

{"id":3213,"date":"2015-11-25T10:36:05","date_gmt":"2015-11-25T10:36:05","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=3213"},"modified":"2022-11-18T09:27:28","modified_gmt":"2022-11-18T09:27:28","slug":"planning-for-a-family-a-wonderful-bonding-activity","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/family\/planning-for-a-family-a-wonderful-bonding-activity\/","title":{"rendered":"Planning For a Family: A Wonderful Bonding Activity"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-3214 size-full\" title=\"Planning for Family: A Wonderful Bonding Activity\" src=\"http:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/11\/wondrful-bonding-activity.jpg\" alt=\"Planning for Family: A Wonderful Bonding Activity\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s always just been the two of you as a couple up until now. You have been happy together, but now you know that planning for a family is at this point in your journey.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Planning a family entails tons of benefits.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The first great benefit of family planning is that you get the communication going. Though you both have always known that you wanted kids together, now is the time to think about when to start family planning and how to make this work in your <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Children are pure joy, and you can truly enjoy that so much more if you consider how planning for a family works best for you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s important to think through every aspect of this and find definite answers to &ldquo;how to start a family&rdquo; and &ldquo;when to start a family&rdquo;.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Think of where your kids will sleep, if anybody will stay home, who will watch your kids, and how you will raise them.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Thinking-and-planning-for-an-exciting-journey\"><\/span>Thinking and planning for an exciting journey<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-24399 size-full\" title=\"Thinking and planning for an exciting journey\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/8-Ways-to-Help-You-Overcome-Intimacy-Problems-During-Pregnancy.jpg\" alt=\"Thinking and planning for an exciting journey\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Overall, you need to consider when to start family planning. Also know that sometimes the whole journey from wanting to start a family to being ready to start a family, can take a bit longer than expected.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The reality is that you will never realize how much is involved in planning for a family until you go through it. Even when the baby is on the way, you will still feel that you have so much to do.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Planning a family is just an extension of who you are as a couple, and therefore the <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/family\/understanding-the-importance-of-family-planning-in-your-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">benefit of family planning <\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">is that you prepare for the next step together.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You are going to have times when you feel that the advantages of family planning are numerous but it may be overwhelming for you. Take it one step at a time and start with when to start family planning, and then work your way out from there.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You may have concerns or issues centered around planning a family that you wish to discuss, and that is very normal.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Let the <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/communication\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">communication<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> flow and be sure that planning for a family that you both want will lead you in the next right direction for your relationship.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Starting a family can be a wondrous time in your journey so allow it to be that and embrace this time in your marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"The-importance-of-family-planning\"><\/span>The importance of family planning<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The significance of planning a family is that it will help you to unite and bring forth a wonderful and exciting time in your marriage in the best way possible!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But first, ask yourself, &ldquo;are you ready for kids?&rdquo; Having children is a huge step in any couple&rsquo;s life. Take this<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/quizzes\/quiz-are-you-ready-to-have-children\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> do I want children quiz<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and find out if you are ready to take this huge step!<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Questions-to-ask-before-having-kids\"><\/span>Questions to ask before having kids<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-39537 size-full\" title=\"Questions to ask before having kids\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/5-Emotional-Needs-Every-Couple-Needs-to-Know.jpg\" alt=\"Questions to ask before having kids\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Extending your family and bringing a lovely bundle of love and giggles, that you can get gooey over is no small decision.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, better safe than sorry! There are several questions concerning planning a family and having a baby that couples must ask each other.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here are a few important questions to ask yourself and your partner before having a baby to avoid the chaos of parenthood, and centering yourself amidst all the new baby stress.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What course of action or alternative we take in case there are complications in conceiving? <\/span><b>Struggling to get pregnant right away<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, or inability to get pregnant at all, should we<\/span><b> opt for fertility treatment or head for an adoption<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In case you find out that you are pregnant with twins, What are the <\/span><b>pros and cons of having twins<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Are our finances in place? Kids are expensive.<\/span><b> Do we have a healthy nest egg to provide for the kid&rsquo;s needs<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> without draining our savings or compromising on the lifestyle or making radical sacrifices?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><b>How do we work out the child care plan<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">? Are both going to work, continuing with our jobs or is one of us going to be a stay at home parent? Do you ask the family to pitch in support or delegate the responsibility to a nanny?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><b>How do we achieve a fair allocation of nursing duties? <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Who takes care of prepping the milk formula at night and on what days? Who changes diapers and who takes the child for vaccination, how do we divide up and make switches in these duties, so there is a fair splitting?&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It would be a good idea to touch base on religious and spiritual beliefs and practices. <\/span><b>How are you going to introduce a child to your respective set of beliefs and rituals<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> without trampling on the other spouse&rsquo;s belief and value system?<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How do you plan to <\/span><b>handle the clash of maternal and paternal grandparents&rsquo; parenting methods<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How do you <\/span><b>divvy up family time, parenting time, and individual time<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What is your stance on kids&rsquo; vices? <\/span><b>How do you plan to regulate their behavior and inculcate discipline<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> without turning into a helicopter parent?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How do you<\/span><b> secure your kids&rsquo; future financially<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How will you<\/span><b> handle<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> any kind of uncomfortable<\/span><b> revelation about your child&rsquo;s sexual orientation<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><b>How will you keep the passion alive in your marriage<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> amidst all the <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/parenting\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">parenting<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> duties?<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Quick-tips-on-how-to-plan-a-family\"><\/span>Quick tips on how to plan a family<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Becoming parents is a major milestone in every couple&rsquo;s life. To help you make a smooth transition from a couple to parents, here are simple and effective tips that will help you brace up for all the challenges that come with planning a family.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Learn to manage relationship stress to ensure parenting or <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/pregnancy\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">pregnancy<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> doesn&rsquo;t leave you sapped<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Reach out to your friends and family for support<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Don&rsquo;t let emotional overload or physical strain turn you cranky<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Eat healthy snacks and engage in some form of physical exercise<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Don&rsquo;t stop dating your partner as your big day draws<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It would also be helpful to read about n<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/family\/family-planning-the-natural-way\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">atural family planning<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. It refers to birth control methods that don&rsquo;t rely on pills or prophylactics; and through which, couples may exercise more of an active role in controlling the family size or the age gap of siblings.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>It&rsquo;s always just been the two of you as a couple up until now. You have been happy together, but now you know that planning for a family is at this point in your journey. Planning a family entails tons of benefits. The first great benefit of family planning is that you get the communication going. Though you both have always known that you wanted kids together, now is the time to think about when to start family planning and how to make this work in your relationship. 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