

{"id":30811,"date":"2018-12-10T09:03:24","date_gmt":"2018-12-10T09:03:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=30811"},"modified":"2024-06-27T16:44:14","modified_gmt":"2024-06-27T16:44:14","slug":"let-go-of-someone-you-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/let-go-of-someone-you-love\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Let Go of Someone You Love: 15 Ways"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-30813 size-full\" title=\"3 Easy Ways to Let Go of Someone You Love\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/3-Easy-Ways-to-Let-Go-of-Someone-You-Love.jpg\" alt=\"3 Easy Ways to Let Go of Someone You Love\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Heartbreak can be the worst thing someone has to go through.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is extremely painful and a devastating time; it is similar to attending the funeral of someone you love. But knowing that someone who once loved you does not love you anymore, is not the hardest thing of a breakup. It is letting go of someone you love and finding an answer to <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/love\/ways-to-stop-loving-someone-who-doesnt-love-you\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">how to stop loving someone<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Knowing that the person with whom you shared every single thing, the person who knows you inside out, the person who you couldn&rsquo;t imagine life without last week, is no longer a part of your life can be very disturbing.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What-does-it-mean-to-let-go-of-someone-you-love\"><\/span><b>What does it mean to let go of someone you love?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Letting go of someone you love means detaching yourself from the person despite all your or their feelings and walking away because that&rsquo;s the best decision for both of you.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It means forgiving the other person and shedding all the remorse to be able to move forward in life. It means giving yourself permission to<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/love\/falling-in-love-again-after-being-hurt\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> fall in love again<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"docos-collapsible-replyview\">\n<div class=\"docos-replyview-static\">\n<div dir=\"ltr\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/experts\/kimberly-smith-lmhc-fl-lpc-mi-mac-qs-fl\">LMHC Kimberly Smith<\/a> states,<\/div>\n<blockquote>\n<div class=\"docos-replyview-body docos-anchoredreplyview-body docos-replyview-body-emoji-reactable docos-replyview-body-emoji-reactable-background\" dir=\"ltr\">The end of a relationship is a significant loss, so it is common to experience emotions similar to the stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and eventually acceptance. It&rsquo;s also not uncommon to bounce between these emotions while getting over a breakup.<\/div>\n<\/blockquote>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How-do-you-know-when-it%E2%80%99s-time-to-let-go-of-someone-you-love\"><\/span><b>How do you know when it&rsquo;s time to let go of someone you love?&nbsp;<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Knowing that you have to let them go in order to move on and be happy can be the most difficult thing a person can go through. Saying that if you love someone let them go, is easier said than done. So, can you ever stop loving someone, after they have called it quits with you?&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Learning to let go is no easy feat but sometimes you have to let go. Unfortunately, sometimes it is necessary to go through this<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/20445032\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">stage of heartbreak<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is important to know when to let go of a relationship and how to let go of someone you love in order to take control of your life and to find happiness again.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I know it may seem impossible to do since your wounds are all fresh, but you must learn how to let go of someone you love who can&rsquo;t be with you or someone you can&rsquo;t be with and start afresh.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Also, here is a video that has its own interesting take on if you love them let them go.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/ggb8C1rHQQs\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Why-do-you-leave-someone-you-love\"><\/span><b>Why do you leave someone you love?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sometimes, loving someone doesn&rsquo;t come at the right time. You might love someone but it is possible that your life is not prepared for something like that at that moment.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Not just this, you might love someone but the love could be not strong enought to hold onto the person. You could also love someone but don&rsquo;t see a future with them and hence, you leave them because you don&rsquo;t want anything temporary.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sometimes, life grants us love but you think love is not something you need at that point of time.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Is-it-OK-to-let-go-of-someone-who-loves-you\"><\/span><b>Is it OK to let go of someone who loves you?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<h2><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-30067 size-full\" title=\"So instead of being a coward, face the pain, head on towards it and don&rsquo;t hide\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/You-need-to-understand-why-it-happened-to-be-able-to-survive-it.jpg\" alt=\"So instead of being a coward, face the pain, head on towards it and don&rsquo;t hide\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Letting go of someone who loves you might be one of the toughest things to do in life. However, if the relationship is on uncertain grounds and it is no longer serving the deep purposes of love and connection, it is best to let go and move on rather than stay together and hurt each other.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You could feel the urge to hold onto your partner but it&rsquo;s best to move on before the <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/warning-signs-of-a-toxic-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">relationship turns toxic.<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"When-should-you-let-go-of-someone-you-love\"><\/span><b>When should you let go of someone you love?