i><\/a><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> in men over 40?<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Oxytocin, endorphins, serotonin, and dopamine are the feel-good hormones. Physical touch, acts of love, having fun together, spending time with each other, and similar activities are likely to cause a release of one or more of these hormones in your body.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When these hormones are released, you will likely feel closer and more in love with your partner, and the sex will only improve.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>15. Keep your partner secure<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As we grow older, we may become insecure about our age and bodies. Making your partner feel secure and reassured that you still love and want them can affect your sex life positively, especially after a certain age.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading:-<\/i><\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/security-in-a-relationship\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What Is Security in a Relationship?<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>16. Keep communication open<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Everything can be taken care of if you and your partner can <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC6699928\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">communicate<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> openly and honestly about things. When it comes to sex over 40, if you talk about things you like or do not and what you are comfortable with, things are likely to be much easier for both of you.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>17. Get proper sleep<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As you grow older, your responsibilities are likely to increase. With taking care of the kids, the house, and doing your job, you may start to lose out on <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.sleepfoundation.org\/physical-health\/sex-sleep\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">sleep<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">which can adversely <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/unhealthy-relationships\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">affect your health<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and even your sex life. Try to keep a proper sleep cycle and stick to it to have good sex after age 40.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>18. You do not always have to stick to a routine<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Try to break the routine when you can. Even though routine is comforting and makes you feel more organized when so much is happening, it can also get monotonous and boring. Doing something spontaneous and fun with your partner can keep your chemistry strong and the sex great.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>19. Watch what you eat<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Apart from regular visits to the doctor and an exercise routine, watching what you eat is also super important for a healthy, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/seven-secrets-to-a-happy-sexual-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">happy sex life<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> post your 40s. Controlling extra weight and eating a healthy and balanced diet can go a long way.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>20. Say, &ldquo;I love you.&rdquo;<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/digitalcommons.chapman.edu\/cgi\/viewcontent.cgi?article=1074&amp;context=psychology_articles\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">study<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> has shown that expressing your love to your <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/how-to-initiate-sex-with-your-partner\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">partner during sex<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> can positively affect your quality, especially as you age. Ensure that you let your partner know how you feel about them. Intimacy is more than just sex &ndash; it is also emotional.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"The-takeaway\"><\/span><b>The takeaway<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sex is an important component of a romantic relationship. It can be a difficult subject for some couples, especially as you start to age.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Keep in mind the things mentioned above, and they should help you and your partner improve your sex life as you age. However, if you struggle with sex as you age, seeking professional help is always a good idea.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>As we age, our body goes through changes. The metabolism may start to slow down, the joints start cracking, and suddenly you may feel that the oomph from life has vanished. These changes are inevitable, but that doesn&rsquo;t mean you can give up the thought of enjoying your life. People think sex life dies when you reach 40. But what is the truth about sex in your 40s? You&rsquo;ve enjoyed the glorious years of your life. Now, it&rsquo;s time that you calm down and cherish aging. Well, there are various to have sex over 40, and you can still enjoy <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":675,"featured_media":72776,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[31],"tags":[2525],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/34215"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/675"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=34215"}],"version-history":[{"count":9,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/34215\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":106185,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/34215\/revisions\/106185"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/72776"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=34215"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=34215"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=34215"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}