

{"id":30817,"date":"2018-12-10T09:10:51","date_gmt":"2018-12-10T09:10:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=30817"},"modified":"2024-08-29T09:57:19","modified_gmt":"2024-08-29T09:57:19","slug":"making-a-narcissist-want-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/making-a-narcissist-want-you\/","title":{"rendered":"10 Signs of Loving a Narcissist to Win Over the Relationship"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-53897 size-full\" title=\"Loving a Narcissist\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/Loving-a-Narcissist.jpg\" alt=\"Loving a Narcissist\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Narcissists are extremely self-involved people. And loving a narcissist is no smooth sailing!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They have an exaggerated sense of self, regardless of how they may be in reality. They admire themselves for no reason in particular and are habitual in making everything about themselves.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Such people can generally not tolerate any form of criticism. They also expect and demand constant attention and praise from others. These people have reached a high level of self-actualization in their minds.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They may not necessarily be what they believe themselves to be. On the face of it, they show themselves to be very confident, while deep inside lies a fragile little ego.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-is-a-narcissistic-personality-disorder\"><\/span><b>What is a narcissistic personality disorder?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.mayoclinic.org\/diseases-conditions\/narcissistic-personality-disorder\/symptoms-causes\/syc-20366662\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> narcissistic personality disorder<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> is a type of personality disorder in which a person has an overwhelming sense of self.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">People who suffer from this disorder claim attention and care from others, and as a result, they exhibit certain traits that make life difficult for themselves and those around them.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">These traits include:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The belief that they deserve the attention they demand<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Considering themselves to be superior<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Taking advantage of others to get things done their way<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Making everything about themselves and ignoring the needs and wants of other people.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Arrogant behavior<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Difficulty in listening to issues raised by people they associate with<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As a result of such traits, narcissists often face troublesome relationships at home and work.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">To understand the psychology of a narcissist, watch this video.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/J4yraZiJ9D8\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How-to-make-a-relationship-with-a-narcissist-work\"><\/span><b>How to make a relationship with a narcissist work<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you are in a relationship and are facing serious issues due to your partner&rsquo;s negligence, it is important to recognize where the problem lies.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If your partner tends to overlook and ignore all your concerns and is ever ready to make it all about themselves, the chances are that you are in love with a narcissist.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you are loving a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.sciencedirect.com\/science\/article\/abs\/pii\/S0092656621001161\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">narcissist<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, you might often wonder how to deal with a narcissistic boyfriend\/ girlfriend or how to love a narcissist in a way that they approve of.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Loving a narcissist man or woman can prove to be energy-draining. The survival of such a relationship usually requires a great effort from the other partner.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">After putting in all possible efforts, there are still chances that the narcissistic partner might not approve of all you did, making you ponder if you can ever have a successful relationship with a narcissist.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Narcissists tend to make it all about themselves, meaning that even when you decide to share your views or problems, they will indirectly link all of it to themselves and consider it a form of criticism.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You will always face trouble when sharing your emotions with them.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you love a narcissist, you will always face trouble when sharing your emotions with them. As nice as they may be, they are poor listeners and often <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-to-deal-with-criticism\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">fail to accept criticism<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And since they believe they are entitled to any and every form of attention, they never feel guilty about it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/experts\/grady-shumway\">Grady Shumway<\/a>, LMHC, says<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>Navigating a relationship with a narcissist is challenging, as their self-centered nature often leaves you feeling unheard and devalued. Establish firm boundaries and maintain your self-worth, even if they dismiss your needs. Remember, a healthy relationship requires mutual respect, which can be difficult to achieve with a narcissistic partner.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"10-signs-you-are-in-love-with-a-narcissist\"><\/span><b>10 signs you are in love with a narcissist&nbsp;<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Loving a narcissist is not easy. The trouble begins right at the beginning &ndash; understanding or identifying that the person you are in love with is a narcissist. Here are some signs that you are in love with a narcissist.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. They are charming for their benefit<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you are in love with a narcissist, you will see they are super charming. They will do everything they can to woo you at the <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/starting-a-new-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">beginning of the relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While there is nothing wrong with grand gestures in a relationship, the real problem is that these actions are short-lived.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">More often than not, when you are in love with a narcissist, these actions are to make you fall for them. When you are impressed with them and love them, it gives their ego a boost they enjoy.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>2. It is all about them<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you are in love with a narcissist, you will notice that everything is about them. The relationship seems <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/one-sided-open-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">one-sided<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> when you constantly ensure their needs and wants are met. Sometimes you may feel like a passive participant in your life due to being in love with a narcissist.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>3. You feel unheard<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Since everything is about them for a narcissist, you may feel unheard in the relationship. Even as you voice your concerns or tell them what is troubling you, they do not care because it does not affect them in any way.