{"id":31977,"date":"2019-01-07T10:30:54","date_gmt":"2019-01-07T10:30:54","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=31977"},"modified":"2025-12-09T07:06:11","modified_gmt":"2025-12-09T07:06:11","slug":"live-with-a-narcissist","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/live-with-a-narcissist\/","title":{"rendered":"7 Solutions to How to Live with a Narcissist"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-31979 size-full\" title=\"7 Solutions to How to Live with a Narcissist\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/7-Solutions-to-How-to-Live-with-a-Narcissist.jpg\" alt=\"7 Solutions to How to Live with a Narcissist\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In relationships, it is never about &lsquo;I&rsquo;, &lsquo;Me&rsquo; and &lsquo;Myself&rsquo;. Instead, it&rsquo;s about &lsquo;We&rsquo;, &lsquo;Us&rsquo; and &lsquo;Ourselves&rsquo;. However, there are times when one may fall in love with someone who belongs to the former group. Spending time with them in a social environment is difficult, live alone being in a relationship with them.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But sometimes you fall in love with a person who is a narcissist. Initially, it doesn&rsquo;t seem to bother you but as you spend more time, you realize that it&rsquo;s actually getting troublesome. Since you&rsquo;re in love and in a relationship, you just want to bring this has a reason for the break-up. Keeping this in mind, we bring to you some solutions on how to live with a narcissist and deal with them.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Acceptance\"><\/span>Acceptance<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We all would like to be with a perfect person of our dreams, but the reality is something different. Though we would like to alter a few habits of the significant other, we must understand that some things can&rsquo;t be changed. It&rsquo;s a part of their character and their existence.<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The best possible way to handle is to make peace with it. The sooner we accept them for who they&rsquo;re are, the sooner we will sort out our lives. <\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s not right to change them for ourselves rather should accept them with an open heart. It&rsquo;s difficult but is the right thing to do.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Self-esteem\"><\/span>Self-esteem<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s not that easy to live with a person who doesn&rsquo;t shy away from putting you down in most scenarios. It&rsquo;s absolutely painful and at times can put you in a compromising position wherein you may end up doubting yourself.<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They may not want you to doubt your self-esteem but unknowingly do it. The best way to deal with this is to maintain your self-esteem, no matter what.<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Take everything they say with a pinch of salt and wear that smile on your face. They&rsquo;re just like that doesn&rsquo;t mean they don&rsquo;t love you at all.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Negotiation\"><\/span>Negotiation<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/lXr_OaoAxCU?si=m6IbWzbWXjC7DiQo\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<div class=\"subscribeYT_highlight\"><div class=\"subscribe_channel\">\r\n            <div class=\"subscribe_text\">Join millions <span class=\"sub_text1\">building healthier, happier<\/span> <span class=\"sub_text2\"> relationships.<\/span><\/div>\r\n            <a class=\"subscribe-btn-in-content\" href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/@Marriagedotcom?sub_confirmation=1\" target=\"_blank\">\r\n            <img src=\"\/images\/youtube_icon_small.png\" class=\"icon-left\" alt=\"YouTube\">\r\n            <span>Subscribe<\/span>\r\n            <img src=\"\/images\/bell_icon_new.svg\" class=\"icon-right\" alt=\"Extra Icon\">\r\n            <\/a>\r\n        <\/div><\/div>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s important that you can negotiate well when you&rsquo;re trying to learn how to live with a narcissist. There are a few things that are tolerable and some are not. It&rsquo;s up to you where you draw that line.<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Make sure you&rsquo;re not too harsh on them whilst drawing this line and are not too lenient as well. <\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You have to learn to negotiate in various situations and make them understand. It may sound rude at times but they should be informed about it when they&rsquo;re crossing their lines.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Observation\"><\/span>Observation<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Observation is the key to success. Yes, indeed! It&rsquo;s necessary that you understand when are they crossing the line and when you need to raise the flag. This can be achieved only when you&rsquo;re observing them properly.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They might just do it impulsively but it&rsquo;s your responsibility to guide them properly. A narcissist may simply blame you for things you&rsquo;ve not done. But you&rsquo;re not aware of their body language you may end up blaming yourself for the entire situation. <\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Hence, learn their body language, observe them and understand their non-verbal communication for a better understanding.<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Independence\"><\/span>Independence<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-31980 size-full\" title=\"Independence\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/Independence.jpg\" alt=\"Independence\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A narcissist may want you to totally depend on them. However, this may not be entirely good for you. You have to learn to be independent. In a relationship, it&rsquo;s anyway not ideal to be dependent on someone else. <\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s always necessary that you keep up your positive attitude and live independently. <\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You may not realize but they may actually end up respecting you for your self-esteem and independence.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Building-ego\"><\/span>Building ego<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yes, it may work! Since narcissist only thinks about themselves and are self-obsessed, it&rsquo;s not wrong to boost their ego, but in a healthy way. Give them compliments every now and then. Let them know that you appreciate their effort.<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This way, whilst you&rsquo;re boosting their ego in a healthy way, you&rsquo;re also helping them appreciate you as well. <\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This two-way appreciation can make your life easy and smooth.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Identifying-gas-lighting-situations\"><\/span>Identifying gas-lighting situations<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Gas-lighting is true when it comes to dealing with a narcissist. They may hold on relevant information from you and can even replace it with a false one. Since they&rsquo;re your significant other and you trust them for who they&rsquo;re, you may end up believing them.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, it&rsquo;s not advised to do so. You must have the ability to identify the gas-lighting situation and take try to find out the truth behind their conversation. Blindly believing everything they say may lead you to a troublesome situation.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you love someone you accept them for who they&rsquo;re. However, when you&rsquo;re in love with a narcissist, the aforementioned points will help you guide on how to live with a narcissist. Make sure that you&rsquo;re smart enough to identify them on time and take these precautionary measures to live a healthy and beautiful life with them.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>In relationships, it is never about &lsquo;I&rsquo;, &lsquo;Me&rsquo; and &lsquo;Myself&rsquo;. Instead, it&rsquo;s about &lsquo;We&rsquo;, &lsquo;Us&rsquo; and &lsquo;Ourselves&rsquo;. However, there are times when one may fall in love with someone who belongs to the former group. Spending time with them in a social environment is difficult, live alone being in a relationship with them. But sometimes you fall in love with a person who is a narcissist. Initially, it doesn&rsquo;t seem to bother you but as you spend more time, you realize that it&rsquo;s actually getting troublesome. Since you&rsquo;re in love and in a relationship, you just want to bring this <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":675,"featured_media":31979,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[2507],"tags":[2727],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/31977"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/675"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=31977"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/31977\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":114645,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/31977\/revisions\/114645"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/31979"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=31977"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=31977"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=31977"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}