

{"id":33205,"date":"2019-01-24T11:25:45","date_gmt":"2019-01-24T11:25:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=33205"},"modified":"2023-02-18T06:24:50","modified_gmt":"2023-02-18T06:24:50","slug":"trust-your-partner","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/trust-your-partner\/","title":{"rendered":"Do You Trust Your Partner?  5 Questions to Ask Yourself"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-33208 size-full\" title=\"Do You Trust Your Partner?  5 Questions to Ask Yourself\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/Do-You-Trust-Your-Partner-5-Questions-to-Ask-Yourself.jpg\" alt=\"You-dDo-You-Trust-Your-Partner-5-Questions-to-Ask-Yourselfemand-the-passwords-to-their-accounts-\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Have you ever stopped to ask yourself &lsquo;do you trust your partner?&rsquo;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The chances are that if you have asked yourself that question, there may be a subconscious awareness of a lack of trust in your relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And if there is any inkling of a doubt that your relationship does not run on trust then it might be time to pay attention to your subconscious mind and start to figure out why. &nbsp;Especially because relationships with no trust don&rsquo;t tend to fare well &ndash; trust is the cornerstone of a relationship after all. <\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How-do-relationships-with-no-trust-form\"><\/span>How do relationships with no trust form?<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There are usually two reasons why you might begin to ask yourself &lsquo;do you trust your partner?&rsquo;<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Because there have been actual incidents that might promote a lack of trust &ndash; such as<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/infidelity\/when-you-are-married-to-serial-cheater\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">infidelity<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, disrespect, lies in general or repeated let downs on behalf of your partner or spouse.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> If you have experienced relationships with no trust in the past and have<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/infidelity\/psychological-effects-of-a-cheating-spouse\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">difficulty trusting<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> anybody. &nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For both of these types of relationships, there is always a solution, which begins with learning how to develop trust or with learning how to trust again.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In both situations, counseling will put you in good stead for the future and prevent you from experiencing a distrustful relationship. &nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The problem is though; it&rsquo;s not always easy to tell if you trust your partner. &nbsp;So to help you out here are some typical examples of ways we might behave if we do not trust our partner. &nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1-You-always-ask-them-for-proof-for-everything\"><\/span>1. You always ask them for proof for everything<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Practicing discernment is a healthy habit for sure, and there may be occasions when you do ask for a proof of something your partner is discussing with you. &nbsp;The difference being that the evidence required will not be proof that they were honest though, but more so that they have their facts checked too &ndash; there&rsquo;s a difference. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So if you find yourself asking for evidence to prove to you that what your partner or spouse is saying, doing or thinking is they the truth then that&rsquo;s a surefire example of a relationship without trust.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2-You-continuously-check-their-social-media\"><\/span>2. You continuously check their social media<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Once again the answer to this depends on the context. &nbsp;If you and your spouse automatically share your social media, phone, and email access for convenience and it&rsquo;s a mutual thing &ndash; not a demand, then the chances are that this is a healthy decision.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But if you have access because you&rsquo;ve demanded it (so that you can monitor their connections) or if you find yourself watching their connections suspiciously under any circumstances, the chances are you are living in a relationship without trust.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3-You-demand-the-passwords-to-their-accounts\"><\/span>3. You demand the passwords to their accounts<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-33207 size-full\" title=\"You-demand-the-passwords-to-their-accounts-\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/3.-You-demand-the-passwords-to-their-accounts-.jpg\" alt=\"You-demand-the-passwords-to-their-accounts-\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Unless there&rsquo;s a specific reason for having access to your partner or spouse&rsquo;s accounts (for example business or health reasons) then demanding access to their accounts is a suspicion driven activity. Especially if you are demanding access for monitoring purposes. &nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/controlling-relationship-signs-you-must-know\/\">controlling behavior<\/a> is a slippery slope toward a relationship without trust that you might need to counter fast to avoid destroying a potentially good thing.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"4-You-feel-intimidated-by-attractive-people-when-you-are-with-your-partner\"><\/span>4. You feel intimidated by attractive people when you are with your partner<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Feeling intimidated by attractive people being around your partner is not necessarily a sign of a relationship without trust. You could have low esteem or a lack of confidence.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But if that&rsquo;s not the case, you don&rsquo;t trust your partner enough to stay committed to you.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5-You-ask-others-to-confirm-your-partner%E2%80%99s-whereabouts\"><\/span>5. You ask others to confirm your partner&rsquo;s whereabouts<b>&nbsp;<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Confirming your partner or spouse&rsquo;s whereabouts is highly suspicious behavior that is sure to convey not just to you, but also to your partner and their friends that you are in a distrustful relationship.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">After all, why would you feel the need to question your partner?&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Something will be driving this behavior, and it won&rsquo;t have anything to do with trust. &nbsp;And it&rsquo;s probably time to sit down and ask yourself why you are in a relationship with no trust so that you might have the chance to put it right. &nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A lack of trust in a relationship can have dire consequences not just on the relationship itself but also on the psyche and wellbeing for both partners or spouses. &nbsp;If you find that you don&rsquo;t trust your partner isn&rsquo;t it time that you do something about it, so that you can enjoy the wonders of a loving and trusting relationship in the future?<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Have you ever stopped to ask yourself &lsquo;do you trust your partner?&rsquo;&nbsp; The chances are that if you have asked yourself that question, there may be a subconscious awareness of a lack of trust in your relationship. And if there is any inkling of a doubt that your relationship does not run on trust then it might be time to pay attention to your subconscious mind and start to figure out why. &nbsp;Especially because relationships with no trust don&rsquo;t tend to fare well &ndash; trust is the cornerstone of a relationship after all. How do relationships with no trust form? <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":675,"featured_media":33208,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[2502],"tags":[2602],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/33205"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/675"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=33205"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/33205\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":63172,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/33205\/revisions\/63172"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/33208"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=33205"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=33205"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=33205"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}