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There are many people who believe that jealousy is a sign of love<\/a>, nothing more, nothing less. But when you stop to consider jealousy in all of its glory you uncover what is really behind jealousy. We find that behind the facade of love is a whole bund of insecurity which can come in a variety of guises. <\/span><\/p>\n Don’t believe us?<\/span><\/p>\n Spend time looking at some of the best couples around you – couples who you know are in a loving, healthy and happy relationship<\/a>. And if they are really as content as they seem you’ll find a distinct absence of<\/span> jealousy<\/span> along with buckets of trust, security, and intimacy, the total opposite to jealousy.<\/span><\/p>\n So if jealousy is not love, what is behind it?<\/span><\/p>\n For the rest of this article, we will take a brief look at some of the significant factors that are really behind jealousy. <\/span><\/p>\n Just remember though, if jealousy is a problem for you, and you can relate to any of these issues, you are not alone. You are also not a ‘bad’ person, but you do have some work to do on yourself so that you can fix the problems and enjoy the healthy kind of relationships<\/a> that we have mentioned earlier on in this article.<\/span><\/p>\n Trust us it’s worth making the effort.<\/span><\/p>\n Fear of losing your partner combined with some of the other issues listed below could well be the driving factor behind jealousy.<\/span><\/p>\n After all, if you weren’t afraid of losing your partner, you’d have no need to be jealous when your partner innocently focuses on someone else. But this fear, for it to form into jealousy, is likely to be combined with other issues too.<\/span><\/p>\n If you are afraid of losing your partner and you are experiencing low self-esteem, or don’t feel good enough to be with your partner, it’s easy to understand why you might become jealous.<\/span><\/p>\n One of the ways that we demonstrate insecurity is through aloof or needy patterns of behavior.<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n Narcissists<\/span> expect their partners to have all eyes on them, they can’t have it any other way and don’t have the understanding that this is an inappropriate pattern of behavior in relationships<\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n If their partner interacts with others in a way that their narcissistic partner does not like, their partner could turn to jealousy as a form of control.<\/span><\/p>\n Sometimes it might not be that a jealous partner is afraid of losing you, instead, they may be afraid of not seeming to be the ‘best’ couple.<\/span><\/p>\n This behavior can occur amongst friendship groups, or amongst the partners of a group of siblings.<\/span><\/p>\n If a partner is<\/span> lying or cheating<\/span>, the chances are they become jealous with their partner because they are projecting their fear of being cheated on, or guilt onto them.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/span>1. Fear of losing your partner<\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>2. Low self-esteem, or insecure or neurotic behavioral patterns<\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>3. Narcissism<\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>4. Competitive behavior<\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>4. Lies or cheating behavior<\/span><\/h2>\n
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