<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is best to let go of relationships when it is no longer serving the purpose for both of you. Check out these signs or reasons why you leave someone that show when should you let go:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You feel uncomfortable communicating your needs to your partner<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your family and friends aren&rsquo;t happy with the relationship<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You are not fond of your partner and vice versa<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You are in an<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/domestic-violence-and-abuse\/how-to-fix-an-abusive-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> abusive relationship<\/span><\/a><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You feel obligated to stay with your partner because of the time you both have invested into the relationship<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How-to-let-go-of-someone-you-love-10-ways\"><\/span><b>How to let go of someone you love: 10 ways<\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<h2><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-30815 size-full\" title=\"Say goodbye to the &ldquo;what if&rsquo;s.&rdquo;\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/Say-goodbye-to-the-%E2%80%9Cwhat-if%E2%80%99s.%E2%80%9D.jpg\" alt=\"Say goodbye to the &ldquo;what if&rsquo;s.&rdquo;\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How do you let go of someone you love? Keep on reading to find out about easy ways to let go and get over someone you loved.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>1. Cut contact<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When letting go of a relationship, cut all contact you have with your ex.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Try to do this for at least a while. Keeping an ex in your life for the sake of still being friends is a sign of immaturity. How can you befriend someone who broke your heart?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yes, it is<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/forgiveness\/how-to-forgive-your-partner-who-has-hurt-you\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">important to forgive them<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, but it is also important to look after your emotional well-being.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you do not cut contact then you will become a stop for them, they will come when they want and leave when they please.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">During a breakup, you must be selfish and think about your own well-being. Let go of someone you love as it will liberate you from the self-inflicted misery of<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC4276319\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">anticipatory anxiety<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>2. Face your pain<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The worst mistake that people make during a breakup is they hide what they are feeling.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They start to look for ways in order to drown their feelings. They find solace at the end of a bottle or tend to hide from them.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The longer you do this, the worse your situation will become. So instead of being a coward,<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/journals.plos.org\/plosone\/article?id=10.1371\/journal.pone.0217320\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">face the pain of heartbreak<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, head on towards it, and don&rsquo;t hide.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>3. Stop blaming yourself<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Say goodbye to the &ldquo;what if&rsquo;s.&rdquo;&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Relationships end for a reason, sometimes things aren&rsquo;t going well, and you aren&rsquo;t meant to be with someone because God has bigger plans.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Whatever the reason is for<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/tips-for-letting-go-a-relationship\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">letting go of a relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, <\/span><b>blaming yourself and drowning yourself in &ldquo;what if&rsquo;s&rdquo; won&rsquo;t help you heal faster.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you are<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/article\/item\/this_is_your_brain_on_heartbreak\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">going through a breakup<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> then you must be going through a very tough time but remember that this is not the end. This life is filled with beautiful things, gorgeous moments, and breathtaking places; you were sent here for a purpose.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>4. Evaluate if being friends is the right decision<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Letting go of love is overwhelming for most people.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Many of you don&rsquo;t want to let go of someone you love and hang on to the<\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/being-friends-with-an-ex\/\"> <b>idea of being friends<\/b><\/a><b> in order to keep the relationship alive.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maybe you think that this way your ex will come back, but ask yourself this:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If they come back now will they not leave again when things get hard?<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Will they stick by when they know you will end up forgiving them and eventually let them back in your life?<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul><h3><b>5. Vent out<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-75409\" src=\"https:\/\/image.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/how-to-let-go-of-someone-you-love.jpg\" alt=\"couple having a serious discussion\" width=\"804\" height=\"350\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is okay to weep; it is okay to skip work, it is normal to watch the same old movie twenty times and still cry; allow yourself to embrace your feelings completely.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Missing your ex is not a stupid thing but not venting out is.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">After you let go of someone you love, over time, your mind will settle down, and you won&rsquo;t even think about the guy or girl who broke your heart.