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Do you feel good about your relationship, or do you find yourself making excuses for your partner’s behavior more times than you’d like to admit? <\/span><\/p>\n

Do you gush to your friends about how well your spouse treats you or get advice from them about why he treats you so poorly? Do you feel like you’re dating a mean person?<\/span><\/p>\n

Every couple has disagreements or may say something hurtful every once in a while, but this should not be the baseline of your relationship. Your spouse should make you feel good about yourself. They should support and respect you.<\/span><\/p>\n

You should have fun together. In fact, you should feel on top of the world when you’re with them.<\/span><\/p>\n

If you’re thinking your relationship couldn’t sound farther from the above paragraph, then you may be dating a mean person.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>10 signs you’re dating a mean person <\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n

Here are 10 telltale signs that your <\/span>relationship is growing toxic<\/span><\/a> and what you should do about it:<\/span><\/p>\n

1. You fight all the time<\/b><\/h3>\n

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Every relationship has its ups and downs.<\/span><\/p>\n

Every couple has the occasional fight or goes through bouts where they’re not getting along great. This is normal. There are even times when healthy couples break each other’s trust and have to work on building their relationship back up.<\/span><\/p>\n

But these should be rare occasions, not everyday events.<\/span><\/p>\n

Do you feel more like you’re on a terrifying roller coaster than in a partnership with your best friend? Do you feel <\/span>trapped in a relationship<\/span><\/a> that’s full of constant arguing, or does your spouse freeze you out more than you’d like to admit?<\/span><\/p>\n

If so, odds are you’re dating a mean person.<\/span><\/p>\n

2. They’re selfish<\/b><\/h3>\n

A <\/span>healthy relationship<\/span><\/a> is all about giving.<\/span><\/p>\n

You give your time, energy, and your heart to someone else. Their concerns are your concerns. You have their best interest at heart, always. These are the behaviors of a couple in love.<\/span><\/p>\n

According to <\/span>Grady Shumwa<\/span><\/a>y, a licensed mental health counselor:<\/span><\/p>\n

A healthy relationship thrives on mutual giving and consideration, where both partners invest their time, energy, and care into each other. Selfishness, however, disrupts this balance.<\/span><\/p>\n

If your partner consistently prioritizes their own needs over yours, avoids integrating with your social circle, and dismisses your feelings, they may be displaying selfish behavior. These traits can undermine the foundation of a loving, supportive relationship.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

On the other hand, someone who is selfish only thinks about what’s best for themselves. You may be dating a mean, selfish person if they:<\/span><\/p>\n