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><em><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><strong>Related Reading :-<\/strong> <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/not-feeling-heard-in-a-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What to Do if You Are Not Feeling Heard in a Relationship<\/span><\/a><\/em><\/pre>\n<h3><b>4. Your partner feels entitled<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Being in love with a narcissist can be difficult because they feel they are entitled to feeling like the king\/queen of the world. They believe they deserve all the best things, irrespective of what costs it comes at.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>5. They love to talk about themselves<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One of the signs that you are in love with a narcissist is how much they love talking about themselves. A narcissist is just all about them. If your partner would rather talk about themselves than anything else, you may be in love with a narcissist.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>6. You can&rsquo;t rely on them<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One thing about a narcissist &ndash; you cannot count on them. Reliability is one of the basic virtues of any <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/romance\/have-a-romantic-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">romantic relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Anyone would want to be able to count on the person they love.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, if you feel you cannot rely on your partner, chances are you are in love with a narcissist.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>7. You feel manipulated<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Have there been many instances where you have felt manipulated? Maybe you did not want to go to a certain event, but your partner convinced you by lying about it or saying they would take someone else instead.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Manipulation is one of the habits of narcissists. So if you are feeling manipulated in the relationship, it is one of the signs you are in love with a narcissist.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><em><strong>Related Reading :- <\/strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/signs-of-emotional-manipulation\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">20 Signs of Emotional Manipulation in Relationships and How to Deal With It<\/span><\/a><\/em><\/pre>\n<h3><b>8. Condescending reactions<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maybe there was something they asked you to do or asked you to do a task a certain way. When a narcissist doesn&rsquo;t get things the way they want or doesn&rsquo;t get their way, they tend to take a condescending tone.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If your partner does this, it is <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/signs-you-are-falling-in-love\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">one of the signs you are in love<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> with a narcissist.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>9. No commitment<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Commitment is an important pillar of any healthy, secure relationship. It is not just about the label but about being committed to making things work irrespective of what troubles arise.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, a narcissist is never ready to commit. If your partner wants to be in a relationship without taking responsibility for one, chances are you are in love with a narcissist.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>10. They constantly put others down<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The traits of a narcissist in a relationship include the need to put others down. Narcissists do not just feel better about themselves because of their huge egos; they do so by making others feel small.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If your partner constantly puts you or others down, they may be narcissistic.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-53898 size-full\" title=\"Narcissistic personality disorder\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/Narcissistic-personality-disorder.jpg\" alt=\"Narcissistic personality disorder\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How-to-cope-when-you-love-a-narcissist\"><\/span><b>How to cope when you love a narcissist<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Coping when you are in love with a narcissist can be challenging. If you identify with the signs mentioned above, here is how you can cope when you are in love with a narcissist.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. Educate yourself<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Educate yourself about the disorder if you find out that you are most likely in love with a narcissist. This will not only help you get more clarity about their behavior, but it will also help you <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/mental-health\/how-to-stop-dissociation-in-relationships\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">disassociate yourself<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> from it.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>2. Manage your emotions<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A narcissist can make you feel guilty and manipulate you into believing that certain things are your fault. Gaslighting is also very common when it comes to relationships with narcissists.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is extremely important to <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/control-your-emotions\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">manage your emotions to cope<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> when you are in love with a narcissist.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Acknowledge your emotions, and do not push them aside, as it can lead to a lot of anxiety later.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>3. Take breaks<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Being in a relationship with a narcissist can be difficult, and coping can be even more challenging. You may find yourself physically and mentally exhausted from trying to keep up with it.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Take breaks from it. Speak to friends or family, or even a professional if need be.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Grady Shumway further adds,<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Taking breaks is essential when dealing with the emotional strain of a relationship with a narcissist. Allowing yourself time away from the relationship can help you recharge and gain perspective. Engaging with supportive friends, family, or a mental health professional can provide valuable relief and guidance, helping you to maintain your well-being and make informed decisions about the relationship.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5-ways-to-maintain-a-healthy-relationship-with-a-narcissist\"><\/span><b>5 ways to maintain a healthy relationship with a narcissist<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While loving a narcissist is difficult, it does not mean you cannot have a healthy relationship with someone with a narcissistic personality disorder. Of course, it is more challenging than a normal relationship.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here are a few <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/14-ways-to-keep-your-relationship-strong-healthy-and-happy\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ways to maintain a healthy relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> with a narcissist.