{"id":33683,"date":"2019-02-01T12:30:25","date_gmt":"2019-02-01T12:30:25","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=33683"},"modified":"2023-04-01T07:30:37","modified_gmt":"2023-04-01T07:30:37","slug":"how-to-survive-a-breakup","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-to-survive-a-breakup\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Survive a Breakup: 20 Tips"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-26670 size-full\" title=\"Learn to survive breakup\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/One-of-the-best-times-for-figuring-out-who-you-are-and-what-you-really-want-out-of-life-Right-after-a-breakup.jpg\" alt=\"Learn to survive breakup\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Most of us have been there: after what had been for some time a glorious relationship, you or your significant other called it quits.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you begin your battle with surviving a breakup, at first, there is the shock, then the feelings of dismay, maybe anger, and then the reality of it sets in.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You are once again single. You may not know what to do, where to go, how you should proceed with your newly single status.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For a detailed overview of the process, look here and know what is most important at this time is to get back to &ldquo;normal&rdquo; and to do it as painlessly as possible.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Common-reasons-why-people-breakup\"><\/span><b>Common reasons why people breakup<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Surviving a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/fix-a-broken-heart\/\">broken heart<\/a> is hard.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, why do breakups happen?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Well, there could be many reasons why breakups happen. Let&rsquo;s check out common reasons for breakup:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Toxic partner<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Infidelity<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Bad behavior<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Unsupportive partner<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Lying&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Mental\/physical abuse<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Not seeing future<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Loss of trust<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Inexpressive partner(s)<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Miscommunication<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Too much assumption<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Loss of interest<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Not creating boundaries<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Financial issues<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Religious\/ family differences<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Not showing gratitude<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><pre><b><i>Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/why-many-relationships-fail\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Reasons Why Relationships Fail (and How to Fix Them)<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Effects-of-a-breakup\"><\/span><b>Effects of a breakup<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Breakups have a great impact on a person&rsquo;s life. It can have both physical and emotional effects. There cannot be any sugarcoating the fact that it can be difficult to understand how to survive a breakup or what to do after a breakup.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is important to understand the effects of a breakup before knowing how to survive a breakup so that you can put the efforts in the right direction:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Physical effects<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Some of the physical effects of a breakup are:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Muscle swell<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Headache<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sleep issues<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Weaker immune system<\/span><\/li>\n<li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Mental effects<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Some of the mental effects of a breakup are:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Depression<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Stress<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Mood swings<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Mental exhaustion<\/span><\/li>\n<li aria-level=\"1\">\n<h3><b>Emotional effects<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Some of the emotional effects of a breakup are:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Loneliness after breakup<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Questioning self-worth<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Withdrawal symptoms<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Numbness<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><pre><i>Related Reading:<\/i> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/how-to-get-over-breakup-depression\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How to Get Over Breakup Depression: Symptoms &amp; Treatment<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"20-tips-on-how-to-survive-a-breakup\"><\/span><b>20 tips on how to survive a breakup&nbsp;<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><b>There is no one &ldquo;right&rdquo; way for how to survive a breakup.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, what to do after a breakup?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In order to overcome <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/stages-of-grief\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">breakup grief<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, we&rsquo;ve assembled some breakup tips for dealing with a breakup from people who not only have learned how to survive after a breakup, they have grown and thrived post-breakup.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Check out these things to do after a breakup.<\/b><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. Move forward&nbsp;<\/b><\/h3>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;I thought I had it all,&rdquo; Judy Desky stated. Judy, 28, is a marketing specialist with a well-known cereal company.<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;&ldquo;Simon and I had been in a relationship since we were freshmen at CU. That&rsquo;s practically a decade. I moved to Phoenix after graduation because that is where his job offer was. I had wanted to stay in Colorado; that&rsquo;s where my roots are.&rdquo;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Judy continued, sighing, &ldquo;I do not want to go into the gory details, but suffice it to say we are no longer together.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">After the breakup, I asked myself what was important to me, and the answer came to me immediately&mdash;my family.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">No more splitting the holidays each year, and no more being geographically distant. I moved to Denver within a month of the breakup. And the cherry on top? My new job is much better than the one I left behind.&rdquo;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The best way to handle a breakup is to accept a breakup, <\/span><b>look for new avenues in life where you can thrive and be happy.<\/b><\/p>\n<pre><em>Related Reading:&nbsp;<\/em><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/ways-to-cope-with-a-breakup\/\"><em>How to Deal With a Breakup<\/em><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3>2. Reassess what has been important<\/h3>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-47508\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/Reassess-what-has-been-important-.