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Once you are in an intimate relationship, there are certain signs you’re in love with him enough to marry him.<\/span><\/p>\n

You might have even been sure that you wanted to spend the rest of your life as the Mrs as soon as you exchanged the first “Hello.” <\/span><\/p>\n

However, when you’re infatuated with a guy, you might lose your objectivity. So, if you don’t recognize the following signals in your relationship, take a step back and let things evolve independently.<\/span><\/p>\n

Here are signs you’re in love with him and should marry him-<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>1. You can (and often do) imagine the future with him<\/span><\/h2>\n

When we fall for someone, we tend to imagine ourselves as the couple from a fairy-tale, who live happily forever together. Everyone has done that at a certain point in their lives. <\/span><\/p>\n

This uncontrollable need to dream of a delightful future is fueled by hormones and the chemistry of falling in love<\/a>. Yet, not every relationship will (and should) develop into a marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n

So, what’s the difference?<\/span><\/p>\n

Imagining yourself with a man forever or considering him as your future husband can be considered a sign you’re in love. However, that does not mean that marriage is a realistic option for the two of you.<\/span><\/p>\n

But if your imagination doesn’t sound like a fairy-tale and you can look past that dreamy picture and imagine the reality of it, the arguments, the stress, the crises, and how the two of you resolve conflicts, then it is one of the definite <\/span>signs you should marry him.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>2. You can support your partner even when you disagree<\/span><\/h2>\n

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One of the obvious signs you’re in love is when you want to be one with your partner. You want the two of you to merge into one divine being, and to remain that way forever. <\/span><\/p>\n

But that’s not how it works, and even though it is one of the <\/span>signs of being in love with him, it might also be <\/span>a sign that you should not marry him.<\/span><\/p>\n

As Harriet Lerner advises, you should approach the matter of marriage with a clear head, and not from the perspective of being swept by the surge of emotions.<\/span><\/p>\n

A healthy relationship<\/span><\/a> (and potentially a great marriage) is when you disagree, but you have the ability and the empathy to support your partner in their viewpoint. <\/span><\/p>\n

Not only to defend his stance in front of the others but also to understand their perspective even when it’s directly opposing yours.<\/span><\/p>\n

According to <\/span>Jennifer Jacobsen Schulz<\/span><\/a>, LCSW:<\/span><\/p>\n

Disagreement occurs in all relationships, even healthy ones, but in lasting marriages, couples can manage disagreements effectively.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

<\/span>3. You are able to forgive and move on<\/span><\/h2>\n

Yes, you might think your new partner is faultless and perfect in every aspect at first. It’s usually that period of a relationship that makes you want to seize him and never let anyone else have him. <\/span><\/p>\n

But let me assure you he is not, as you aren’t because no one is, for that matter. He will err, he might hurt you, he will do things you disagree with.<\/span><\/p>\n

Knowing you’re in love isn’t always enough; for a<\/span> relationship to end in a marriage, you should be able to forgive and move on. <\/span><\/p>\n

Transgressions will happen; that is part of being human. <\/span><\/p>\n

But, <\/span>when you are in love with someone,<\/span> enough to give the rest of your life to them, you should be guided by your empathy and not by your own ego, because your own empathetic concerns and that of your partner can have a significant impact on your relationship satisfaction<\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

Hence, you should try to understand and to let off.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>4. You can make room for each other’s individuality<\/span><\/h2>\n

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As we already said, one of the signs you’re in love is to be one with that person. But, in every relationship, the time comes when you just can’t move as a single entity anymore; you need to have your own space and pursue your dreams. <\/span><\/p>\n

You are two adults, two separate people, who have chosen to go ahead through life together.<\/span><\/p>\n

This notion can trigger<\/span> separation anxiety<\/span><\/a> in some people. But, if you feel this way, it is a certain sign that you might not love him (although it might feel as if you were deeply in love), not in a healthy way, at least. <\/span><\/p>\n

A healthy relationship with a future happens only when both partners can thrive as individuals.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>5. You have the same future goals and aspirations<\/span><\/h2>\n

Wondering how to know if you should marry him? <\/span><\/p>\n

One of the fundamental signs you’re in love and should marry him is when you both have similar future goals and aspirations. <\/span><\/p>\n

Results from a <\/span>study<\/span><\/a> examining the influence of goal conflict between romantic partners on relationship quality showed that partners’ with higher goal conflict were directly associated with lower relationship quality and lower subjective well-being. <\/span><\/p>\n

Being on the same wavelength regarding your future is essential for you to be together everlastingly, and it is a major sign that he’s the man for you. <\/span><\/p>\n

On the off chance that you find someone whose future objectives and dreams aren’t shared, or possibly similar, you must discuss this disparity if you choose to get hitched. <\/span><\/p>\n

Otherwise, you both might end up compromising too much and may wind up unsatisfied with your lives. <\/span><\/p>\n

On the other hand, if your life goals and aspirations align, you can have a very happy and fulfilling marriage. So, no matter what your fantasies are, if they are similar, you are in the ideal relationship that you can transform into a marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>6. There is no pretense between you<\/span><\/h2>\n

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How to know if you should marry him?<\/span><\/p>\n

For starters, does he know who you truly are and vice versa. Put aside all the signs you’re in love and ask yourself if there is even a smidge of pretense in your relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n

Most importantly, before you consider marriage with somebody, know if you can act naturally around them. <\/span><\/p>\n

Unless they can acknowledge and adore you for who you are, marriage should not even be considered. <\/span><\/p>\n

You should be able to share all that you need to be without feeling judged by him, and likewise, he should feel like he can be absolutely himself around you. <\/span><\/p>\n

Being accepted for who you are is one of the essential signs you’re in love, and you might not have to think twice before seriously considering getting married. <\/span><\/p>\n

If you do get married to somebody that you can’t act yourself around, at that point, you are setting yourself up for disappointment. <\/span><\/p>\n

Marriage is a long-lasting affair, and acting like somebody you’re not won’t get you too far.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>7. You overcame hardships together<\/span><\/h2>\n

Perseverance in getting over hard times is also one of the signs you’re in love and should marry him.<\/span><\/p>\n

If you were able to overcome something in your relationship that was hard to manage, and you didn’t let it break you, the relationship will solidify further. <\/span><\/p>\n

It can be anything; however, for instance, it may be the case that one of you was sincerely depending upon the other after an awful breakdown. <\/span><\/p>\n

It could even be that there was an absence of trust in the relationship at an early stage, yet you have worked through it. If you can work through some terrible circumstances, nothing else can shake your faith in each other. <\/span><\/p>\n

You realize that your relationship would now be able to endure and thrive, in any event, when things don’t go according to design. <\/span><\/p>\n

If something that occurred between you is gradually ruining the connection between you, then that is an issue. <\/span><\/p>\n

Maybe you are simply not the type of individuals to work through issues and life’s terrible circumstances with one another. You probably won’t be the best at speaking with one another, or you may very well not care enough to work through a tough time together. <\/span><\/p>\n

Whatever the reasons are, you shouldn’t consider getting married, because life is just actually going to toss more difficult circumstances your way, and not every one of them will be positive ones.<\/span><\/p>\n

Dr. Jenni Schulz<\/a> highlights that:
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Marriage isn’t just happy times; it’s navigating the ugly parts of life together, so marriage should only be between two people who are able to weather storms together. <\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

You should be in a marriage with somebody that you realize you can rely upon and work through things with.<\/span><\/p>\n

Watch the following TED talk where Psychologist and researcher Joanne Davila describes how you can create the things that lead to healthy relationships and reduce the things that lead to unhealthy ones.<\/em><\/p>\n