

{"id":31391,"date":"2018-12-19T10:04:55","date_gmt":"2018-12-19T10:04:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=31391"},"modified":"2025-01-09T09:49:15","modified_gmt":"2025-01-09T09:49:15","slug":"impact-of-microaggression","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/impact-of-microaggression\/","title":{"rendered":"Microaggression in Relationships: Impact and Ways To Deal"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-106812\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/1055745626.jpg\" alt=\"Young couple having conflicts \" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How would you feel if your partner casually says, &ldquo;You&rsquo;re so dramatic&mdash;it must be because you&rsquo;re a woman\/man,&rdquo; or a family member remarks, &ldquo;You&rsquo;re so sensitive about cultural stuff; can&rsquo;t you just let it go?&rdquo;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">At first glance, these comments might seem harmless, even unintentional. But over time, they sting, leaving you questioning your worth and feeling unseen. Could these subtle slights be damaging your relationship? Are they something more than simple criticism?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you have ever felt misunderstood, dismissed, or invalidated in ways that seem too small to call out but too significant to ignore, you&rsquo;re not alone, and we are here to help.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Microaggression in relationships, whether in family or romantic dynamics, can erode trust and emotional safety.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><div class=\"research_highlight\"><p>According to a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.sciencedirect.com\/science\/article\/abs\/pii\/S1138359323002046#:~:text=Micro%2Daggressions%20are%20frequent%2C%20subtle,degree%20of%20mistreatment%20and%20burnout.\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">study<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, microaggressions often stem from unconscious biases, yet their impact is anything but subtle&mdash;they harm self-esteem and strain connections.<\/p><\/div><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We&rsquo;ll dive into the meaning of microaggression in <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/family-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">family relationships<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, explore real-life examples of microaggressions in romantic relationships, and clarify how they differ from healthy criticism.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">More importantly, you&rsquo;ll discover practical ways to address and heal from these hidden wounds. Let&rsquo;s break the silence.<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/12-signs-of-a-disrespectful-husband\/\" title=\"17 Disrespectful Husband Signs (and What to Do Next)\">17 Disrespectful Husband Signs (and What to Do Next)<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-is-microaggression-in-a-relationship\"><\/span><b>What is microaggression in a relationship?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">NIH defines microaggression as:<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/equality-diversity.ed.ac.uk\/students\/microaggressions\/what-are-microaggressions#:~:text=%22Everyday%20verbal%2C%20non%2Dverbal,Questioning%20lived%20experience\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Microaggressions<\/span><\/i><\/a> <i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">are everyday verbal, nonverbal, and environmental slights, snubs, or insults&ndash; whether intentional or unintentional&ndash; that communicate hostile, derogatory, or negative messages to individuals based solely upon their marginalized group membership.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Microaggression in relationships refers to subtle, often unintentional behaviors or comments that convey bias, disrespect, or dismissiveness toward someone&rsquo;s identity or feelings. These actions may seem minor at first but can build up, causing emotional strain and eroding trust.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For instance, a partner might say, &ldquo;You&rsquo;re pretty smart for someone who didn&rsquo;t go to college,&rdquo; or &ldquo;Do you really need to be so emotional about this?&rdquo; Such remarks might not be intended as harmful, but they undermine the other person&rsquo;s self-worth over time.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Microaggressions in close relationships often stem from ingrained stereotypes or unconscious biases. Their repetitive nature can significantly impact mental health and the overall dynamic of the relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Let&rsquo;s understand more about what are microaggressions in a relationship and how we can address them through healthier communication.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How-does-microaggression-cause-harm\"><\/span><b>How does microaggression cause harm?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-106704\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/01\/321179450.jpg\" alt=\"Young couple having conflicts\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Microaggression in relationships may seem subtle, but its cumulative impact can deeply harm emotional well-being and strain the bond between partners or family members. Here&rsquo;s how it manifests in real-life situations:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When someone hears comments like &ldquo;You&rsquo;re too sensitive&rdquo; or &ldquo;You&rsquo;re overreacting again,&rdquo; it invalidates their emotions. Over time, <\/span><b>this can lead to self-doubt<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, making them feel like their feelings don&rsquo;t matter in the relationship.