{"id":32777,"date":"2019-01-16T09:34:30","date_gmt":"2019-01-16T09:34:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=32777"},"modified":"2024-08-20T05:55:06","modified_gmt":"2024-08-20T05:55:06","slug":"keep-the-romance-alive","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/romance\/keep-the-romance-alive\/","title":{"rendered":"35 Helpful Tips on How to Keep the Romance Alive Between You Two"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<h2><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-32779 size-full\" title=\"35 Helpful Tips on How to Keep the Romance Alive Between You Two\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/Romance-Alive-Between-You-Two.jpg\" alt=\"35 Helpful Tips on How to Keep the Romance Alive Between You Two\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/h2>\n<h2>Keeping the romance alive!<\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you think about &lsquo;Keeping the Romance Alive,&rsquo; think about generosity and being intentional. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You are either moving toward it or moving away from generosity and intentionality in your relationship. What are you intentional about in your everyday life? Are you generous in spirit or selfish? Are you intentional and making romance and intimacy in your relationship a priority?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">To <a href=\"https:\/\/movingpastdivorce.com\/2024\/04\/tips-for-keeping-romance-alive-in-your-marriage-all-year-round\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\">keep the romance alive<\/a>, you want to be &lsquo;intentional.&rsquo; <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Intentionally share your love, your time, and resources to support your partner in all they do. See your relationship through the lens of your partner&rsquo;s eyes and unconditional love.<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you use generosity in spirit your heart follows.<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You are putting the other person&rsquo;s best interest first and making them a priority in your world. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How can you use this in your relationship? Do you put your partner 1st in all you do, or are they at the bottom of the list of many demands you have on you every day? <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I&rsquo;m so tired I have nothing left to give, is what I hear from many couples in relational counseling. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sex? Who has the energy for that? We haven&rsquo;t done that since when, hmmm, it&rsquo;s been 10 months or, so I think. Not a good sign.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Are you selfish, or do you give generously and intentionally of yourself and your time and compassion?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong>Also watch: How much romance does a marriage need.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/v1Ux1FNcSJY\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h2>Here are 35 tips to keep the romance alive &ndash;<\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">1) Flattery &ndash; one compliment a day. Share what I liked best that you did today was<\/span><\/p>\n<p>2) Choose to fall in love with each other every day<\/p>\n<p>3) Leave each other love notes on mirrors with glass markers, on sticky notes, with text messages, in your partner&rsquo;s car, briefcase, suitcase, drawer, or any place you can think of to bring a smile to your partner&rsquo;s face<\/p>\n<p>4) Add romance to your routine by creating special alone time each day. It can be 5 minutes before you get up and 5 minutes before you go to sleep focusing only on each other<\/p>\n<p>5) Build sex into your routine to be close, to connect, to have fun, to show love. Some think sex must involve rituals or be magical every time, but it just needs to be connecting in some way in reality. Make it your home base<\/p>\n<p>6) Flirt and remember what your love story was every day. What attracted you to each other, and what it felt like to see that glance, that look, that touch and recreate those moments.<\/p>\n<p>7) If your husband or wife is naked getting into the shower, what are you thinking-<\/p>\n<ol><li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">He always leaves his clothes on the floor.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> &nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">She never leaves hot water.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> &nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">S\/He is so hot! &ndash; None of the other things matter!<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> &nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I wish they would hurry up or we&rsquo;ll be late.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">8) Have a weekly date night, schedule it, and stick to it. Be intentional and protect that time. If you need to move the time, reschedule; do not blow it off as &ldquo;optional<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">9)&nbsp;<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Picnic and a movie or binge-watch a TV show you both pick out at home<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">10) Make a meal together &amp; have it outside or by candlelight<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-32780 size-full\" title=\"Make a meal together &amp; have it outside or by candlelight\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/Candle-Night-Dinner.jpg\" alt=\"Make a meal together &amp; have it outside or by candlelight\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">11)&nbsp;<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Phone and\/or text him\/her during the day to let him know that you are thinking about him\/her, want them, love them, admire them, appreciate them<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">12) Take a walk on the beach, holding hands, and talk only about your love. Ask: What am I doing well in our relationship? What things do I do that make you happy?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">13) Take up a new hobby together or commit to do a hobby with your partner that they love to show how much you care<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">14) Schedule a date to &ldquo;make out.