{"id":30503,"date":"2018-12-03T11:53:58","date_gmt":"2018-12-03T11:53:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/?p=30503"},"modified":"2025-07-08T04:35:47","modified_gmt":"2025-07-08T04:35:47","slug":"how-to-sext","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.marriage.com\/advice\/physical-intimacy\/how-to-sext\/","title":{"rendered":"What Is Sexting, How It Works and How to Do It Safely"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

\"Excited<\/p>\n

“Is it hot in here, or did your phone just buzz?” <\/span><\/i>Sexting has become the modern-day love letter—spicy, spontaneous, and just a little risky. But what exactly is sexting, how do you sext responsibly, and how can you make sure it stays fun and safe?<\/span><\/p>\n

Sexting, for adults, is about exchanging flirtatious or explicit messages and media to keep the <\/span>spark alive<\/span><\/a>, especially in long-distance or tech-savvy relationships. <\/span><\/p>\n

Maybe you’ve been wondering, <\/span>How do you sext without sounding awkward? What’s the right way to sext someone without crossing boundaries or making it uncomfortable?<\/span><\/i> <\/span><\/p>\n

Well, we’ve got you covered.<\/span><\/p>\n

According to a <\/span>study<\/span><\/a> published in the American Psychological Association, 88% of participants reported having sexted at some point, while 82% admitted to sexting within the past year.<\/p><\/div><\/span><\/p>\n

This proves it’s more common than you might think. But navigating the do’s and don’ts of sexting requires more than a clever text or a suggestive emoji.<\/span><\/p>\n

In this article, we’ll dive into what sexting is, how it works, and most importantly, how to sext someone safely and confidently. <\/span><\/p>\n

Whether you’re new to the idea or looking to refine your approach, this guide will help you explore the playful side of modern intimacy without compromising your privacy or comfort.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>What is sexting?<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n

What does sexting mean?<\/span><\/i> Sexting is a portmanteau of two words: sex and texting. Traditionally speaking, texting included an exchange of dialogue through texts. <\/span><\/p>\n

We can now send images, videos, and whatnot with technological advancements. The word sexting thus means sending sexually explicit messages through a digital device.<\/span><\/p>\n

Simply put, <\/span>sexting is sending flirty sexual messages, images, and GIFs to express sexual interest in the partner.<\/b> <\/span><\/p>\n

Couples who are in <\/span>long-distance relationships<\/span><\/a> or want to make the most of their time away from their partner indulge in sexting to feel the physical proximity that they lack otherwise. It is a great way for couples to bond and feel a connection, even being physically apart.<\/span><\/p>\n

 It’s usually a harmless way of<\/span> flirting<\/span><\/a>. However, if certain rules aren’t followed, it can be offensive and hurtful. Hence, it becomes important to keep sexting healthy, fun, and non-toxic.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>5 examples of sexting<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n

First and foremost, you need to have the consent of the person you want to start sexting with. Once you have done that, here are some examples you can start with. <\/span><\/p>\n

  1. You can always start with simple sexting ideas such as, “I can’t stop thinking about you\/your body\/the kiss\/your lips, etc. <\/span><\/li>\n
  2. If you have established a good connection with the person and can go ahead with more explicit talks, you can say something like, “I get so turned on when I think about you kissing me.”<\/span><\/li>\n
  3. If you have done it a couple of times, you can begin by asking, “What are you wearing?”, “Can you send me a picture?” etc.<\/span><\/li>\n
  4. If you want it to be more tempting, you can tell them, “I am tracing (any part of your body) and thinking about you, and this is driving me crazy,” “Do you know where my hands are and what am I doing to you?”, etc. <\/span><\/li>\n
  5. Sexting can be more captivating if you have established a secure connection between you. You can tell them, “I am taking (Piece of cloth) off while thinking about you,” “If only you could hear the noises I would make right now,” ” I want to do it in this position,” etc. <\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>

    <\/span>What is the difference between sexting and cybersex?<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n

    Before you learn how to sext, you need to understand the difference between sexting and cybersex. Sexting and cybersex are very similar but not the same thing. <\/span><\/p>\n

    Sexting is mostly about talking sexually via text, pictures, or videos.<\/b> It is done via message, a mix of sex and text, hence the name sexting. It is mainly done via phone and includes different kinds of media shared via text. <\/span><\/p>\n

    However, <\/span>cybersex means having a sexual conversation or calling on a computer device.<\/b> You can use chatrooms or cybersex websites. Some dating websites also offer the option for cybersex.<\/span><\/p>\n

    According to <\/span>Maggie Martinez<\/span><\/a>, a licensed clinical social worker:<\/span><\/p>\n

    This is not typically what couples choose to do, but to each their own!<\/span><\/p>\n

    It can also happen via text but typically includes videos or video chat. <\/span><\/p>\n

    Laptops and computers have webcams to make it easier, but now that phones too come with better cameras, people use their phones or tablets for cyber sex. <\/span><\/p>\n

    Another thing that differentiates cybersex from sexting is that you can also include the use of sex toys while doing cybersex to enhance the overall experience. <\/span><\/p>\n

    <\/span>How sexting works in relationships<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n

    Sexting can work wonders in establishing intimacy if you know how to sext right. All you need to do is to match the mood and timing with your partner. It has many benefits, including:- <\/span><\/p>\n