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Repeated microaggressions, such as dismissive jokes about cultural backgrounds or gender roles, can make the affected person withdraw emotionally. <\/span><b>This leaves a gap in communication<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, building resentment and <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/emotional-detachment\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">disconnect<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Subtle biases, like consistently interrupting someone or questioning their opinions, can make the individual feel unheard or undervalued. <\/span><b>This persistent tension can escalate into anxiety<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, impacting the overall health of microaggression in relationships.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><b><i>Related Reading: <\/i><\/b><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/should-you-really-deal-with-a-cruel-spouse\/<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Do-you-support-microaggression\"><\/span><b>Do you support microaggression?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The main worry that might be eating at you right now is, &lsquo;<\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Am I also supporting microaggression?&rsquo;<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;You might unknowingly support microaggression in relationships through seemingly harmless behaviors or silence when witnessing such actions.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For instance, laughing at a dismissive joke about someone&rsquo;s cultural habits or ignoring comments like &ldquo;You always overreact because you&rsquo;re emotional&rdquo; can perpetuate harmful patterns.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While these acts might not feel intentional, they validate subtle biases that hurt emotional safety. To counter this, it&rsquo;s essential to call out these behaviors, even in close relationships, and reflect on your own words.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">By being proactive, you can prevent microaggression in relationships and create an environment of mutual respect and understanding.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Microaggression-examples\"><\/span><b>Microaggression examples<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There are many forms of microaggressions. Some of the microaggressions examples in relationships are:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"list-style-type: none;\">\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;I can understand the problems of being a part of the minority group.&rdquo;<\/span><\/i><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;As a woman, it must be hard to fight for your minority group.&rdquo;<\/span><\/i><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;You belong to &lt;insert place\/ country&gt;. Isn&rsquo;t life hard for your community there?&rdquo;<\/span><\/i><\/li>\n<\/ul><\/li>\n<\/ul><ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;Wow, you&rsquo;re so articulate for someone from your background.&rdquo;<\/span><\/i><\/li>\n<\/ul><ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;You&rsquo;re really good at this&mdash;must be because of your upbringing.&rdquo;<\/span><\/i><\/li>\n<\/ul><ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;I don&rsquo;t even see you as a minority; you&rsquo;re just like everyone else.&rdquo;<\/span><\/i><\/li>\n<\/ul><ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&ldquo;It&rsquo;s amazing you&rsquo;ve come so far despite your challenges.&rdquo;<\/span><\/i><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Microaggressions can simply be called &lsquo;bad etiquette.&rsquo; The video below shares examples of racial and ageist microaggressions in the workplace. Take a look to understand better:<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/XjgozDwAjqg?si=O7GH2-K4ZrYmd0I3\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\">&#65279;<\/span><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Microaggressions-as-humor\"><\/span><b>Microaggressions as humor<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How many times have you gulped in a statement just because it was embarrassing or mocking? How many times did you not confuse between humor, microaggressions, and mockery?<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><b>The ideology of humor for a microaggressive person revolves around whatever makes them and the people around them laugh.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It doesn&rsquo;t target any specific group of people. It mostly targets a race, a person&rsquo;s weakness, and, most importantly, their personality traits. This not only proves to be humiliating but because it is mistaken for humor, also leaves a person in self-doubt.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Credibility-of-microaggressions\"><\/span><b>Credibility of microaggressions<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It doesn&rsquo;t hold any scientific support, nor does it feed benefit to the other. T<\/span><b>he term was brought to life by <\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.oxfordbibliographies.com\/display\/document\/obo-9780199828340\/obo-9780199828340-0310.xml\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><b><i>Psychiatrist <\/i><\/b><b>Chester M. Pierce<\/b><\/a><b> from Harvard in 1970. In the 21st century, the term started to get its full recognition.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It was, therefore, used to explain any act of degradation that is based on pure biased opinions. But it will surely be challenging to explain to someone who is determined to negate it.