{"id":31706,"date":"2019-01-03T06:31:29","date_gmt":"2019-01-03T06:31:29","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=31706"},"modified":"2023-04-17T09:06:35","modified_gmt":"2023-04-17T09:06:35","slug":"repair-a-sexless-marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/repair-a-sexless-marriage\/","title":{"rendered":"10 Ways to Fix a Sexless Marriage"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

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“You know more about my sexuality than my wife,” said my client, a man in his early 40s who was lamenting about the lack of intimacy in his marriage. <\/span><\/p>\n

I was initially taken aback, how could this be so? Then I realized that my client and his wife were like many couples, if not most, in that they were not having open and honest conversations about their sexual feelings, needs, and desires.<\/span><\/p>\n

In short, he was trying to figure out how to fix a sexless marriage, as physical intimacy was missing from his relationship. <\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>What is a sexless marriage?<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n

Before we go into details of how to fix a sexless marriage, you should know what a sexless marriage is. <\/span><\/p>\n

A marriage in which a couple has no sexual intimacy is defined as a sexless marriage. In a sexless marriage, there is no intimate activity between a couple. <\/span><\/p>\n

Although getting intimate depends on the individual dynamics of a couple, typically, in a sexless marriage, a couple has sex less than 10 times a year.<\/span><\/p>\n

Many reasons can be responsible for a sexless marriage, including physical or mental health problems, stress, miscommunication, lack of attraction, respect or desire, etc. <\/span><\/p>\n

A sexless marriage can ruin your entire relationship, as, without intimacy, a couple might feel unhappy and frustrated. A sexless marriage might break down the relationship or result in divorce without professional guidance. <\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>Why do couples avoid talking about sex?<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n

Before understanding how to bring intimacy back into a marriage, you should know why couples do not even discuss sex. Here are some reasons:<\/span><\/p>\n

  • Embarrassment or shame in talking about sex, in general, may arise due to religious or cultural teachings that sex is somehow dirty, bad, or wrong.<\/span><\/li>\n
  • Being private about your sex life, which is often something intensely personal that we may not often discuss openly with others.<\/span><\/li>\n
  • Previous experiences of sexual talks with your partner or former partners that didn’t go well.<\/span><\/li>\n
  • Fear of hurting their partner’s feelings, rejection, and conflict.<\/span><\/li>\n
  • Hoping that the problem will magically resolve itself. Actually, the opposite is more likely. Often, the longer you wait, the bigger the issue becomes.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>

    Here is a video explaining the negatives of no-sex marriage and how it greatly affects us. <\/span><\/p>\n