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No one tells you how difficult it can be to have a miscarriage.<\/span><\/p>\n There is no manual and no training course that can prepare you for the situation or support a partner after a miscarriage. Whether miscarriage happens after a few days or 20 weeks it can be confusing, painful and upsetting. <\/span><\/p>\n To hear that your partner is pregnant can be one of the most exciting news you will hear in your lifetime. To go from that to hearing your partner suffered pregnancy loss can be devastating.<\/span><\/p>\n A miscarriage is defined as a loss of a pregnancy before 20 weeks. The cause is often unexplained.<\/span><\/p>\n According to the <\/span>Cleveland Clinic<\/span><\/a>,<\/span><\/p>\n A miscarriage, also called a spontaneous abortion, is the spontaneous ending of a pregnancy. <\/span><\/i><\/p>\n A miscarriage is most likely to occur within the first 3 months of pregnancy, before 20 weeks’ gestation. <\/span><\/i><\/p>\n Only 1% of miscarriages occur after 20 weeks’ gestation. These are termed late miscarriages.<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n While the pregnancy may have lasted only a few weeks the emotional impact is one that can be felt for weeks, months and even years to come. It may be difficult to understand what your loved one is going through.<\/span><\/p>\n Women go through various emotional effects of miscarriage in phases. There are 6 stages of grief after miscarriage:<\/span><\/p>\n Some of the physical effects of grief from miscarriage are <\/span><\/p>\n Planning the pregnancy takes months and when there is a miscarriage, the woman goes through guilt and loss of faith in life. There are also <\/span>signs of mistrust<\/span><\/a> in any kind of relationship and a constant longing for the lost child.<\/span><\/p>\n Different people react to miscarriage differently and it is important to respect those differences. <\/span><\/p>\n While for some couples, miscarriage acts as a catalyst to bring them closer, and for a few, it leads to a crack in the relationship as husband and wife fail to understand each other’s emotional trauma. <\/span>relationship after miscarriage<\/span><\/a> can drastically change and it depends on the couple how they steer it.<\/span><\/p>\n There could be frustration, misunderstanding, feeling of powerlessness in the relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n Men go through different types of <\/span>grief<\/span><\/a> when their partner miscarries. They are often overcome with an unreasonable sense of grief. This also increases their stress and puts them in a state of doubt regarding their dependability. <\/span><\/p>\n Not just this, a man’s pregnancy powerlessness also overwhelms him leading to an increased emotional turmoil. A man’s deep empathy is also goal-oriented with a problem-solving approach.<\/span><\/p>\n It is not biologically possible for a man to understand the full blow. For women, the impact is relatively more hard-hitting. What they go through is both <\/span>emotional and physical<\/span><\/a>. She suffers through a lot of hardships in loneliness. <\/span><\/p>\n It is undeniable that a high state of <\/span>anxiety and depression<\/span><\/a> follows a miscarriage. She may encounter frequent episodes of crying and various hormonal changes which can intensify the symptoms. <\/span><\/p>\n Comparatively, women dealing with miscarriage are more vocal about their loss than men. <\/span><\/p>\n Here are some helpful ways to support a partner after a miscarriage. This handy list of dos and don’ts to support your spouse better will help you both overcome the situation.<\/span><\/p>\n Listen with a nonjudgmental ear. Do not try to fix it. Know <\/span><\/i>what to say after miscarriage.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n To support a partner after a miscarriage, let your partner talk about it as much as they need to. <\/span><\/p>\n Whether the support you show is <\/span>active listening<\/span><\/a>, reassurance or simply being present and grieving together it is important that your partner knows that no matter what they can count on you right now.<\/span><\/p>\n The rule is simple. Comfort wife after miscarriage by not bringing it up.<\/span><\/p>\n Avoid talking about miscarriage with your partner. The lesser you talk about it, the better. It’s the best way to move forward, leaving a painful memory behind. Unless your partner wants to discuss it, don’t bring it up. <\/span><\/p>\n For coping with miscarriage, positive coping skills are coping skills that are healthy for you. Examples of healthy coping skills are walking, yoga, acupuncture, If you can find something that you both like and can do it together it can be very therapeutic.<\/span><\/p>\n It can also be a great time to talk about your feelings for you and your partner.<\/span><\/p>\n It will be on both of your minds, but your partner may still feel the effects of the last pregnancy still and may not feel like she is not pregnant.<\/span><\/p>\n To support a partner after a miscarriage, give your partner the time they need to grief and be at a place where they can open up their hearts and their bodies for another pregnancy. Remember that your opinion counts too. <\/span><\/p>\n While it can be helpful to wait for your partner to bring it up you do have a say in<\/span> future family planning<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n Be supportive but ask for support as well from your partner, friends or a professional.<\/span><\/p>\n As much as there is a stigma for women to discuss having experienced a miscarriage the stigma for a partner is even higher.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n While you should continue to <\/span>communicate with your wife<\/span><\/a> it can be helpful to have someone on the outside that can help you to understand how you are feeling about the miscarriage. You might not be experiencing the feelings that your wife is and that is okay. <\/span><\/p>\n Talking to someone about how to be supportive when you have different feelings can be helpful as well.<\/span><\/p>\n Your partner and you should jot down your feelings and share them with each other to vent out your emotions and avoid introducing negative feelings. Sharing of feelings is also important to support a partner after a miscarriage, make the communication smooth and switch back to normal. <\/span><\/p>\n Healing takes its own sweet time and it varies for everyone. <\/span><\/p>\n So, in case you are coping your way out of it and your partner is still in the dark space trying to handle a miscarriage or getting over a miscarriage, don’t feel frustrated as they are dealing with their own pain, struggling and they’ll definitely come out of it.<\/span><\/p>\n The mind is in a state of loss after miscarriage and it will take some time to come back to normal. So, make sure you support a partner after a miscarriage by taking care of the day to day needs of your partner, whether it’s food or grocery and every little after-miscarriage care.<\/span><\/p>\n More than doing the talking, it is important to support a partner after a miscarriage by listening to your partner and help them vent out all their emotions. <\/span>Listening<\/span><\/a> is extremely essential in marriage. It contributes to strengthening the relationship and shows your attentiveness.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/span>What is a miscarriage?<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>Common effects of miscarriage<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n
Emotional effects<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>
Physical effects<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>
Spiritual effects <\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>
Relationship effects<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>
<\/span>Impact of miscarriage on men<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>Impact of miscarriage on women<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n
<\/span>15 tips to support a partner after a miscarriage<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n
1. Be supportive<\/b><\/h3>\n
2. Avoid discussing the miscarriage<\/b><\/h3>\n
3. Encourage positive coping skills<\/h3>\n
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<\/h2>\n4. Wait for them to bring up trying again<\/b><\/h3>\n
5. Recognize that this miscarriage happened to you as well<\/b><\/h3>\n
6. Write it down<\/b><\/h3>\n
7. Don’t rush the healing process<\/b><\/h3>\n
8. Taking care of their daily needs<\/b><\/h3>\n
9. Learn to listen<\/b><\/h3>\n
10. Couple therapy<\/b><\/h3>\n