<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"wporg-box\"><div class=\"\"><span class=\"wporg_heading\">RELATED READING : <\/span><span class=\"wporg_title\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/signs-of-disrespect-in-a-relationship\/\" title=\"20 Signs of Disrespect in a Relationship &#038; How to Deal\">20 Signs of Disrespect in a Relationship &#038; How to Deal<\/a><\/span><\/div><\/div>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Why-not-call-it-%E2%80%98criticism%E2%80%99\"><\/span><b>Why not call it &lsquo;criticism&rsquo;?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s a valid question. The key distinction lies in intent and impact.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Criticism, whether positive or negative, is always intentional. <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s rooted in deliberate feedback aimed at improving or addressing specific behaviors or actions. In contrast, microaggressions in relationships can be unintentional, stemming from unconscious biases or ignorance.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For instance, in a group of friends, sharing insecurities can be part of building trust. However, you should ensure those <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/tips-on-speaking-with-each-other-respectfully\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">conversations remain respectful<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and not turn into jokes that hurt someone&rsquo;s feelings.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When friends humorously degrade or dismiss you based on those vulnerabilities, even without malicious intent, the emotional damage is still real.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here&rsquo;s a clear comparison to differentiate between the two:<\/span><\/p>\n\n<table id=\"tablepress-172\" class=\"tablepress tablepress-id-172\">\n<thead>\n<tr class=\"row-1 odd\">\n\t<th class=\"column-1\">Aspect<\/th><th class=\"column-2\">Criticism<\/th><th class=\"column-3\">Microaggressions<\/th>\n<\/tr>\n<\/thead>\n<tbody class=\"row-hover\">\n<tr class=\"row-2 even\">\n\t<td class=\"column-1\">Intent<\/td><td class=\"column-2\">Always intentional<\/td><td class=\"column-3\">Often unintentional<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr class=\"row-3 odd\">\n\t<td class=\"column-1\">Purpose<\/td><td class=\"column-2\">Can be constructive (to improve or address issues)<\/td><td class=\"column-3\">Rooted in bias, often dismissive or invalidating<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr class=\"row-4 even\">\n\t<td class=\"column-1\">Example<\/td><td class=\"column-2\">\u201cYou could improve your time management.\u201d<\/td><td class=\"column-3\">\u201cWow, you\u2019re so organized for someone like you.\u201d<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr class=\"row-5 odd\">\n\t<td class=\"column-1\">Impact<\/td><td class=\"column-2\">Can help growth if delivered respectfully<\/td><td class=\"column-3\">Harms self-esteem and emotional well-being<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n<!-- #tablepress-172 from cache -->\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How-to-fix-it\"><\/span><b>How to fix it?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Microaggressions in relationships can hit harder than you might think. The tricky part? <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/hbr.org\/2017\/02\/how-to-respond-to-an-offensive-comment-at-work\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Responding to these degrading statements<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> without making things worse.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Microaggressions in relationships often come from unconscious biases. So, when it happens, <\/span><b>a calm response can go a long way. <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Try saying something like, &ldquo;I know you didn&rsquo;t mean to, but that comment felt off because&hellip;&rdquo; This opens up a conversation instead of sparking a fight.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But it&rsquo;s not just about personal interactions. <\/span><b>We need to talk about microaggressions on a bigger scale&mdash;at work, in schools, and in our communities.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Imagine if schools taught kids how small actions can have big impacts. It&rsquo;s the kind of lesson that could change how we all communicate and treat each other.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Fixing microaggressions isn&rsquo;t about blaming people; it&rsquo;s about helping everyone grow.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> With awareness and effort, we can turn these moments into a chance for better, more respectful connections.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How-to-respond-to-microaggressions\"><\/span><b>How to respond to microaggressions?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One of the prior steps of responding to microaggression is understanding when it happens. That means you should know when an act or<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC6007773\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">speech<\/span><\/a> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">is a form of microaggression and not something casual. You should be sure to avoid an adverse reaction.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Next, understand the consequences of your reaction.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Will you be in danger? Will you be frowned upon? Is it going to affect your relationship with the other party or the group of people?