&rdquo;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">15) Have a breakfast date on a weekend morning\/holiday<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">16) Take a mini home vacation. Turn off devices, close the blinds and sleep in together and then cook pancakes, eggs, bacon, and have strawberries &amp; whip cream with Champagne for breakfast in a specially picked place<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">17) Read a book together when driving. Readout loud to your partner and share thoughts about it along the way<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">18) &nbsp;Bake cookies together and decorate them<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">19) Take turns monthly surprising each other with special dinner date night cooking the other&rsquo;s favorite meal<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">20) Had a stressful day? Leave it behind and go for ice cream, share a sundae, or an ice cream soda. Feeling better already?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">21) Watch a comedy and laugh together!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">22) If you have friends with a baby (and you have a baby), set up babysitting swapping nights to have the night free<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">23) With a baby or children, have date nights at home at 8:00 after the kids go to bed. Or bring in the babysitter from the neighborhood and have him\/her babysit at home and take care of the night routine like you are out and lock yourself in your bedroom for a date night<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">24) Dessert First night&hellip;.have fun having your favorite dessert first one night and eating dinner later<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">25) Feeling less connected? Touch is the answer. A foot or hand massage, neck massage, back massage, then switch. Reciprocating is the key<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">26)&nbsp;<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Drop it! Let go of all the past and anything your partner has done. Start fresh, right now. Begin making new memories. Discover each other all over again. After all, your dating a new, wonderful, wild woman\/man. Let yourself be fully present on your dates<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-32781 size-full\" title=\"After all, your dating a new, wonderful, wild womanman. Let yourself be fully present on your dates\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/After-all-your-dating-a-new-wonderful-wild-womanman.-Let-yourself-be-fully-present-on-your-dates.jpg\" alt=\"After all, your dating a new, wonderful, wild womanman. Let yourself be fully present on your dates\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">27)&nbsp;<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Be passionate! No more little pecks on the cheek, little shoulder top hugs, or weak love was. At least once a day, kiss each other like you really mean it. When you hug each other, make sure you give a full-blown, juicy, full-body bear hug (stiffness or tense hugging does not count). When your partner says love ya, stop what you are doing, walk over, look them in the eyes, and say, I love you, too. I mean, I really do love you! Enjoy the feelings this invokes<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">28)&nbsp;<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Notice each other as humans. What? When your partner comes home, stop for a minute, and welcome them home. Whichever of you get home first, acknowledge the other&rsquo;s presence in a loving way<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">29)&nbsp;<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Plan Ahead. Before kids, you could go out on a date whenever you wanted or stay up all night chatting with a baby, it takes a lot of planning ahead to make any of that happen, but it can still be done!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">30)&nbsp;<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Be each other&rsquo;s best friend. Have inside jokes, crack movie quotes with one another, let him\/her be the first person you want to talk to when you have good news, bad news, or juicy gossip<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">31)&nbsp;<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Take care of yourself. Remember when you first started dating? You always tried to look &amp; act your best. Attraction to physical appearance is usually the first thing that draws us together. It is easy to get comfortable &amp; forget this as we become comfortable. Basic hygiene to nice clothes and makeup is the foundation for closeness<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">32)&nbsp;<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Share a Secret Code. Pick a word that&rsquo;s likely to come up occasionally in conversation (heat, midnight, bedroom, whipped cream&hellip;) and agree that every time someone uses it, you have to touch &mdash; anything from a kiss to a lingering thigh stroke under the table<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">33) Change the sheets and make the bed up like an exotic hotel with chocolates on the pillow.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">34) Keep the bedroom door locked and teach children how to appreciate &amp; respect private time &amp; boundaries<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">35)&nbsp;<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Keep the romance alive by creating, and I LOVE YOU, and I WANT YOU signal so that you can flirt with them even in a crowded location!<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Keeping the romance alive! When you think about &lsquo;Keeping the Romance Alive,&rsquo; think about generosity and being intentional. You are either moving toward it or moving away from generosity and intentionality in your relationship. What are you intentional about in your everyday life? Are you generous in spirit or selfish? Are you intentional and making romance and intimacy in your relationship a priority? To keep the romance alive, you want to be &lsquo;intentional.&rsquo; Intentionally share your love, your time, and resources to support your partner in all they do. See your relationship through the lens of your partner&rsquo;s eyes and <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":252,"featured_media":32779,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[25],"tags":[2556],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/32777"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/252"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=32777"}],"version-history":[{"count":7,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/32777\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":103772,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/32777\/revisions\/103772"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/32779"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=32777"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=32777"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=32777"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}