<\/span><\/p>\n<pre><b><i>Related Reading:<\/i><\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-to-get-over-someone-you-love\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How to Get Over Someone You Love<\/span><\/i><\/a><\/pre>\n<h3><b>6. Don&rsquo;t fantasize&nbsp;<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Stop thinking about how to change yourself and make things work; things won&rsquo;t change and your relationship will not work no matter how many times you fantasize about it. If you keep doing this, you will end up drowning yourself in pain again.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So take a deep breath, give yourself a reality check and look forward to the future because there are bigger and more beautiful things waiting for you than a person who broke your heart.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>7. Have faith in life<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><b>Do not let someone&rsquo;s decision ruin your life.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As a solution to how to move on, leaving someone you love could be the beginning of something new and beautiful in your life. After <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/how-to-accept-and-move-on-from-a-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">moving on from a relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> you would subsequently, move on to bigger and better things in life.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you are suicidal then put down the blade, don&rsquo;t ruin your life because someone left you. You are surrounded by people who love you more than this one person does, so let this imbecile go.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Think about your future, focus on yourself and become the best possible version of yourself.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<h3><b>8. Practice self-love<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You are worth so much more; do not let a single person define your worth. If the relationship has run its course, and you are compelled to let go of someone you love, do it gracefully. Don&rsquo;t resist the urge to constantly fix what&rsquo;s broken.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/learning-to-love-yourself\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Love yourself<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, embrace your life and go out and live. That&rsquo;s how to leave someone you love and find light in life.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Find your passion, meet new people, and start<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/relationship\/ways-to-create-memories-with-your-partner\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> creating new memories<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and experiences. Learn to move on even if you don&rsquo;t want to. Do not let a single human being define your worth; God created you with so much love and beauty, don&rsquo;t let it go to waste.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>9. Rely on your loved ones<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your friends and family are your go-to people. So, you should always count on them whenever you are feeling low. They will always give you the best advice.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>10. Get help<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you can&rsquo;t find the solutions to how to let go of someone you love, get in touch with a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/therapy\/types-of-therapists\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">therapist <\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">who will be able to guide you better regarding the right direction in your life. They will also be able to give a perspective of what might be going wrong for you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/experts\/kimberly-smith-lmhc-fl-lpc-mi-mac-qs-fl\">Kimberly Smith<\/a>, LMHC, highlights,<\/p>\n<div class=\"docos-collapsible-replyview\">\n<div class=\"docos-replyview-static\">\n<blockquote>\n<div class=\"docos-replyview-body docos-anchoredreplyview-body docos-replyview-body-emoji-reactable docos-replyview-body-emoji-reactable-background\" dir=\"ltr\">If you&rsquo;re feeling suicidal, please call the national suicide prevention crisis line (988), 911, or go to your nearest emergency room.<\/div>\n<\/blockquote>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<h3><b>Takeaway<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It might be hard for you to think of your life without the one you love, of how to let go of your wife you love or the husband you love no matter how toxic they are.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&rsquo;s hard letting go of someone you love. Breaking up with someone you love is not easy.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But you must know that you can&rsquo;t wait forever to set things straight. Take time to introspect, understand what&rsquo;s right for you and make the decision that will benefit you both in the future, keeping other emotional aspects aside.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"raw":""},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Heartbreak can be the worst thing someone has to go through.&nbsp; It is extremely painful and a devastating time; it is similar to attending the funeral of someone you love. But knowing that someone who once loved you does not love you anymore, is not the hardest thing of a breakup. It is letting go of someone you love and finding an answer to how to stop loving someone. Knowing that the person with whom you shared every single thing, the person who knows you inside out, the person who you couldn&rsquo;t imagine life without last week, is no longer <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":675,"featured_media":30813,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[2502],"tags":[2606],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/30811"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/675"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=30811"}],"version-history":[{"count":15,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/30811\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":102553,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/30811\/revisions\/102553"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/30813"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=30811"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=30811"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=30811"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}