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As Judy discovered, her breakup made her think about her priorities. This can be a good move for everyone from time to time, whether or not they have just ended a relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Surviving a bad breakup can help you focus on areas of your life<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> that may have gone unnoticed or not given the attention it may have deserved.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Such was what happened when Cory Althorp, 34, went through his breakup.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;I knew the end of this relationship was coming for a long while, but when we actually did it, it came as an extraordinary shock. At first, I just poured myself into my work. I am a lawyer, and boy, did my billable hours go up!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One evening on my way home from work, I noticed all the people on bicycles. The thought crossed my mind that I used to really enjoy cycling, but I hadn&rsquo;t been on a bike since my school days&ndash;and I&rsquo;m talking about elementary school!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The next day I went out and bought a bike, and the following weekend, I took it out&ndash;the first time I had been on a bike in years. I really got into it and joined a local cycling club. Lo and behold, the woman I am now dating I met in the club.&rdquo;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One of the best ways to deal with a breakup is to learn how to be strong during a breakup. Even some research asserts that exercise itself can make people happier.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So start by building yourself physically as a solution to how to survive a breakup. This, in turn, would help you feel better emotionally.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong>Also watch:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/mxJ99xu-B7g\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h3>3. Think beyond yourself<\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Hilda discovered the man she considered her soulmate had been cheating on her for two years.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;Here I was,&rdquo; the financial analyst started, &ldquo;I thought Gilberto and I would spend the rest of our lives together and retire to a small Italian village and renovate a decrepit villa, eat pasta and tend our vegetable garden.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Well, he was tending someone else&rsquo;s garden! I spent a week curled up on my sofa crying and subsisting on Ben and Jerry&rsquo;s.&rdquo;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">She continued, &ldquo;After that week, I went back to work and walking to my car after the first day back, I passed a soup kitchen. I don&rsquo;t know why, but I walked in and asked if they needed any help.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I spent three hours that night serving dinner and helping clean up afterward. It felt great to focus on something other than myself.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I could no longer wallow in self-pity because the people I was helping had problems far bigger than my own.&rdquo;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Volunteering, as Hilda found out, is an excellent way to help with getting over a breakup.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Libraries have adult literacy programs that are always looking for volunteers<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> to help with teaching adults to read. Schools can always use volunteers.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Use this tip on how to survive a breakup and also connect with others.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>4. Stop all contact<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;Wow, did I learn a lesson after my breakup,&rdquo; said Russell, 30, a restaurant manager.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;I was torturing myself by looking at my ex&rsquo;s Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter pages. I knew this was not the best thing for my mental health, but I just did not want to give her up&ndash;even digitally.&rdquo;&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Russell continued, &ldquo;I knew intellectually that this was stupid and not helping in the healing process I knew I had to get through. I vowed I would stop looking at anything my ex&ndash;I can&rsquo;t even say her name&ndash;had anything to do with.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And you know what? I really am happier. I haven&rsquo;t gone out with anybody else yet, but at least I am beginning to think about it. Not following her on social media has made me much happier.&rdquo;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As Russel discovered, <\/span><b>getting away from the crowd is a healthy thing post-breakup<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, and <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.liebertpub.com\/doi\/full\/10.1089\/cyber.2012.0125\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">research<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> backs that up. Delete the relationship reminders, and you will be happier.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><em>Related Reading: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-to-get-over-someone-you-love\/\">How to Get Over Someone You Love<\/a><\/em><\/pre>\n<h3>5. Reconnect with friends<\/h3>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-27453 size-full\" title=\"Reconnect with friends\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/09\/Ways-to-Cope-with-a-Breakup-and-Be-Happy.jpg\" alt=\"Reconnect with friends\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/journals.sagepub.com\/doi\/abs\/10.1177\/1745691614568352\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Analysis<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> of existing research has shown that social isolation or absence can have serious medical repercussions, which Betsy was facing.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Betsy, 27, broke up with Allan, 32, for a variety of reasons.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;I just knew it was time. Allan had a way of isolating me from my friends and my past. Once we broke up, I reached out to old friends and reconnected.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It was great to catch up and to have people who knew me, listen to me, and soothe my pain. They made me feel whole again.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And I learned that <\/span><b>friendship is a powerful thing<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, and to put old friends on the back burner when you&rsquo;re in a relationship is not going to happen again with me.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As that old Girl Scout song goes, &lsquo;Make new friends but keep the old, some are silver and the other&rsquo;s gold.&rdquo; That was so true in my case. Don&rsquo;t be afraid to reach out. Old friends are priceless.&rdquo;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>6. Avoid making big decisions<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Life after breaking up changes drastically. This is the time when you should avoid making important decisions in your life. It is likely that your mind is still figuring out how to survive a breakup, anger after break up with a mix of various emotions.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, breathe a little while and put off all the important decisions you need to make for the time being.