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. Put yourself first<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you are in love with a narcissist, unfortunately, you will never come first for them. Therefore, you must put yourself first. Make yourself a priority and give yourself the necessary things to feel loved and valued.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you indulge in self-love, the lack of it from a narcissistic partner may be easier to deal with.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><em><strong>Related Reading:- <\/strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-to-put-yourself-first-in-a-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">10 Ways on How to Put Yourself First in a Relationship and Why<\/span><\/a><\/em><\/pre>\n<h3><b>2. Evaluate<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A narcissistic partner is likely to make you feel manipulated or gaslit. If you feel these things, you must evaluate and check if they are true. For instance, sometimes, a narcissistic partner may make you feel like something is your fault, even when it is not.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In that case, evaluate and acknowledge that you are not at fault.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>3. Be honest<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Honesty goes a long way. If you want to maintain a healthy relationship with a narcissist, being honest with them and yourself can help.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you feel they are trying to be better, telling them when they need to act right, and helping them with it can be one of the ways to maintain a healthy relationship with a narcissist.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><em><b>Related Reading :-<\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/ways-to-be-honest-in-a-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How to Be Honest in a Relationship: 10 Practical Ways<\/span><\/a><\/em><\/pre>\n<h3><b>4. Practice mindfulness<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One of the most important things when it comes to a healthy relationship with a narcissist is to ensure that your mind is healthy.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Practice <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/news.harvard.edu\/gazette\/story\/2018\/04\/harvard-researchers-study-how-mindfulness-may-change-the-brain-in-depressed-patients\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">mindfulness <\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">through meditation or simple exercises and stay in touch with your emotions and feelings.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>5. Seek help<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Being in a relationship with a narcissist can be harmful to you. If you wish to have a healthy relationship with a narcissist, it is recommended that they seek help for their behavior. Meanwhile, you can also talk to a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/therapy\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">relationship therapist<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> to keep the relationship healthy.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-53899 size-full\" title=\"How to make a relationship with a narcissist work\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/How-to-make-a-relationship-with-a-narcissist-work.jpg\" alt=\"How to make a relationship with a narcissist work\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"FAQs\"><\/span><b>FAQs<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here are some frequently asked questions about loving a narcissist.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. Can you have a loving relationship with a narcissist?<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is possible to have a loving relationship with a narcissist, but it can be emotionally and psychologically draining.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you wish to have a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/love\/how-to-maintain-a-healthy-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">healthy, loving relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> with a narcissist, it is recommended that you follow the tips given above. Apart from this, accepting the problem and willingness to seek help on your partner&rsquo;s part can help you have a better relationship with them.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>2. What is the best way to love a narcissist?<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The best way to love a narcissist is to keep the relationship as normal and healthy as possible.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is also important to pay attention to the tips above when coping with loving a narcissist. You should set the right expectations and be honest if you want to love a narcissist in the best way for both of you.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>3. How does a narcissist react to love?<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Narcissists love being loved. They mostly react positively to love and like to be the center of the universe for their partner. However, when it comes to loving, people with narcissistic personality disorder tend to see it as transactional. While they do not mind being loved unconditionally, they have certain conditions attached to loving back.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Wrapping-it-up\"><\/span><b>Wrapping it up<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Loving a narcissist certainly has its own set of challenges. Before diving deep into a relationship with them, you must consider all the pros and cons.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you are already loving a narcissist and do not wish to step back, you must try talking to your partner about how their behavior is hurting you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But make sure you<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.understood.org\/en\/articles\/9-tips-for-having-difficult-conversations-with-your-partner\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> come up with your thoughts as amicably as possible<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Avoid getting trapped into a verbal feud, which may backfire and get you into deeper trouble.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Don&rsquo;t shy away from seeking professional help if the need arises. A professional counselor or therapist can provide much-needed assistance to solve your underlying problems.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Narcissists are extremely self-involved people. And loving a narcissist is no smooth sailing! They have an exaggerated sense of self, regardless of how they may be in reality. They admire themselves for no reason in particular and are habitual in making everything about themselves. Such people can generally not tolerate any form of criticism. They also expect and demand constant attention and praise from others. These people have reached a high level of self-actualization in their minds. They may not necessarily be what they believe themselves to be. On the face of it, they show themselves to be very confident, <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":675,"featured_media":53897,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[2507],"tags":[2727],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/30817"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/675"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=30817"}],"version-history":[{"count":11,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/30817\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":103967,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/30817\/revisions\/103967"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/53897"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=30817"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=30817"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=30817"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}