<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You must keep in mind what the impact of your reaction be.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Once you do, you can share your feelings if you can expect a positive outcome, response, or understanding.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How-to-avoid-committing-microaggressions\"><\/span><b>How to avoid committing microaggressions<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-31396 size-full\" title=\"Why not call it &lsquo;criticism&rsquo;\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/Why-not-call-it-%E2%80%98criticism%E2%80%99.jpg\" alt=\"Why not call it &lsquo;criticism&rsquo;\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">No one sets out to hurt someone with their words or actions, but microaggressions often happen unintentionally. The good news? A little mindfulness can go a long way in preventing them.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. Think before you speak<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you&rsquo;re about to comment on someone&rsquo;s background, habits, or appearance, pause and ask yourself, &ldquo;Could this sound dismissive or stereotypical?&rdquo; For example, instead of saying, &ldquo;Wow, you&rsquo;re so articulate for someone from your community,&rdquo; just compliment their communication skills without tying it to their background.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>2. Educate yourself about unconscious biases<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We all have biases, but awareness is the first step to overcoming them. Take the time to learn about different cultures, experiences, and perspectives. This will help you avoid remarks like, &ldquo;Do all people from your country do this?&rdquo; which can feel ignorant or alienating.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>3. Listen and apologize when corrected<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If someone points out that your words hurt them, resist the urge to defend yourself. Acknowledge their feelings and respond with, &ldquo;I&rsquo;m sorry, I didn&rsquo;t realize how that came across. Thank you for letting me know.&rdquo; This shows maturity and a willingness to improve.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Does-sensitivity-come-with-microaggression\"><\/span><b>Does sensitivity come with microaggression?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Everything on this planet slowly and gradually either adapts to any physical or emotional insult or gets deformed. The same is the case with sensitivity. Sensitivity is not a choice; neither is it non-inherent. It can be acquired by parents or can be a result of repeated insult.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, from a broader perspective, <\/span><b>it is true that sensitivity comes with microaggressions as well. What&rsquo;s not right is that microaggressions create sensitivity in people.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Therefore, instead of being a root cause of damaging a human, it&rsquo;s a humble option to choose otherwise.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Understanding-and-avoiding-microaggression\"><\/span><b>Understanding and avoiding microaggression<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What can be the impact of microaggressions?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Microaggressions are often overlooked or brushed off, but ignoring them doesn&rsquo;t make the harm any less real. Dismissing the impact of these subtle attacks is a disservice to emotional well-being.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Many times, microaggressions stem from individuals projecting their own insecurities. It&rsquo;s important to remember that responding to such behavior with more negativity only perpetuates the cycle. Instead, strive to lift others up, not degrade them in return.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ultimately, anything that contributes to someone&rsquo;s suffering is harmful. In the pursuit of perfection, don&rsquo;t forget to embrace humility and gratitude, recognizing that kindness and respect are the true measures of strength.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>How would you feel if your partner casually says, &ldquo;You&rsquo;re so dramatic&mdash;it must be because you&rsquo;re a woman\/man,&rdquo; or a family member remarks, &ldquo;You&rsquo;re so sensitive about cultural stuff; can&rsquo;t you just let it go?&rdquo;&nbsp; At first glance, these comments might seem harmless, even unintentional. But over time, they sting, leaving you questioning your worth and feeling unseen. Could these subtle slights be damaging your relationship? Are they something more than simple criticism? If you have ever felt misunderstood, dismissed, or invalidated in ways that seem too small to call out but too significant to ignore, you&rsquo;re not alone, and <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":675,"featured_media":106812,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[11],"tags":[2511],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/31391"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/675"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=31391"}],"version-history":[{"count":7,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/31391\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":106813,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/31391\/revisions\/106813"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/106812"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=31391"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=31391"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=31391"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}