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>7. Have a good sleep<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Usually, after a breakup, a person loses track of time, food, sleep, and usual daily activities. <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/sleep-problems-after-separation-or-divorce\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Lack of sleep<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> can cause thinking issues and other physical problems. It is important to have a nice amount of sleep to keep the brain and body functioning.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>8. Avoid keeping a friendship with them<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Processing the breakup takes time. So, make sure you keep your distance from your ex for some time. Being in contact with them will not let you move on and, rather, give you an opportunity to mourn over what is already lost.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>9. Take things slow<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You don&rsquo;t need to rush the grieving process as a solution to how to survive a breakup. <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/counseling\/heal-from-emotional-pain\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Healing takes its own sweet time<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. So, allow yourself time to recover from the pain instead of forcing yourself to be strong when your mind and body want some time.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>10. Don&rsquo;t avoid grieving<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Grieving is a part of the healing process. So, don&rsquo;t try to suppress those feelings in an attempt to feel strong. Let it all out rather than staying bottled up.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/healing-relationships-after-breaking-up-and-making-up\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Healing Relationships After Breaking Up And Making Up<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>11. Keep yourself busy every day<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One of the best solutions to how to survive a breakup is to remain engaged as it rightly goes- <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">An idle mind is the devil&rsquo;s workshop.&nbsp;<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You are the only one who can help yourself find <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/build-self-confidence-after-a-bad-breakup\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">motivation after break up<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, don&rsquo;t deliberately stay idle as it will give you an excuse to remain depressed and overthink the situation.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>12. Opt for a digital detox<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Social media can unintentionally lead you to compare your life to that of your friends&rsquo;. Also, you cannot avoid posts and images that would compel you to relate to your past love life.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>13. Be around people<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-63780\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/connect-with-your-partners-friends-and-family.jpg\" alt=\"group of friends enjoying\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The situation might have your desire to remain alone for long periods. You would want to be disconnected from everyone. However, one of the best pieces of advice for how to survive a breakup is to be around family and friends.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>14. Listen to your inner self<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">No matter what, your <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/hearingthevoice.org\/2015\/10\/14\/listening-to-your-inner-voice-why-inner-speech-is-an-important-part-of-your-daily-life-by-romeo-vitelli\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">inner voice<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> will always guide you towards the right path. Don&rsquo;t get emotional and make mistakes again. Trust your gut feeling, and it will definitely lead you towards better things in life.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>15. Reach out for support<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you feel lonely or depressed, reach out to your friends and family if you need their company. Don&rsquo;t hesitate in wanting to have their support if the need of the hour for you is the company of your dear ones.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>16. Do not stalk them<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you are seeking answers for how to survive a breakup, stalking them to find out what is going on in their lives is a very bad idea. It will benefit you if you keep away from stalking them on social media or asking your mutual friends about what&rsquo;s going on in your ex&rsquo;s life.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>17. Reflect on yourself<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/divorce\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Finding yourself<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> after a breakup is one essential step.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Take time to understand why the relationship failed. Spend some time with yourself to constructively analyze what went wrong and if you were responsible in any way. Try to accept your mistakes, if there were any, to figure out how you must not repeat them in the future.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>18. Start journaling<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Write down your feelings in a journal. Journaling is considered one of the most effective ways of how to survive a breakup as it helps you let out your true emotions without judgment. Start writing a diary or maintaining your gratitude book to stay optimistic.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>19. Remain hopeful<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Don&rsquo;t lose hope for the future just because your relationship didn&rsquo;t go well. Life is much ahead of a relationship. Find your purpose and believe that you will end up with someone who will understand your worth.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>20. Get help&nbsp;<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you are having a hard time coming out of the past, one of the advisable ways for how to survive a breakup is to reach out to the counselor or a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/experts\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">therapist<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, and they will help you recover from the trying situation.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-to-accept-and-move-on-from-a-relationship\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How to Accept and Move on From a Relationship<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>Takeaway<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">No matter at what stage of life you are in, dealing with a breakup takes its own sweet time. You cannot rush the process and you cannot slow it down either.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A breakup can be a life-shattering experience for anyone. But with head and heart in place and the best breakup advice and breakup tips, you will definitely be able to see the light of the day.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Most of us have been there: after what had been for some time a glorious relationship, you or your significant other called it quits.&nbsp;&nbsp; When you begin your battle with surviving a breakup, at first, there is the shock, then the feelings of dismay, maybe anger, and then the reality of it sets in. You are once again single. You may not know what to do, where to go, how you should proceed with your newly single status. 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